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At what age do you want to "settle down"?

When do you want to be 'settled down'?

  • 18-25

    Votes: 5 9.3%

  • 25-30

    Votes: 17 31.5%

  • 30-35

    Votes: 16 29.6%

  • 35-40+

    Votes: 16 29.6%
  • Total voters
    54
i plan on settling down when i find the right person. which is really impossible to predict, although i kinda wish it would happen before i hit 40ish. im in my mid 20es now.

anyway, im not planning to have strictly monogamous relationships anymore, so for me its not so much a question of slutty-or-settled. i want both!
 
I'm 22, turning 23 in a few weeks, and have been in a committed relationship for the past year.

Despite that, I wouldn't want to be completely settled down until I'm at least 30 or so. I imagine that if things continue to go well in the relationship, we'll likely be living together in a year or two, and after that we'll start talking about the more serious things.

Though, I don't see myself wanting to have children until I'm at least 30 or so...And probably wouldn't even want to be married legally until then as well.

No real reason for it, just seems like a comfortable age to officially settle down...Although, I'm pretty much already there.
 
25-30 my life will be together i will be a bit more matured and i know what i want in life etc.


18-25 is too young imo i know people who got married and/or had kids at this age range it just seems quick right after high school wheres the time to have fun at? and what about going to school and getting a real career not a dead end job.
 
around 30-35. Earlier if possible. But I need to find someone who wants to settle down with me.
 
Jesus Christ, this is depressing... I am reminded that no amount of firm skin and party-all-night energy is worth the confusion and ignorance of youth. No offence to you firm energetic young-uns.

I am settled down (and I'm past the top edge of the poll), I settled down when I decided that I don't need a boyfriend in order to be a whole person, and stopped hunting for an LTR as if it were a commodity that you could get it you just wore the right cologne or hit the right website or spent enough time at the gym or "put yourself out there" correctly.

Coupling up is all well and good, it's human instinct to seek out a partner. But just because it's instinctive doesn't mean it's the only way... ask any vegetarian.

A lot of people end up settling for something when they commit themselves to having a certain kind of relationship by a certain age. That's the main reason more than half of all marriages in the US end in divorce; and the percentage of that percent that got married before turning thirty is overwhelming. People are getting married because they think they're supposed to, not because they understand and agree to the conditions.

The drive to settle down is full of pitfalls and heartaches. Take things as they come, is my advice. Sure, make some plans, have some intentions; but don't turn aside experience because it's not what you had planned. And never make concrete plans that will require the full cooperation of another person, especially if it's someone you haven't even met yet.
 
>>>Take things as they come, is my advice. Sure, make some plans, have some intentions; but don't turn aside experience because it's not what you had planned. And never make concrete plans that will require the full cooperation of another person, especially if it's someone you haven't even met yet.

"Plan your life. In pencil." - Jon Bon Jovi

This is the only time I'll quote Jon Bon Jovi. Other than, perhaps, to say "We got to hold on to what we got/It doesn't make a difference if we make it or not...take my hand, we'll make it, I swear." Just because it's funny.

Lex
 
i am closely approaching the age that i used to think that I should settle down. But i still haven't found the one... so keep postponing the age (to 30-35) or perhaps will settle when the opportunity comes. age is getting a bit only a number.;)
 
I'm astounded at how many people here believe in the myth of "the one" or "the right one". Getting a partner is a statistical crap shoot; you place your bet and ride. There could be a million people better suited for you to spend your life with, but you'll never meet them. Or there may be none at all, so you settle for something that is tolerable.
 
I don't think there is an ideal age to "settle down," as settling down depends upon meeting the right person and, even then, it's often not a permanent situation. I've seen some guys have better, more committed relationships earlier in life, only to have it all come undone later on. It's a difficult thing to plan ahead of time.
 
At the moment when casual dating and a constant flings are no longer a realistic option. I don't know when that would be exactly...55? 60? Whatever the case, not a moment sooner. "Settling down" for me is a compromise, the last resort before "dying alone".
 
While I enjoy sex a lot, I honestly can't say that I enjoy having sex with various people who I will never talk to again afterwards. I don't believe [anymore] in this 'whoring' yourself out because you're young and free. It has kept me up at night on several occassions. I'm 19 and I enjoy the aspect of long term dating. LTR is not likely with every relationship; however, which brings me to my next point..I don't think these things can be planned. It just happens. When we're ready and comfortable we'll settle down. Whether it happens at 23, 28, 35, or 40.
 
Kulindahr said:
I'm astounded at how many people here believe in the myth of "the one" or "the right one". Getting a partner is a statistical crap shoot; you place your bet and ride. There could be a million people better suited for you to spend your life with, but you'll never meet them. Or there may be none at all, so you settle for something that is tolerable.
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OK, I don't believe one will ever meet "the one", because there are more than six billions of humans and meeting just the 1% of people in the world is practically impossible. But I think settling down for the sake of settling down is stupid - I'm waiting until I find someone I REALLY get along with, not just some random acceptable guy.

Swellegant said:
I am settled down (and I'm past the top edge of the poll), I settled down when I decided that I don't need a boyfriend in order to be a whole person, and stopped hunting for an LTR as if it were a commodity that you could get it you just wore the right cologne or hit the right website or spent enough time at the gym or "put yourself out there" correctly.

Coupling up is all well and good, it's human instinct to seek out a partner. But just because it's instinctive doesn't mean it's the only way... ask any vegetarian.

A lot of people end up settling for something when they commit themselves to having a certain kind of relationship by a certain age. That's the main reason more than half of all marriages in the US end in divorce; and the percentage of that percent that got married before turning thirty is overwhelming. People are getting married because they think they're supposed to, not because they understand and agree to the conditions.

The drive to settle down is full of pitfalls and heartaches. Take things as they come, is my advice. Sure, make some plans, have some intentions; but don't turn aside experience because it's not what you had planned. And never make concrete plans that will require the full cooperation of another person, especially if it's someone you haven't even met yet.
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Yes, absolutely, I also agree with you. I've never liked the idea of being forced to be in a romantic relationship simply because it's what most people do. Happiness is an individual achievement, in my opinion.

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I just realized my concept of settling down may be a bit off. By settling down I understand sticking to one person, marriage-like, for the rest of your days. If settling down means stop sleeping with random people, well... I've never been into casual sex and actually I've never had a boyfriend, so in that case I was born settled down :lol:
 
i wish i were settled down in that coupled sense but considering the lousy prospects i've encountered i am coming to that point where any 'settlement' will be on a purely individual basis.

and being 40 years myself i'm troubled that the cut off age group in this poll is 35-40. its as if the op thinks that once you hit 40 gay life is over.
 
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