at what point is it 'needy'?

[backagain]

well i am talking to other guys so its not like im heartbroken. we havent been seeing eachother for that long. i just dont get why people arent clearer. speak! if you (him) want things over, then tell me! dont string me along...

He is telling you, but you don't hear it. It is the non-verbal clues.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

Guys will tell you whatever you want to hear to get laid. Some are VERY convincing. You just have to stand your ground on what you're willing to do, and how far you go, and expect some disappointments along the way from the guys not willing to settle for your terms.

Most men are pigs... you have to learn to weed those out to find the good ones.

 

[menRsexii]

He is telling you, but you don't hear it. It is the non-verbal clues.

thats ridiculous and immature. im not accepting that as a cue...

 

[backagain]

thats ridiculous and immature. im not accepting that as a cue...

Live and learn.
Good Luck.

 

[xbuzzerx]

thats ridiculous and immature. im not accepting that as a cue...

It's not about immature, it's about actions speak louder than words.

He can say you mean the world to him but if he can't find the time or effort to call or text what should that tell you?

 

[menRsexii]

okay true. i just still think its messed up either way. to leave someone hanging like that? i wouldnt ever do it. it might be hard, but id tell them what i thought, not play with their strings like a puppet.

 

[xbuzzerx]

okay true. i just still think its messed up either way. to leave someone hanging like that? i wouldnt ever do it. it might be hard, but id tell them what i thought, not play with their strings like a puppet.

Major major thing to know about dating: never assume everyone thinks and will act like you would. Especially when it comes to protecting your own feelings... no one's going to think about that as much as you will.

 

[menRsexii]

well now ive just gotten myself into a little depressed funk. im still expecting him to at least tell me its over at some point, as if i even deserve that. i know im only 20 but you know it really hurts sometimes actually. my whole life ive always compared myself to others, putting myself behind them. i was never good enough for myself, and so far, i feel thats kinda being proved in life in more ways than one. every time it seems something good might happen, i get fucked over. again, i realize im young but it still doesnt make me feel any less hurt.

 

[xbuzzerx]

well now ive just gotten myself into a little depressed funk. im still expecting him to at least tell me its over at some point, as if i even deserve that. i know im only 20 but you know it really hurts sometimes actually. my whole life ive always compared myself to others, putting myself behind them. i was never good enough for myself, and so far, i feel thats kinda being proved in life in more ways than one. every time it seems something good might happen, i get fucked over. again, i realize im young but it still doesnt make me feel any less hurt.

You're going to "wait" for him to say it's over?

If you feel it's over, why don't YOU end it?

Don't just sit and let things happen to you.

 

[menRsexii]

because i really dont know. honestly, id like it to work. i still like him and would like to continue along in the "relationship" or whatever you want to call it.

btw he just liked my fb status... is that weird?

 

[backagain]

btw he just liked my fb status... is that weird?

You have crossed over into the "needy" part.
But, you won't see it.

 

[menRsexii]

^ how is that needy??

 

[backagain]

You read more into it.

I'll leave the thread and let you have your hopes.

 

[menRsexii]

okay i didnt say anything but "isnt that weird?" ... i think youre reading too much into my post.