Are there any bisexual guys out there

[HansPieter]

who have succeeded in only being with guys (or girls) and putting an end to being in limbo land as a "bisexual"? I am bisexual and am having a hard time picking one side and I feel that I ultimately have to if I am ever going to have a serious relationship - straight or gay.

 

[Shawn1]

Perhaps a relationship with another or group of others who have similar multi- sexual interests? I know a group of three people who live and love together reasonably successfully.

Think about it, talk about it, experiment with it, try not to judge it, and my guess is it will come to you over time what you'd like out of life and a partner(s).

Good luck

 

[HansPieter]

I've never come across anyone like that - everyone is pretty much gay or straight. I need to make a choice.

 

[anchihiro]

Why? To keep others happy?


But you won't be, if you feel you equally like both, then go after the 'individual' rather than the gender.

 

[Nice Boy]

I agree with that you should rather go for an individual and not for the gender... You are what you are. Bisexuals do exist and you don't have to "make the decision" who you love more...

And as for the serious relationship, I don't see problem there as long as you are faithful so no big deal.

That's my opinion...

 

[Willie Boy]

Why should you have to choose either or? What is wrong with being bisexual?

I am bi and my current partner is a gay male. We have been together for six years now, a little over a month into year 7. My previous partner was a straight female and we would have gotten married if she hadn't died of cancer. If anything ever happens to my current partner, or he decides he doesn't want to be with me (doubtful, as that would be the complete opposite of who he is) I may eventually find someone else. I don't need to limit myself to either male or female, I can just find the right one for me. If you're bisexual and with someone, but still have urges for others (of either sex) then maybe the person you're with isn't the one. Besides, there's always 3somes (as long as you and your partner can agree).

 

[jmadaf]

I think there are more bi than st guys, because alot of st guys like ass-fucking their gf's, I think that's the closest they can get to being gay, because their scared to take the next step, like some st's I've been with.

 

[Willie Boy]

I think there are more bi than st guys, because alot of st guys like ass-fucking their gf's, I think that's the closest they can get to being gay, because their scared to take the next step, like some st's I've been with.

I disagree about the anal sex. Although there are many so-called straights who are actually bi or gay and afraid to admit it, the anal with the gf is more about dominance than it is about sex style. Its just that he doesn't really care for her, not that he'd prefer to be with a guy, at least in most cases.

 

[BiMike]

I am afraid if you want to have a 'serious relationship' you have to decide with what sex you really want to pursue. It is only fair to your potential partner that you do not just have the occasional affair with someone of the opposite sex. The problem for most truely Bi guys is that is a very difficult to make and of course in our society it is a lot easier to pursue the girl friend route.
I am still wrestling with the problem ! Best of luck.

 

[Willie Boy]

I am afraid if you want to have a 'serious relationship' you have to decide with what sex you really want to pursue. It is only fair to your potential partner that you do not just have the occasional affair with someone of the opposite sex. The problem for most truely Bi guys is that is a very difficult to make and of course in our society it is a lot easier to pursue the girl friend route.
I am still wrestling with the problem ! Best of luck.

This is not true. Otherwise straight men would not have problems with serious relationships. Even some of them cheat on their wives/GFs. They just do it with the "other woman".

All you have to do is make a commitment to your partner, whether male or female, and stick to it. If you choose to go male fine, but you could still end up cheating with another guy.

It really has nothing to do with gender, or sex for that matter. The question is do you really want a relationship and if so, are you willing to work on it? To put in the time and energy needed to make it work.

 

[BiMike]

^ In both your relationships Willie Boy you seem to have followed my suggestion!
The first time round you selected a female partner and the second time round you selected a male partner. It seems that during both these relationships you have decided to 'suppress' your desire for the other sex during these relationships , which is just the point I made in my response to the OP!
Are you now suggesting that the solution to Bi guys problems is to have a bit on the side ?

 

[AsianDream]

I am afraid if you want to have a 'serious relationship' you have to decide with what sex you really want to pursue. It is only fair to your potential partner that you do not just have the occasional affair with someone of the opposite sex. The problem for most truely Bi guys is that is a very difficult to make and of course in our society it is a lot easier to pursue the girl friend route.
I am still wrestling with the problem ! Best of luck.

You don't neccesarily have to chose between the two.

A surprising number of bi-sexual people are in long term group or mult-partner relationships - it's just that most people in these keep faily quiet about them. It might not work for all bi-sexual people - but for some can work very well.

So you can have a 'serious relationship' without having to decide with what sex you really want - especially if you are a 50/50 bi-sexual.

 

[Willie Boy]

^ In both your relationships Willie Boy you seem to have followed my suggestion!
The first time round you selected a female partner and the second time round you selected a male partner. It seems that during both these relationships you have decided to 'suppress' your desire for the other sex during these relationships , which is just the point I made in my response to the OP!
Are you now suggesting that the solution to Bi guys problems is to have a bit on the side ?

No. I selected an individual, the gender of that individual was not the issue, the person was. As I said, one who chooses exclusively male is not guaranteed to not cheat, it will most likely be with another male. Same for one who chooses female, he'll most likely cheat, but with a female.

As I said, the trick is to choose the right partner (whether you're straight, gay, bi, whatever). If you truly love your partner, THEN you will be less likely to cheat as you will care about how him/her. If your love is for the gender..... There are many, many more with the same gender available to play with.

 

[easyroad]

who have succeeded in only being with guys (or girls) and putting an end to being in limbo land as a "bisexual"? I am bisexual and am having a hard time picking one side and I feel that I ultimately have to if I am ever going to have a serious relationship - straight or gay.

Monogamy is not about "picking one side", it's about being faithful to one person. If you're open to be in a relationship with people from either sex, you won't ever have to pick a side. If the person you're dating knows you're bisexual and is ok with it, you won't have to repress yourself - as long as you're falithful, of course.

Sounds to me like you're not ready for a monogamous relationship yet. Enjoy yourself and give it time. You might fall in love eventually...

 

[AsianDream]

Monogamy is not about "picking one side", it's about being faithful to one person. If you're open to be in a relationship with people from either sex, you won't ever have to pick a side. If the person you're dating knows you're bisexual and is ok with it, you won't have to repress yourself - as long as you're falithful, of course.

Sounds to me like you're not ready for a monogamous relationship yet. Enjoy yourself and give it time. You might fall in love eventually...

Personally - i think sexual exclusivity (monogamy) would be a very bad idea for me and for many people.

There may well be some people for whom monogamy can work - but I don't think anyone should think that this is the ideal type of relationship - some of us will never want to have a monogamous relationship and it is not something that should be viewed as an ideal form of relationship.

Clearly there is no relationship between sexual exclusivity and love - though this implies no dissaproval of those that do chose to have monogamous relationships. Though it is rather irritating to see them present this as if it was the "best" form of relationship