Are some things better left in the past?

[hotlatinchulo348]

I have been with an amazing guy for the past 10 months. Things are really serious and we are extremely happy with one another. However because of how awfully small this world is sometimes, I found out that his boss happens to be someone who sent me naked pics of him once when we talked on a gay social network once. Fortunately I sent none back. The next thing that troubles me is that one of his coworkers is someone that I met using the same gay social network. We didn't have sex but we did other things. (I used this social network to meet guys many months before even met my guy btw) This is all fairly recent news to me and quite frankly is stressing me out. What should I do or not do?? I'm afraid one of them will say something to my guy someday.

 

[NephilimSin]

Why should you even worry? The past is the past. If your guy can realize that you don't have feelings for these guys at his workplace and that all of that was from the "Past" then there should be no probem. I wouln't be too worried...unless if jealously was a factor into this situtation

 

[Echoes]

what would even happen if they did say something? I don't see anything wrong for what you should be afraid of. I don't think they are going to say anything but either way I think you shouldn't even think about this.
Just enjoy what you've got.

 

[hotlatinchulo348]

Thanks guys. I really appreciate the support. I guess I am just realizing how happy I am with this person and I wouldn't want anything to ruin that.

 

[racer2438]

Yes they should,

the reason I say that is you can't change the past, what happened happened, and it's done..


If it is something that happen to someone/ you and you/they are trying to deal with it now,, just let it go. Our lives are in front us, not be hind us.....making a big deal out of it may not be the right thing to do.
You can change the future by making better choices.

 

[Seasoned]

Just be grateful it wasn't his dad, brother or uncle. I'm assuming he also has a past.

 

[KaraBulut]

There's a limited number of gay people out there and it's a very small world.

No need to mention anything about the boss. You might mention casually to your boyfriend that you went out with the coworker a few times but it wasn't particularly memorable. Just leave it at that. There's no need to provide details about what did or didn't go on. If he asks just say that you didn't feel comfortable talking about the details because you didn't want to embarass the other guy.

 

[HunterM]

Are some things better left in the past? Yep. Don't ask don't tell.

 

[hotlatinchulo348]

Well as an update, my boyfriends boss told him him was in love with him a couple days ago. My boyfriend quit obviously but he said that his boss said things like "I know about the relationship you are in,.. there is more to that guy than you know.. etc etc" Obviously he is grasping for something to hurt our relationship but should I have any need to worry? I have never cheated or done anything that I am shameful of during our relationship but I am still really nervous and upset. Any advice guys? Words of wisdom?

 

[hotb0d]

well that is freaky but at least your boyfriend left the company. If you guys met on the same social network, then I'm sure your boyfriend also know the etiquettes of using that website. I'm sure you boyfriend already figured it out, but just to be safe, you might as well just bring it up just in case. Get it out of the way, it doesn't hurt to be honest. Besides nothing really happened anyways.

 

[KaraBulut]

Well as an update, my boyfriends boss told him him was in love with him a couple days ago. My boyfriend quit obviously but he said that his boss said things like "I know about the relationship you are in,.. there is more to that guy than you know.. etc etc" Obviously he is grasping for something to hurt our relationship but should I have any need to worry? I have never cheated or done anything that I am shameful of during our relationship but I am still really nervous and upset. Any advice guys? Words of wisdom?

Why don't you tell your boyfriend exactly what you said above?