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At the end of my rope...

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Zildjian

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I can't take my lonely, ueventful life anymore.

I've tried making friends - doesn't work.
I've tried starting new businesses [after thoroughly researching and coming up with feasible business plans - doesn't work.

I living back home at 22 [almost 23] years of age with my Dad. I'm the laughing stock of the family who all view me as the 'loser' in the bunch. Others treat me like a charity case.

I have no car, and I don't live in a pedestrian-friendly neighborhood, so I feel like a prisoner in my house being here ALL day.

If I don't do something extreme to change my situation, I'm going to KILL myself. I just can't take this crap anymore.
 
Harke the Heretic said:
Is there any particular reason you should stay with the Old Man?

Why don't you move out? It helps.
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I appreciate him letting me stay here with him, but he's really getting on my last nerve! His habits [like smoking and failure to CLEAN UP after himself] and LOUD snoring [which can be heard ALL over the house] are really taking a toll on my sanity.

But I have no choice! My career bombed and I haven't been able to get a job - so I have to rely on sporadic freelance work to support myself.

I'm really about to loose my mind. I swear...
 
"23 and so tired of life..."



Your post immediately reminded me of this song.

"Could I have been anyone other than me?"
 
It can't be that bad. I mean hell, I'm dropping college to go live at my dad's house and maybe just work for a year and save money and decide what to do with life after that, either go back to school or whatnot. Luckily, my dad doesn't really live at his house =/ but he snores loudly too.

So I think you should get your dad nose strips (they work for most people, worth a try) and get a job that pays well (factory, call center, some kind of retail that gives commission, etc) and just save :)
 
Zild, at age 24, I was living with my parents, with no nearby friends, no prospects, and a minimum wage job with no future...despite holding a college degree. And I fell into a major depression that I was positive I was never crawling out of. Every evening, I watched the sun go down, and thought how completely and utterly worthless my life was. And I was convinced that nothing I did would ever change that.

I was wrong.

You probably can't see the other side from where you are. But rest assured, it's here. Trust me on that.

Your first plan failed. You took the risk, and it didn't pan out. It happens. If there was a foolproof plan, everybody would be living on cloud nine. Take time out to assess where you are now, and think about where best to head next. There IS a way up, and a way out. There ALWAYS is.

It'll be tough with where your head is at. Accept that. Remind yourself, "My head's in a crappy place right now, and it makes things look tougher than they are." When you feel especially down, talk to someone. Your parents. Your neighbors. Us here. Anywhere. Find things that help you through the toughest days. I found it helpful to shake things up. Walk a different route home. Listen to a new type of music. When you go to the library, take out mysteries instead of sci-fi. Rent old black-n-white movies instead of blockbusters. Watch game shows instead of 24. Have pancakes for dinner. Anything different.

You can do this.

PM me if you want to talk off-forum.

Lex
 
Listen to Lex.

You know what I said on your last post. You are born to do more with your life than to listen to your father snoring.

I can appreciate that you feel a little knocked down at the moment but you have to be the one to change the things that can be changed and to take control of your own life.

I suggested that you were lazy. Are you? Did you put everything you could into your venture? Or are you someone like my nephew who thinks that if he comes up with what he thinks is a grand scheme when he's sparking a fatty, that his work is done and everyone should make sure it all falls into place for him....and then is, like, so bummed when it all comes to nothing.

You are now an adult and you are going to have to behave like one. Do not let anyone infantilize you or treat you like a loser because you fail in spite of your best efforts. You are learning more about what success demands by failing than they ever will by not aspiring.

Make yourself a real plan when you are clean and sober. Get real professional assistance and mentoring to develop a sound business plan.

Get more education if you need it.

Get out and about in your community by working with volunteer organizations.

Get going.
 
Hi Zildjian, I can't offer anymore than Lex and Rareboy did, but I wanted you to know that many guys were where you are now, and thrived. It's such a matter of finding your connection, or finding your center. It'll come, be patient. Just consider this time a transition period between what was and what is to come. You'll do it. I know from your previous posts and threads that you're bright and have a lot on the ball. You're just going through a rough patch right now. I know you don't see the light at the end of the tunnel, but there is one. Keep the faith. We're always here for you. (*8*) :kiss:
 
^Thanks everyone for the kind words and word of edification.

I just got off the telephone with my only friend and we talked about a few personal things going on in both of our lives - it really made me feel better.

I really don't want to die at a young age or kill myself [I don't think I'm capable of such a horrendous act], but it just seems that sometimes LIFE [or the lack of it, per say], can be a bit mentally overwhelming. I figure that a guy my age should be out living it UP, socializing on every night, getting calls left and right, sporting a BMW, etc. Actually just a year ago, I lived in the best neighborhood in Dallas, Texas [Uptown/Turtle Creek], had a great job working for Chase in a triple A office building, dining well, etc. Not anymore...lol

I just need to stop letting my emotions dictate my actions before I do something disastrous [like signing up for the Army...lol], and refocus and regroup.

Again, thank everyone for the kind words - they are sincerely appreciated. ;)

My apologies for any spelling and/or grammatical errors in this post.
 
I was in your exact situation not long ago Zildjian. The only way I got out was to find some type of pathetic meager job to start with and save money until I could afford better things and get a better job. I spent so much of my life and money on useless things that I've had to crawl back up to the top. It wasn't easy, but once I got there I had learned so much and was a much better and wiser human being.

See this as an obstacle that you have to learn and grow from. Instead of posting on JUB, view job posts and email resumes. Look up jobs on your local ESC website, humble yourself and ask people to take you places to put in applications. Something will come through and you'll start to build yourself back up again.
 
You would do well to do some volenteer work at a AIDS hospise or at a nursing home.There is so much good in life to hold on to and those that may be close to the end know that better than any of us.Please don't give up on yourself.
 
We can work this out!

We are in the same place, although life is trying to look up for me for once.

I live with my mom, and my neighborhood is friendly.

We are the same age and everything...

We should get to know each other!

AIM: [removed]

Yahoo IM: [removed] (I prefer this, but it don't matter much)

..| Talk to you soon, hopefully ..|

And when I say my life is miserly, I am speaking the honest truth:

Don't believe in that shit-face called, "God", don't have a job, don't know the first thing about driving, and all my friends are fucking better off without me. Not a single fucking call.

Urgh.

Get at me. PLEEEEEEEASE.
 
I don't feel well today - I'm so sick.

Sore throat and coughing up green looking stuff.
 
you need to hang in there.

if you were truly a dumbass, you would have already committed suicide.

but you arent, and instead you sought help over here, and i know that you =ARE= level-headed.

keep your head up high, love. =]
 
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