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Are You More Into Guys Or Girls?

All in all, I am more into girls than guys. If I had to quantify it, I'd say I am 85% oriented towards girls. However, that amount fluctuates. But I don't want to deny my "gay" side, like I tried to in the past. It is an integral part of who I am as a human being, man, and a bisexual.
 
RRRalph said:
I don't think there's such thing as equally liking guys and girls. Eventho labelling has no use and it's all about the individual, it's a fun thing to know. I think when you (a guy) are atracted to a guy for about 0% - 10% you are a curious. 20% - 90% bisexual, 90%-100% gay. I think i'm into guys for 30% and thus 70% for girls.

How about you? Are you more into guys or girls?
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Hi, RR! ;) It depends on who I am in bed with at the moment! LOL

Before l got a boyfriend and got off the "guy market," it was pretty much 50/50.

T
 
Center said:
But I don't want to deny my "gay" side, like I tried to in the past. It is an integral part of who I am as a human being, man, and a bisexual.
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Does that mean you that intentially search for guys after been with a couple girls for not negelecting your gay side? Would you say no to a girl you like very much after being with girls for a while, cuz you don't want to deny your gay side?
 
RRRalph said:
Does that mean you that intentially search for guys after been with a couple girls for not negelecting your gay side? Would you say no to a girl you like very much after being with girls for a while, cuz you don't want to deny your gay side?
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Fair enough question. I did leave that a little ambiguous didn’t I?

I don’t define my bisexuality in terms of actions or partners really. I define it as a feeling. For much of my teen years I denied those “gay” feelings in favor of the “straight” feelings. What I mean by that is not as much that I denied myself male sexual partners as I denied those feelings altogether.

I experimented a bit in college and came to accept my bisexuality, after much agony. I like guys as well girls. I have been married for 10 years in a monogamous relationship. Some would say that by doing so I am denying my gay side. From a narrow point of view, that is correct. I haven’t had any sexual contact with another guy for over a decade. Yes, I have had desires to have sex with a guy, but I have even more desires to have sex with other women. I am denying those just as much.

What I mean by not denying my “gay” side is that when a hot guy enters the room and I check him out, I don’t feel guilty about it; neither for having those feelings for a guy, nor having those feelings and not acting on them. It is the same for me when a hot woman enters the room. I simply enjoy the feelings.

As you can see, I still tussle with these issues even today. What does it mean to be bisexual and be in a monogamous relationship? I wish I had the all the answers.
 
Center said:
I don’t define my bisexuality in terms of actions or partners really. I define it as a feeling. What I mean by not denying my “gay” side is that when a hot guy enters the room and I check him out, I don’t feel guilty about it; neither for having those feelings for a guy, nor having those feelings and not acting on them. It is the same for me when a hot woman enters the room. I simply enjoy the feelings.
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Thx for clearing that up. I have the same attitude about this.

Center said:
I have been married for 10 years in a monogamous relationship. Some would say that by doing so I am denying my gay side. From a narrow point of view, that is correct. I haven’t had any sexual contact with another guy for over a decade. Yes, I have had desires to have sex with a guy, but I have even more desires to have sex with other women. I am denying those just as much.
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This is really nice to read. I've always wondered how it would be when i will commit myself to spend a really long time with a woman. In the past i had no problem at all with a monogamous relationship with a girl. But it only lasted max two years. Thanx for sharing ..|
 
TierraSimms said:
You will always be bisexual if born that way, but you can identify yourself as gay.
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What do you mean with this. Born bi, label himself gay and living a lie? Some know they are bi or gay, some doesn't know quite well and discover some time later.
 
It's a difficult question for me. I find myself sexually attracted to both men and women, but I have never loved a man nor met one I would want to spend my life with.

However there are three women, each of whom I've known for years, for whom I would give up sex with men forever because I could settle down with any of them and feel completed.

-d-
 
closet case said:
In my opinion there is a difference. Key point being in my opinion (or better, in my experience). Everyone is different. I do not deny that men can have a fulfilling serious relationship with another man. It just wouldn't work for me.
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Ask yourself why.

closet case said:
I did not mention I enjoyed sex more with men than with women.

To elaborate a bit from my previous post, I'm able to have a deeper, emotional romantic relationship with women but not with men. It's just me.
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Ask yourself why.

closet case said:
Again, I'm not saying men cannot have this deeper, emotional romantic relationship with other men. I'm saying I cannot. I know myself well enough to know that.
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But you don't know why.

closet case said:
Also, I'm sure there are other men on these boards who probably feel the same way. Some gay men seem to get offended by this but it is what it is. I don't have any profound insights into why I'm this way. I admit it's something I ponder and try to make sense of but I'm also trying to be more accepting of it and figure out how it fits into my life.
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Good. Ask yourself why more often.

closet case said:
I wouldn't take issue with your definition of a serious relationship.

I don't see why you think screwing someone must automatically mean you're open to having a serious relationship with them. Everyone raise your hands if you've had a one night stand (with men or women) and you had no intention of going beyond the one night. I bet all hands are raised of the people reading this.
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I never said that fucking somebody would mean you want to have a relationship with them, but the fact that sleeping with one sex has the possibility of turning into a relationship and sleeping with the other sex doesn't - highlights limitations that you're putting on yourself.

Ask yourself why :rolleyes:
 
c0n0rm said:
But you don't know why.
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Exactly.

It's not as cut and dried for us bi guys as it is for you straight and gay guys. All I can say for sure is that it's not a choice, it's just biology. I react to both genders physically, but only respond emotionally to one of them. It's just the way I was built.

-d-
 
RRRalph said:
What do you mean with this. Born bi, label himself gay and living a lie? Some know they are bi or gay, some doesn't know quite well and discover some time later.
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What I mean you are born bisexual (just like being born homosexual or heterosexual), and you can't change that. However, you can identify yourself as gay, straight as an indentification of your sexuality, but in reality you are still bisexual.
 
I would say that sexually I bounce between 25/75% to 75/25%.

Basically, there are times that I want one gender, but won't say no to the other. I kind of get bored with whatever I get more.....
 
More into girls than guys but I have my moments.
If I can't get a girl then I settle for a guy to do the job nothing more than that.
 
Girls are definitely a turn on for me but aren't as easy as guys when it comes to getting a quickie.
 
RRRalph said:
That's quite a diffirence! :eek:
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LOL, I know!

It's like a cycle for me......I go for a while only looking at/hooking up with/looking at porn of one sex, then I slowly start drifting the other way. It's not like one sex is ever off my mind completely, but I definitely favor one over the other for a considerable amount of time.......then I start to drift again.
 
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