Are you afraid of getting old?

[EricCage]

I'm not afraid of getting old, I'm just concernd taht it's happening at such speed! I still have so much to do and so much to accomplish! OMG where does the time go?

 

[kallipolis]

When time flies, our thoughts turn to turning back the clock. Meantime, our clock keeps ticking.

 

[Tongue_Me]

I hate the idea of being ignored by people because i'm of a certain age. I'm afraid that people will think that i'm useless because i'm of a certain age. I'm afraid that i'll become even less significant in this worlds youth obsessed culture. Yeah people generally treat the elderly in a bad way, especially in the UK. I hope I would have all my faculties as an old man to defend myself and stick up for myself but the fact is the old are vulnerable and THAT is what scares me the most.

 

[happyepp]

This is the year that will really get me. I will be 50 in Dec. I know that I have lived more than half my life. (Never looked at age like that before). The Gray Hair, the Wrinkles or Loosing the Hair Dosen't bother me.

 

[CagedBird]

Hey guys, take heart! There's often a silver lining to aging. Depending on your current age, you may well look forward to a surge in libido & energy in middle years of life. Confidence & calm is also a reward in latter years. I'm catching my second wind @ 50. Sex is good, sometimes GREAT when I'm centered with the one I love.

True, aging can have its negatives, but being "afraid of getting old" is a waste of time & energy. It can also keep you from reaching your potential.

Fuck the clock & LIVE!

 

[starlight70]

I am afraid of being old. More like I am afraid of not knowing where I would be. But that does not mean that I won't live for the moment now. I thought of all the people that I will be losing, and the way I will be leaving them one day. Too scary to face, but I'll live.

 

[Swellegant]

I wouldn't say I fear it so much as I loathe it. The gray hair doesn't bother me, I've been going gray since seventeen and have had time to get used to it, but the wrinkles give me a nameless dread... and looking down at my body after the shower is just yuck... all that sagging! Goddamned gravity!

I'm not yet forty, and I come from a long-lived family, so it's only going to get worse... eventually I'm going to have to hike up my belly-skin to get at my cock. Bleah!

I just don't like change, is all. I don't like my body changing any more than I like my lifestyle changing. I fear change. But I'm making some changes now to come to better terms with my body... like losing some of this extra weight for example.

 

[eddielee]

I'm not afraid of getting old. At middle age, I'm already halfway there.

 

[G-Lexington]

I'll be the first person to say it - I LOVE getting old.

I look at every year as a new experience - a new challenge. Every year I'm alive, I feel happier, more comfortable in my own skin, and more excited at what lies ahead. Yes, there are trade-offs. I've got a bit less hair on the head and more on the back. I'm no longer horny 24-7. And when I say, "My back hurts", people no longer ask, "Really? What'd you do?" But I don't care. I like my body just fine (as do others, thankfully!), but I'm a lot more than just my body. And I'll trade a healthier mind for a fitter body any day.

Lex

 

[duroc5088]

I am quite fond of the idea of growing old with Abe and seeing where our life together takes us.

I am quite scared of the idea that when I get old I won't be able to do some of the things that I do today. Grey hair, yeah okay, wrinkles add character. I had a friend of mine tell me the other day that my Skin looked and felt like leather.

Getting old to me means that your words mean more in society and you can speak out, and be heard a little more easily.

but really I just want to be that old cowboy sitting on the front porch, with the one that he loves and watching the sun set over my ranch.

Dirk

 

[tbonez]

I'm not particularly worried about it...In fact, not that much at all.

I think what most people really fear is growing old alone. Why should I care if I get all wrinkly and grey as long as I have someone to get all wrinkly and grey with?

My grandparents are ancient... hell, my mum is in her 60's. They seem happy and content and they never complain about wrinkles or blue hair. If anything, they do get frustrated by the physical limitations of old age. Not being able to venture out for a walk on a bright winter day for fear of a fall, that kind of thing. They go on a bit about all the pills you have to take at their age. (That I'm not looking forward to.) My grandparents each take between 6 and 8 pills a day in a complex regime. My grandfather showed me their prescription bottle collection and said, with an wry smile, "Now-a-days they call taking all these pills to keep you alive a cocktail, but they tell you not to take them with any alcohol".

When I visit my grandparents you get the sense that every day is a gift gratefully received. They take each as it comes, happily putting up with the aches and vagaries of old age because it is worth it...Even if it is just to you can just sit and take in a bit of beauty like falling snow and enjoy someone's company. That prospect doesn't worry me in the slightest.

 

[Jeimuzu]

Hmm... well, not afraid, but I'm not particularly looking forward to it. I'm gonna just go a bit crazy When my hair goes grey, I'll dye it green.

 

[WYSIWYG]

Since I am one of the older guys here, I am already "old". I wonder sometimes how much more my body and mind will change as I get even older. I guess I am somewhat afraid of how my mind will stay together and what other deteriorating effects will happen to my body, but other than that, I am almost bald with salt & pepper hair, dick works most of the time but now has a mind of its own. Mostly in good health and on only I perscription!

I have also lost a lot of my friends due to various forms of cancer so I worry a little if I will be the only one left in my circle of friends.

I do not like the discrimination I get because of my age. I mostly get ignored!!!

I will say however, that if you have someone with you that loves you for who you are then life remains sweet! My husband is going to be 30 this year and he loves me and my body, as I do him. We share everything together, and I mean everything. He is the best mate I could ever ask for. He knows what might be coming and he is happy to stay by my side....

 

[Kulindahr]

I do not like the discrimination I get because of my age. I mostly get ignored!!!

I will say however, that if you have someone with you that loves you for who you are then life remains sweet! My husband is going to be 30 this year and he loves me and my body, as I do him. We share everything together, and I mean everything. He is the best mate I could ever ask for. He knows what might be coming and he is happy to stay by my side....

I hate the discrimination also, and I'm a fair batch of years behind you!

I guess I fear getting old and wrinkled without ever having had the chance to share exploring each other's bodies with someone young and fit -- a category I am slipping out of, if I have any claim to it at all. Thanks to the mess I have to call my life, I never had the chance to be sensual with others before, and since I lost about every friend I had when I came out, I haven't had much chance since then either.

I only hope I can end up with a BF in his mid 20's, who will stick with me like yours has. I'd even be happy with an arrangement like I encountered last night -- a dude who's mid-50s with a bf who's late 20s... and a third partner, just old enough to drink, because the oldest understands that youth often needs youth.

Just a few years to enjoy the delight of a smooth young body in my arms, and I'll be content that my abusive childhood didn't rob me totally.

 

[smile86]

not so much of aging, but the future in general

i hate the idea of going bald though! but the men in my family seem to have quite a good track record at hair retention so hopefully...

 

[The_Reaper]

I wouldn't mind gray hair, it seems to be a bit more dignifying.

As for the rest, I'll pass.

 

[Croynan]

Well let's put it this way, and my options are...............?

From the caves i came, hence to the caves i shall return. As long as i can bring along with me my Sondheim cd collection and my classical music collection and a long enough extension cord - all should go quite well.

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eM.

 

[ALLANKREPINA39]

I've got the grey hair and the wrinkles, etc. What gets to me is the fact that so many of those I'd held dear have died. Ive always reserved the word friend for a special few and now they are indeed few. I guess what I'm trying to say is that, while I fear senile dementia [some relatives have had Alzheimer's] I really don't look forward to dying alone. YECH!

 

[jamie_01930]

I am afraid to say that I am already there. I have been greying for several years and while that was one of my worries it really isn't all that bad. It seemed like it is an asset to have it. as for being where I am and not happy about it. that sucks.

But it does beat the alternatives.

 

[1gayguy]

Bring it on Baby!!! Nothing I can doto slow it down or stop it anyway!