So last night i went out with a few friends. one of them is a guy who im planning on living with next year (i'm at uni so it'll be with 5 other friends too). So he's straight, apparently. we get on really well, and sometimes just hang out together instead of in our usual larger group. so we were all out last night, and he starts coming on to me. touching my chin, kissing me on my cheek, grabbing my ass etc. This has really thrown me, like totally weirded me out. I have no idea if that's just him jokingly being drunk and just being stupid, or actually wanting something to happen. He kept saying "should we just go now?" throughout the night, but i was too freaked out and eventually left with my other flatmate. What should I do?!
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Awkward, confusing night!
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racer2438
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You did not say if he knows your gay,
just you and him go out for a bite/drink and have a talk. Tell that you were confused at the signals he sent and just wanted to make sure what was going on.
Tell him you would like to have some fun to but you wanted to make sure.
also tell him your sorry you kinda ditched him as it confused you and was not sure what he was doing, give the fact that you thought he was str8t.
If you don ttalk you will never know..
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just you and him go out for a bite/drink and have a talk. Tell that you were confused at the signals he sent and just wanted to make sure what was going on.
Tell him you would like to have some fun to but you wanted to make sure.
also tell him your sorry you kinda ditched him as it confused you and was not sure what he was doing, give the fact that you thought he was str8t.
If you don ttalk you will never know..
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He went way too far to be joking. Does he know you're into guys? Was he drunk to the point where his inhibitions would be extremely low and he would let his guard down? How did you (and your friends) react to his behavior?
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When he asked,"should we just go now?", you should have asked, "What are your plans if we do?" Go out again and give him the opportunity. You can "come-on" to him just enought to encourage him to try again.
Blueboy369
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When he asks "Should we go now" you should smile and say 'Will you still respect me in the morning?". If your interested, flirt back. It's all fun.
oh yeah sorry i forgot to say, he knows im gay. i think im confused as well to be honest, the thing is if anything did happen, i'm still going to have to live with him next year. if he is curious, and he just wants to try stuff out i know it'd definately be awkward next year. i spoke to him this morning, not talking about how he was acting, and he was like "i cant remember much, what was i doing?"
^^ ahh the response for an evening where "I remember, but I'm kinda embarrassed/freaked/etc"
I wouldn't push the issue. Let him lead. But when he does lead, follow. Could be some hot fun!
I wouldn't push the issue. Let him lead. But when he does lead, follow. Could be some hot fun!
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I'd just play it cool like nothing happened and the next time you guys go out for a few beers I'd give him plenty of chances to repeat is actions last time. Almost all the curious guys I've fooled around with have needed alittle liquid courage to help them over the awkwardness of crossing the line.
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if you are attracted to him, try kissing him (when he's sober) when the two of you are alone and see how he'd react, if he's really straight he'd be shocked as hell then you can tell him that you thought he likes you after what he did when he was drunk. but if you're not attracted to him and you don't see anything happening between the two of you, it's better that you talk and be clear about stuff before you guys move in together.
Talk Talk Talk! Be sincere.... Say whether you are interested or not. If he trys to put you down by calling you anything is because that is the limit of your friendship...so remain in that limit if you guys can do it and be good friends....
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blackbeltninja
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Um... I'm going to be the angel on the other shoulder advising you to not shit where you eat.
Remember if you plan to live together next year and there has been a bit of awkwardness after an "accidental" hook-up, it could just sorta fuck everything up.
I'm a big believer in keeping your friends and lovers as two separate entities, which perhaps explains why I am still single.
Good luck, either way.
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Remember if you plan to live together next year and there has been a bit of awkwardness after an "accidental" hook-up, it could just sorta fuck everything up.
I'm a big believer in keeping your friends and lovers as two separate entities, which perhaps explains why I am still single.
Good luck, either way.
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If he's way too freaked about sex with a guy, then maybe not a good idea. But Being roommies next year could make for a convenient occasional fuck buddy, too, as long as you're both cool with that situation.
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Do you like him more than a friend? You've been attracted to me before?
I worked with a guy and become friend with him pretty quicky
He always teased me a lot and shit
One day we were drunk and we have sex. He never called again after
Felt a little bad after
So i don't really know what are you are waiting from this but hope the things are more clear in your head than it was in mine
And the "i was drunk" excuse it always a little easy
I worked with a guy and become friend with him pretty quicky
He always teased me a lot and shit
One day we were drunk and we have sex. He never called again after
Felt a little bad after
So i don't really know what are you are waiting from this but hope the things are more clear in your head than it was in mine
And the "i was drunk" excuse it always a little easy
sentirpromesas
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ah yes, one of the curses of being out to straight friends...inevitably one will see u as a means of exploration...
i once kissed a straight friend of mine after he was super drunk (well, to be fair we both were)...he kept saying "it's ok, we're friends"
If you aren't interested, just tell him. Or ignore it. Sometimes it saves the stress and the straight boy's ego
i once kissed a straight friend of mine after he was super drunk (well, to be fair we both were)...he kept saying "it's ok, we're friends"
If you aren't interested, just tell him. Or ignore it. Sometimes it saves the stress and the straight boy's ego
biguy732
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First - how much did he have to drink before he started touching and asking, should we go now? Also, when he wanted you to leave, where did he want to go? I think it was a little over the line of goofing around, and is now flirting. He may be acting as though he does not remember what happened because you did not flirt back and are not interested in him. When you are alone some time, just innocently ask him what he was really looking for that night.