Are you really bisexual?

[Ryuukie]

I was once bisexual -- not anymore. I believe most people in this world are bisexual.

 

[Reality101]

Well, I'll try. Sex with guys is, for me, strictly a hedonistic pursuit. I'm into it for the sexual pleasure. Arousal and orgasm. I've never had even the slightest feeling of love or romance toward a male sexual partner the way I do towards a woman - I'm just not wired that way. I can't kiss with guys - I've tried it, and it makes me want to gag. I'm simply not wired to feel INTIMATE towards a guy, although I've had sex with a lot of them.

People have tried to label or categorize men into different types of bisexuals, or say they're just gay guys who don't want to admit it. I don't believe that, and I truly enjoy sex with both men and women, if for different reasons. Human sexuality is complex. There is totally straight and totally gay, but I suspect a great many people exist somewhere along that continuum, between the two extremes (and I don't mean extreme in a negative context).

Interesting. It's cool you tried kissing a guy and it just wasn't your thing. Being totally closed off to kissing without ever trying it doesn't make much sense to me. Why not just give it a shot? He has his dick up your ass after all... for me, I am fine with kissing and being intimate with a man. I can't see myself being in a romantic relationship with a man, but intimacy during sex just = great sex. It doesn't mean I love the guy. It just means that I can connect with him during the span of time that we are fucking. That's just me though, and I admit to not always having this mentality.

I completely agree with what is bolded. Cool post.

 

[DigitalFudge]

(LOL)

Does saying LOL is a crime?

Dear God everything about that photo disgusts me


Anywayyyyy.

Last time I did something with a girl? I don't have sex, virgin here.

No oral and no penetration.

But I messed with a chick recently, she was really fucking hot, broke up with her boyfriend.


Might try to wife her actually.

I have done more with a girl than I have a man though

 

[FPNY]

prolly about 30 years ago....i was gay when i was doing tho...i never thought of myself as bi. i have a much easier time relating to men then I do with women.

 

[secerm]

I started this thread directed to guys who claimed they were bisexual---- I had been under the impression that a certain percentage of guys said they were bisexual because they could not admit they were gay (still in the closet)---It made them feel more accepted in straight circles====Some of you do enjoy sex with both guys and girls----But is this a low percentage of guys who claim to be bisexual?

 

[wolfypdx]

Back when I was first coming to grips with being gay, I often told people I was bisexual, primarily, I guess, because I was still feeling confused. I mean, I had pretty much only been with women to that point, other than one blow job I got from a guy. The last time I was actually with a woman was in 1991, and I haven't felt any attraction to a woman since about 1993. It's been nothing but men since then, and it will continue to be nothing but men. These days, I'm gay, period.

 

[miatajim]

10ish years ago. Will it ever happen again, no clue; not like it flips me out. Like men better. Random hook up sex tends to come with less strings.

 

[JasunStrikesBack]

Who's the guy in the middle??

Please tell me you're kidding.

 

[3nipples]

I started this thread directed to guys who claimed they were bisexual---- I had been under the impression that a certain percentage of guys said they were bisexual because they could not admit they were gay (still in the closet)---It made them feel more accepted in straight circles====Some of you do enjoy sex with both guys and girls----But is this a low percentage of guys who claim to be bisexual?

Why is it so important what other people say or do?

 

[JasunStrikesBack]

I think the OP is right.

I mean even I claimed to be bisexual once.

 

[Pushyourluck]

The funny thing is when some gay guys recall their sexual experiences with women I cannot relate at all. I can't remember ever being remotely interested in the female form. For me it was a thought that just never crossed my mind. I can remember maybe as young as 4 knowing there was something a bit different about me and as I grew older, started having crushes on the boys and wanting to "get rid" of the girls. Even when I didn't know I was gay, when asked when I was going to get a girlfriend I would just say "never".

 

[wolfypdx]

In my case, I think, my sexual experiences with women came about because I didn't want to believe I was gay. I found women whose company I enjoyed for dating, and did what was expected of me. I never really enjoyed the sex much beyond the any-orgasm-feels-good heading.

 

[justsimon]

I find it amusing that, though I haven't been with a guy in a very long time, few people would accuse me of being straight.

 

[saxaphonic]

Been a while. And given that I only did it to see what the experience would be like, I didn't need to keep doing it unlike some "bi-curious" guys. I was pretty surprised how physically similar it was to having sex with a guy. Wasn't expecting that. But overall, I just wasn't turned on completely. The subtle aspects of males that attract me were completely absent.

 

[Reality101]

whoops double posted!

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[Reality101]

I started this thread directed to guys who claimed they were bisexual---- I had been under the impression that a certain percentage of guys said they were bisexual because they could not admit they were gay (still in the closet)---It made them feel more accepted in straight circles====Some of you do enjoy sex with both guys and girls----But is this a low percentage of guys who claim to be bisexual?

I don't think the majority of men who claim to be bi are really gay but claiming to be bi for acceptance. I think there are a lot of legitimate men who enjoy sex with both men and women thus being bisexual. Maybe it is easy for gay men to think that these men are few or don't exist because they themselves had the balls to not take the "easy route" of claiming to be bi. But I think that just because a gay man stayed true to who he is =D that does not mean that all or most of bisexual men are just cowards who are not following his example. In fact I have read about and talked to some bi guys who wish they were either straight or gay and not in between. For some guys it is not a blessing or easier. It feels harder because you are often misunderstood by both women and men.

 

[Under-taken]

Don't kiss & tell!

 

[DafyddGeraint]

I've never considered classing yourself as bisexual to be the 'easy way out' especially in certain parts of the world. I suppose it makes sense that especially for young gay men (or for that matter men who have been married for 20 years) when you are first trying to understand your own sexuality and find yourself torn between what you've been told you should feel by society and what you do feel, bisexuality is the 'easier' option. I've always found though that bisexuality is the least acceptable of the three in society. The mainstream can accept black or white, right or wrong, left or right, but once you get into the murky middle thats where it gets tricky. (Think George Bush - You're either with us or against us)

The middle ground in this instance is huge, from a 'straight' guy walking down the street paying a bit more than usual attention to another guy going the opposite way, to running across the road and jumping into bed with him. It's tempting just to write off bisexuals as men in denial, but that would be a gross simplification of a complex issue. It is hurtful when someone tells you that you need to get a grip and just accept that you are one thing or the other, when you know that for the rest of your life you never will be, and will be left stuck in the middle. So you can see why many bisexual people consider their sexuality a curse.

The issue of a bisexual guy not being able to kiss is simple really. It all depends on where in the middle you are and how your brain is 'wired'. You can go on Kinsey's bi-polar scale or by any other system you like but essentially there are any number of variations of bisexuality and the way in which it will manifest itself in different people. Unfortunately that means more often than not that truly gay men will find themselves with someone who is mentally or physically incapable of providing them with a complete fulfilling relationship through no fault by either party involved. I think that is where the resentment of the bisexual middle ground comes from, whilst as a bisexual you may be able to have a complete relationship with a man you may also be physically capable of having a sexual relationship but baulk at any intimacy beyond sex. It is a complex issue with no simple explanations, and not every bisexual in the world should be written off as being in denial.

 

[joshz88]

Last time I had sex with a woman was about 6 months ago, and it was great. I like having sex with women every once in a while. That being said, I don't consider myself bisexual, I consider myself gay mainly because even though I enjoy having sex with women on occasion, I still could never imagine myself being in a relationship with a woman.

 

[MyReply]

I started this thread directed to guys who claimed they were bisexual---- I had been under the impression that a certain percentage of guys said they were bisexual because they could not admit they were gay (still in the closet)---It made them feel more accepted in straight circles====Some of you do enjoy sex with both guys and girls----But is this a low percentage of guys who claim to be bisexual?

Why would you think that? A gay guy who thinks that claiming to bisexual is somehow more acceptable is only deluding himself. When you tell someone that you are bisexual, they aren't thinking "oh, okay...well at least he still likes women." Instead they are more likely thinking about how he likes dudes.