Awkward sex...

[maxpowr9]

OK this is a story about something that happened last nite. Kind of long so bear with me.

So last nite as sort of a last horrah for the semester, our dorm had a booze cruise. It was a really great time (they usually are). Now I am pretty good friends with my next door neighbor and havent really talked to his roommate. He was this cute russian guy who i will call Niko. I figured he was gay but then again it wasnt something we talked about. Well both Niko his roommate ( who I will call kyle) and I were there and well, Niko didn't really hold his liquor too well and was stumbling everywhere. Now were all pretty buzzed but I am still pretty functional. Being a nice person, we helped him off the boat and helped him get back to our dorm. On our way back, he kept inquiring about if we were gay or not. I admitted to him I was not really thinking it was a big deal.

So we manage to get back to his room and I was gonna drop him off and head back to my room. He all of a sudden grabs his hand and takes me to his bed and he starts to kiss me. I start to go along with it and lets just say it gets pretty fucked up. Mind you there is a partition between the bedrooms. Now kyle was still in the room when we started undressing and he could hear us. He started to suck me off and I was enjoying it. I then started to recipocate to him and started saying "yeah, suck it faggot. You know you like it fag." To me, this is not 'dirty' talk and it was a huge turn off but continued sucking him off. We flipfloped back and forth a bit and I heard kyle leave the room. I then start to eat him out and hes calling himself a "pussy slut" and a "cock whore". Then I fingered him and this is basically when I call it. I pull my finger out and its covered in shit and that is pretty much all I can smell now and obviously I cannot get hard if my life depended on it. Even pretty buzzed, I know this is a fucked up situation and I need to get out of there, which I did. He muttered something Russian to me as I left, but I can figure it was not nice.

Obviously, I know Niko is pretty messed in the head (sexually) and it would be very awkward going back over there to visit kyle. We are also nextdoor neighbors so we will see each other again. Could care less about Niko but kyle is a good guy and I dont really want to lose that.

Any thoughts on what to do here would be great.

 

[EvilForce]

Why is he "messed in the head"? Maybe his form of excitement isn't your kind. Neither is right, nor wrong, just different.

If "Kyle's" roommate is gay he has no doubt heard him have mad monkey sex with other guys, so why would it be a big deal? The infamous "walk of shame" is applicable here. Don't sweat it.

 

[G-Lexington]

My question - why don't you care about Niko (anymore)? He was interesting when he was drunk, horny, and sucking you off, but when you stick your finger in him (presumably without him telling you to), and find something that isn't a big surprise, somehow he's not worth your attention anymore?

Lex

 

[KaraBulut]

Sex while intoxicated is a roll of the dice. This particular time, you came up with snake-eyes (and a finger covered in shit).

At the very least, you owe Kyle an apology.

And perhaps you need to give some thought to how you ended up making out with a drunk, obnoxious roommate of your friend while your friend was in the same room. Maybe next time, you'll be wiser for it?

 

[billybob109]

i think russians are just crazy in bed! And maybe he did not expect to of had sex that night so he did not get to clean down there. Give him another chance when u are both sober if you like him

 

[rareboy]

Stay sober.

Don't just ram your finger up someone's fudge tunnel.

That's about all the advice I have...

 

[luminum]

I guess chalk it up to a really awkward sexual encounter, as you've stated. If it helps, have you tried talking to "Nico" afterward? Has he broached the topic? Is he even out? What you encountered might have been his particular fetish, albeit a bit less inhibited because of how drunk he was and it may not be as fucked up as you thought.

If Kyle is cool with you being gay, then maybe all that's warranted is an apology for starting to have sex in his room without asking him.

Likewise, if Nico has issues, awkwardness might be diffused by just asking him what issues he might be dealing with. If you get the feeling that he's okay with talking about his sexuality either in public or behind closed doors, a sit down might be a good catalyst for him addressing those issues and transforming your relationship of "awkward hook-up" to one of mild friendship/assistance.

It may even make a funny story a few years later. "We first met as buddies when we had an awful drunken hook-up." It's certainly not new.

 

[FrankMillersTylerSophia]

Niko owes Kyle the apology, if they share a place and Niko initiated sex then Niko is responsible for Kyle feeling uncomfortable. You really cant be expected to get kissed by Niko and then turn to Kyle and say "would fucking bother you?" Niko implied it was OK with his initiation, that is between them.

That being said, you will probably fare better if you can give off a minimum appearance of respect for Niko, Kyle lives with him and really can't be stuck in between his roomie and his friend. Making any negative comments about Niko to Kyle puts him in an awkward position where he may feel he has to choose, and typically the room mate wins for convenience sake. I bet if you can be natural and easy with Niko, Kyle will feel like he can pretend the whole thing never happened.