Are you too nice for your own good?

[Toy-Boy]

Sometimes I think I am. Being a genuinely nice person is tough, because people will try and use you as a doormat. I'm not about drama, cattiness, or gossip. I just like to have a good fucking time.

 

[GamerBear]

I'm guilty of being too nice, that's why I hardly have friends because most guys want the mean bad boys who call them bitch and cocksucker.

 

[sapien]

I am! I also try to give people the benefit of the doubt, and I end up being screwed over. The thing I've discovered is, when you're too nice and always there for people, they take you for granted. I think there's some truth in the old adages: "Nice guys finish last" and "No good deed goes unpunished."

 

[Dobson73]

^ What sapien said. But bit by bit, I'm learning to stand up more. Sometimes it comes across badly and backfires, other times I walk away and go "wow, that worked!"

I'm finding Kinesiology is helping me understand just why it is that I've behaved as I've done and continue to do. So it's nice to be breaking away from that but it's not a fast process.

 

[kevbo]

I used to be such a sweet, sweet thing
'Til they got a hold of me
I opened doors for little old ladies
I helped the blind to see

I got no friends 'cause they read the papers
they can be seen with me
and I've been real shot down
and I'm gettin' mean

 

[GamerBear]

I am! I also try to give people the benefit of the doubt, and I end up being screwed over. The thing I've discovered is, when you're too nice and always there for people, they take you for granted. I think there's some truth in the old adages: "Nice guys finish last" and "No good deed goes unpunished."

I think I fall into that category of Nice guys finish last but I guess the good thing about me being nice is that I found the man of my dreams.

 

[ozguy]

Fuck off losers.

I'm definitely a "softy" and do get taken advantage of from time to time, but I can stand up for myself if I feel that someone has over-stepped the mark.

 

[Ragoris]

Yeah... I'm often called a big teddy bear by my friends / family... I used to be annoyed by it but now I just smile . Sometimes I really wish I wasn't so nice because it... CAN be a bad thing, I'll just say that... I'm sure others know what I mean haha... Oh well I can't change it so I don't really think about it.

I think I fall into that category of Nice guys finish last but I guess the good thing about me being nice is that I found the man of my dreams.

Aww, lucky bastard !

 

[braex27]

I'm definitely a "softy" and do get taken advantage of from time to time, but I can stand up for myself if I feel that someone has over-stepped the mark.

Yup. This is me.

 

[DigitalFudge]

I'm guilty of being too nice, that's why I hardly have friends because most guys want the mean bad boys who call them bitch and cocksucker.

Ughhh

That's so hot. Never wanted a man like that but I do now.


I'm extremely two faced

Well I like to be real with myself but I think the truth is I make friends really fast and they think how I act is a sign of affection or some kind of friendship-love-shit I don't know how to explain it.

I give off the wrong signals.

And I already have an idea of who the person is I don't like them. So they come up to me and call me baby (Not in a sexual/intimate way but friendly) or try to talk to me and I turn around a tell people how much they fucking irritate me or really carve into them.

Other than that I am a sweetheart.

 

[Elwood]

Sometimes I think I am.

 

[CudDULL]

Haha def not, been there done that. I don't need to be taken advantage of anymore.

 

[Swellegant]

I sometimes wonder if I'm too nice and let people take advantage of me; and then I wonder if I'm too selfish and think that when I give the standard modicum of niceness to people they are taking advantage of me.

But I definitely have a problem with assertiveness, it even came up in my performance review at work: I never call people on their bullshit or correct their behavior, I just ignore it and hope it will go away; and people do take advantage of that, there is a class of people who have gotten through life by annoying people into doing what they want just to make them go away, and I am catnip to such people.

But I don't think that means I'm too nice, it just means I'm too weak...and am enabling the assholes so that they can wreak their assholery on others, which means I am technically not nice.

Anybody know of a good assertiveness training course?

 

[chillyboi]

it's what i've alway's suspected !

 

[FPNY]

i think i'm a nice guy, i try to be nice to everyone, but i will not tolerate people trying to swindle or dupe me. if i get the feeling that i am about to be swindled or duped, look out. nothing gets my polack up like someone trying to rip me off.....

 

[Johnbarrowmansbitch]

My boyfriend always tells me im a wonderful and kind guy - even when ive had a crap day and am being quite moody.

 

[BINOWGAYLATER]

I am! I also try to give people the benefit of the doubt, and I end up being screwed over. The thing I've discovered is, when you're too nice and always there for people, they take you for granted. I think there's some truth in the old adages: "Nice guys finish last" and "No good deed goes unpunished."

DITTO - IN TRIPLICATE -- THE STORY OF MY LIFE !!

 

[Lefty]

yeah , yeah, you're so nice you didn't even say thank you the first time let alone the second and we are both to old for a triplicate.

 

[Invidious]

I used to be..but I am learning to balance my needs with the needs of others...that scale was tipped WAY in the wrong direction for a while.