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Bad Timing

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Absolutely.....it is delicious pain and many carry the experience through their entire lives as private fantasy. Where would literature be without this theme?
 
Oh yes....

I think it's a part of feeling alive, too. Rareboy's description of "delicious pain" is perfect. If taken to the nth degree, it could also motivate a person to change life's circumstances so that the next perfect one does not get away, too.
 
Yes, I have a little over a year ago. He had to leave due for medical reasons. I never saw him again and I doubt I will in the future. We clicked on some level and maybe it was more on my part than his, but there was a strong level of attraction that I didn't have with anyone else I've met.

The weird thing, before reading this thread, was that I was just thinking about him. I guess I never really let it go, but it's nice to know that the time he was in my life, he made such an impression, that I'm glad yet sad that I met him.

I agree with averageguy, just thinking about it, makes you feel alive, almost on another level. It's like a crush, but a little more painful, harder to get over, but yet has significant personal meaning. Bah, I suck at explaining my emotions and thought process. I'll probably laugh at myself in the future with this post.
 
I'm currently in a similar situation right now. I had previously thought my experimenting with men would be strictly physical and had no interest in actually carrying on a romantic relationship with a man. Then I met a guy who I found myself attracted to and on more than a strictly physical "I want to see him naked" level. I was taken aback as I continued to develop strong feelings for him, and he had similar feelings towards me. Unfortunately, the timing is awful as I am about to move out of the area. Knowing that a future relationship with me was sort of out of the question, he began dating someone else, and I was floored by just how sad and hurt I felt about the whole thing. As Cro-Magnon as it may sound, I wasn't accustomed to actual "feelings" entering the fray in regards to what has largely been sort of light-hearted messing around with men.

If only we had met at another time.....
 
Yes I have.

Sometimes I wonder how much of it is wishful thinking or just a need that longs to be filled.
 
Yeah... its happened to me too.

The cynic in me says that it seemed perfect because it could never be...

He went overseas to live about a week after we meet...but for the time he was here it seemed like there was never going to be a problem that we couldnt work out or an experience we didnt not want to share...

But the romantic in me says that it is possible to find someone you want to share your life with completely.

So...as hard as it was at the time to say goodbye, he taught me one of the greatest lessons I learnt in life.

That it was possible to be gay, happy, free and in love.

I owe him an awful lot.
 
I've never really gotten very far into a situation like this, but I think we all underestimate how important timing is for dating, love, relationships, etc. There are a lot of guys out there that any given guy will get along with. Where you are in life, where you're going, whether you have the time to invest in a new friendship/relationship, whether you want to invest that time are all factors that play into something actually working out.

Right after I began to come out, I dated one guy that was very closeted. Shortly after, I moved across the country to Seattle. Moreover, I knew I was going to be moving in a few months the whole time I knew him. We had a lot in common, clearly found each other attractive, and so on but the time was just not right.

Around that same time, I met another guy in a bar (and I never meet people in bars). Immediately, the two of us just really, really clicked. One of my friends who walked into the bar while I was chatting with this guy said as soon as he saw me he thought I was going to leave with this guy right then and there. Moreover, the guy was extremely attractive in that non-perfect, real guy sort of way. Again, I wonder what might have happened. It was only about a month before I was going to move, so I didn't even ask for his phone number.
 
RIGHT NOW i'm in this situation.

for this boy and me is really difficult to coincide when hanging out, i got to tell that you can say that we like each other (in a party at one of his friend's house we were asked if we are a couple more than twice) we're still dating (as friends or so), but i'm afraid of start a relationship that probably will be afected by the lack of time to see each other. I'm up to 'time will tell' but i'm not sure if by doing this i'm letting the chance pass by.... guess i have to discuss the topic with him.
 
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