Are you OUT on JUB?

[JayHawk]

I wasnt for a long time.

In my defense the nature of my work means that previously I could lose my security clearance and subsequently lose my job based on me being an admitted out of the closet proud gay man.

Now however I am posting my mug for everyone to laugh at....... well every since this spring when ADM Mike Mullen made it virtually impossible for anyone but the Most senior officers from processing gay service members I have been out an about.

 

[swerve]

I REFUSE to OUT myself here on JUB...

My feeling is -- if I stay in the CLOSET -- NOTHING will happen to me...

Granted -- that means NOTHING GOOD either...

But -- better be safe than sorry...

Ahhhhh -- the stale air of cowardice...

 

[Lube]

I'm out.

Everywhere.

<------- Yes, that's me.

 

[ChickenGuy]

I was closeted when I first found JUB. But then, within just a few days of seeing this place, I started a long process that led to me coming out 6 months later. It was no coincidence.

I couldn't have managed it without these forums.

 

[sixthson]

That anonymity means no face pics ever.

If you use that criterion, are you out on JUB?

Apparently I am not out at JUB then. Ask me if I care.

 

[Lube]

Apparently I am not out at JUB then. Ask me if I care.

Do you care?

 

[sixthson]

Do you care?

Actually, I don't give a damn.

 

[JayHawk]

You care enough to say you dont care....

 

[12fear99]

Never really thought about whether is was out or not on here. just assumed I was on here. Maybe I need to change my pic here.

 

[sixthson]

You care enough to say you dont care....

That is a rather careless thing to say....

 

[ChickenGuy]

I was closeted when I first found JUB. But then, within just a few days of seeing this place, I started a long process that led to me coming out 6 months later. It was no coincidence.

I couldn't have managed it without these forums.

I want to expand on this.

It slightly surprises me, to be honest, that some other closeted people can join JUB, and read and explore all the stories, all the people, all the lives, all the experiences, ALL the windows on gay life that JUB opens a window to you on, and yet, as a result, NOT feel a desire, or a longing, or a wanting, to share and feel that sense of being an out and proud gay person.

It was utterly instinctive and subconscious for me, and occurred without me even realising or processing it. It happened to me within just a few days of joining JUB, 2 years ago. I even made a thread about it back then, on the Coming Out forum, where I was trying to make sense of it all.

I'd appreciate if any closeted JUBbers would be able to reply, and explain to me how they 'avoided' or 'negated' that emotional reaction.

 

[LilBit]

Quite a few JUBbers have met me in person, several are Facebook friends with me, and there are a few photos of me floating around on the boards. I don't post many pictures of myself simply because I don't *take* many pictures of myself (or of anything or anyone in general), but I don't feel the need to conceal my identity. I don't use my last name on the boards, but that's the limit of my concealment.

 

[alfaPA]

I've never understood the resentment by a few here, who think it’s an insult or cowardice... or something?? to not have your face as an avatar. I’ve had my face up a couple of times for a few days. I found it creepy having to see myself on the screen. I also think there are far more interesting images for people to see and those images might reveal some aspect of the person. If someone wants to go through the effort to view my profile they’ll find a dorky image of me…. So yes, I guess I’m out here.





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[Ram]

No, I am not out at JUB. I hope me surfing through tons of gay porn and salivating over online penises might throw JUBbers off.

 

[Ram]

There is always so much about out or closeted on JUB, but when I think about it, many of the posters here who are out in their circle are closeted here, meaning they maintain anonymity.

That anonymity means no face pics ever.

If you use that criterion, are you out on JUB?

If that's the case, the Post Count Pictures of Yourself thread has proven that some JUBbers need to be closeted.

 

[Lube]

As far as I remember, I've always been.

I wasn't. I was a paranoid whack job when I joined JUB.

 

[alfaPA]

I don't think it gets any more OUT than me. lol

I thought you looked familiar

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[derelictdarrel]

Over a pretty prolific message board, I do have a fear of people reconising me.

 

[JayHawk]

That is a rather careless thing to say....

Carelessness is next to cleanliness which of course godliness is to follow.... so what you are saying is you're an atheist?

 

[JayHawk]

You darling have crawled back in... it is all comfy and warm in there isnt it?