are you still chivalrous ?

[bi-4u2]

Something that really pissed me off this weekend.
i was with some friends, one of my friends (that one gay friend you haven't dated) just walked by as an old lady struggled to open the door as she was walking out the convenience store.

hes one of those guys that feels like he doesn't have to be courteous to women because he himself acts like one.

do you still hold the door open for a lady as she walks by, or let them have your seat on the buss?

Just wondering, I'm a total gentlemen.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

Of course. I'm ever ready to cut the head off a Saracen.
Or isn't that what you meant?

 

[braex27]

Yes, held doors, given up seats...etc., all that jazz.

 

[greyhorse]

Yes definitely. I think it most important to be courteous to all. Please respect all your fellow beings. It is such a pity that this aspect of behaviour has been largely lost. Regards to all, G

 

[matty20]

I will always give up my seat for an old or disabled person, regardless of gender, and help anyone in need. If I am walking through a door, I will hold it open for an old or disabled person to go before me.

I refuse to open a door for anyone (regardless of gender) to go after me if they are able-bodied and young. I leave it open, but walk through first. I won't give up my seat for a young, able-bodied woman just because she's a woman. Why should I?

 

[freefall]

Pregnant women, non-brat children, disabled people, geriatrics, all of them are open for me. Perhaps not for opening doors (since somehow the people I meet still have enough power to pull/push the door), but usually on buses or other public transports.

It's not funny to see those people damaged or injured just because they are not assisted or helped in some sorta way.

 

[Spiff]

do you still hold the door open for a lady as she walks by, or let them have your seat on the buss?

Is this chivalry, or simply just being courteous?

 

[chrisw87]

I am always up for displaying chivalry, unless the person is a turdburger, then in which case it would be a lost cause. Its always nice to meet and greet people, hold that door open for someone, give a seat up for an elderly or pregnant person.

Saying that I am not a door man, I will only do it if they are there and then or to prevent a closing door taking them out, and only if I am there before them. Unless it is for a date or if they are invalid I will not open it when they have the chance to before me.

 

[mbamike]

Yes.

I was taught to be polite and respectful of all people, not just women. If I didn't, I got my ass whipped. So, it stuck with me.

 

[Maklaar13]

Yes, I am very much so and quite proud of it. Being kind and generous to others gives you that great feeling that you are making a difference.

 

[HornyHenry]

Many places I've lived and been if someone's close enough behind us we'll hold the door open for them regardless of age or gender. If someone's carrying lots of stuff or in infirm someone nearby will get the door for them.
We consider it more of a simple courtesy than chivalry.

 

[Swellegant]

Chivalry really is a sexist concept and outdated for a good reason: it is designed to keep men from abusing their position of absolute power over women.

Courtesy, on the other hand, is a similar concept and (as has been said already) is not limited to gender. People being nice to people, putting other people first, is a timeless virtue and has nothing to do with power and everything to do with simply being a nice person.

If you see someone struggling, be it an old lady with a recalcitrant door or a young man trying to reach a high shelf, you help them. If there are no more seats on the bus or train, and your feet aren't killing you, go ahead and stand up so someone else can sit. If someone is behind you as you open a door, let them go in front of you. When you arrive to give someone a ride, you get out of the car and knock on the door rather than honking in the street. Stand up when you greet someone.

It's all very simple and doesn't require any elaborate codes of etiquette or the chivalrous sense of superiority and privilege humbling itself.

 

[TheOscar]

Of course! Even to old men. XD

I think in general everyone should be nice to each other.

 

[Rex]

I'm more courteous with women than I would be with a man, because women EXPECT a man to help them and take it as a compliment, while a man would rather do something on his own and won't expect help, depending on the circumstance.

 

[BearBoi]

The Code of Chivalry only applied to Knights.

do you still hold the door open for a lady as she walks by, or let them have your seat on the buss?

Yes, but I think that's just being polite. I also hold doors for guys, and I've yet to have one say anything other than, 'thanks.'

 

[TheFireGod]

Chivalry was made so that knights aren't too much of an asshole they already were.

That said, I'm courteous to everyone no matter gender or age.

 

[yummylongsword]

I'm not chivalrous, I'm courteous.

I'm not nice to women just because they're women, I'm nice to everyone because humans deserve kindness. Chivalry is stupid.

 

[coop68]

Yes. Good manners cost nothing.

 

[The_Reaper]

I'd like to think so...

I mean, I'll help someone open a door and so forth, regardless of their gender. I think it's just the polite thing to do.

 

[AlmondMilk]

Not to everyone...but if she's struggling, then I'll help if possible..