T,
First off, from your profile pic - you are incredibly sexy (picturing T blushing). Seriously! As for what your question is/was, my answer is yes.
I think you have found what I have found, that probably 90% of those good guys that you described above, have already found their "one". I can't recall if my age shows on my profile or not, but I have a good 15 years on you. With that said, I didn't start dating guys till I was 31....so a few years now.
For various reasons, I have been single (mainly by choice) for a few years as I wasn't that interested in the drama, and the promiscuity which seem to be trademarks of the majority of interactions I had with other gay/bi guys.
First of all my friend, do not get discouraged. Your post made me smile (not just because you are cute - again if that "is" your pic by your name above
); I want all those things that you want. I've not always been the healthiest person in terms of diet, and people do change over time (in my case for the better). I do believe that the bars, and many on-line sites offer a "quick" matchup for someone. The majority of gay guys - from what I've seen - are just wanting a thrill for the night, and maybe by the simple fact that we are bi/gay, we don't seem to know what we want and can't be loyal.
There are a few good sites out there I think, but you really have to weed through the ones you don't want. I hope I don't get flamed out for saying these things, but these are my opinions.
T if we were closer, I would grab a coffee with you if you were interested - for what that is worth (though we do have the age diff to deal with).
My suggestion would be to try and find things you are interested in. For me, I've started playing hockey, and taking better care of myself over the last year. I try to take interest in people - and besides the fact that I'm not out - I just try to keep my eyes open for potential "the one". I have been somewhat satisfied not being out there dating for a while, but I do miss being with someone, and I miss kissing.
