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I've never fucked a dude. Played a little, but never been inside, had someone inside, given or gotten a blow job (from a guy). I seriously enjoy sex with my girl friend. We have sex sometimes a couple times a day and I jack off in between thinking about it. But, I also watch gay porn and think a lot about that as well when I jack off. So here's the question. I'm thinking of going to one of these gay bathhouses (one in the Flex chain) and I'm worried that I might be getting in way over my head. Since I've never been to one and am not sure what to expect any advice would be great.
 
I haven't been to that chain before, but in most of the bathhouses i've been in, I control what I want to have happen.
If you are really attractive, you can expect a lot of interest so you can pick and choose your partners. Set limits with them before engaging in any sexual activities.
 
I agree with Lonnie. ^ You can even go there and just watch. You do not have to participate. But....if you are truly closeted, realize that you just might bump into someone you know, so don't freak out if you do. A lot of closeted, or just curious, guys go there instead of to the bars because they feel there is less chance of being caught/found out.
So, go, relax, just use the pool or sauna, walk around and get a feel for it. Then, the next time you go, take it further and try to hook up if you want.
 
The key is to be in control of what you do or let other's do with you. I have enjoyed the one and only bathhouse here in my town; www.steamportland.com

I like it, but I maintain contriol of who i engage with and what i do. In fact, my blog on here has several entries that deal with the the bathhouse.
 
gay bathhouses (they're mostly called gay saunas outside the USA) are a really good place to meet guys and practice sex.

You may get a lot of approaches - but it's very easy to politely say no.

I'm quite short - but never had the slightest problem with guys much physically stronger than me accepting a polite no thanks.
 
THis is for anyone who is new to a bath house:::: Do NOT go there to boost your self esteem. It took me a long time to learn that. LOL.. The hottest guys in the world will be there sometimes,...and they will turn you down when you hit on them. Don't take it personally. I would at the beginning, and it would always bum me out. At other times, those same hot guys might actually chase YOU down and want to have sex. It all depends on a persons mood.
 
1) is there a higher chance of diseases at bath houses due to pos or more slutty people there?

2) is it possible to go to one if you aren't in great shape? i heard a lot of them you have to be a skinny muscular hard body to go to since you are completely naked and there are a lot of gym bodies there.
 
1) is there a higher chance of diseases at bath houses due to pos or more slutty people there?

2) is it possible to go to one if you aren't in great shape? i heard a lot of them you have to be a skinny muscular hard body to go to since you are completely naked and there are a lot of gym bodies there.

There is a chance of diseases wherever and whenever your having sex, so just be smart about how and who you play with; especially if you have no idea of your partner's status

Believe me all sizes, shapes, and types of guys you will find at bathhouses. The hot ones attract attention obviously but the beauty of the bathhouse is you get to see who is there and you can choose who you want to engage with.

Just be smart about how you handle yourself. If you have never been there, I would suggest you go with a friend the first time
 
THis is for anyone who is new to a bath house:::: Do NOT go there to boost your self esteem. It took me a long time to learn that. LOL.. The hottest guys in the world will be there sometimes,...and they will turn you down when you hit on them. Don't take it personally. I would at the beginning, and it would always bum me out. At other times, those same hot guys might actually chase YOU down and want to have sex. It all depends on a persons mood.

TOTALLY! Public sex places run hot n cold, depending on the time and who else is there. I have had sex with hot guys, like 5 an hour, and then again, hang out for hours and end up jerkin off and goin home. Last time I went to a local spot, it was late and there were just two of us....me and a real hot young dude, and he ended up gettin on his knees and spendin like a half hour slurpin my boner and butthole til I came down his throat....go figger. Varies with time, who is there and what they are about.
 
TOTALLY! Public sex places run hot n cold, depending on the time and who else is there. I have had sex with hot guys, like 5 an hour, and then again, hang out for hours and end up jerkin off and goin home. Last time I went to a local spot, it was late and there were just two of us....me and a real hot young dude, and he ended up gettin on his knees and spendin like a half hour slurpin my boner and butthole til I came down his throat....go figger. Varies with time, who is there and what they are about.

I would totally agree as some of my experiences have been exactly as you describe in this post. but as my blog attest, there have been plenty of hot times too :)
 
Chances are you will get sexed up and trust me, once you are there, ending in bed with a guy is easy. You keep walking, watching, people looking at you...suddenly, although you were not initially interested in sex, you just get sexed up. I would recommend you get a room, instead of just a locker. In case you need a space of your own, you can go into your room, lay down, take a nap, jack off, whatever. It just give you a chance to go somewhere to breathe.
 
The baths can be real experience for one thing is is private place where you can go and enjoy yourself. One can walk around and get view of what the baths have to offer. First off hit the shower first to get prepared and your first site of cock. Steam room is great place to relax view some action and jack off. You set your llmits as to what you want to do. View or take in some action. Remember to play safe and wear condoms and they give them away free.
 
Also, be aware that you have to learn to not take rejections personally, you may simply not be someone's type.

I’d agree – not being worried about rejection is really important in a gay sauna / bathhouse. Also being polite in saying no - so when a guy touches you and you're not interested - just gently move his hand away. Or if it's just a smile - just a small shake of your head is all tha's needed to signal non-interest.

If you like group sex – it can be difficult to make sure that a guy who wants to fuck you is wearing a condom – for the same reason I stay well clear of darkrooms.
 
Keep it simple but sensually sexy;

Explore the bathhouse) Whether it is your first time or been there before; walk around to feel the guys and place out.

Know your surrounding) Keep an eye on people around you to make sure they are not going over your boundaries.

Find a confined place with your interested party) If you feeling one particular person that you want hot sex with. Find a confined place, a private room or open bed. You can do what you like without the touching, meddling people.

Use condom) You don't know these people more than you know the person that designed your shirt. Even if they mention that they are negative, you have no proof about it. Don't believe the hype of a hot face or body.

Don't be standoffish or self center) Confidence is nice but it will also leave guys an impression that your a very picky or stuck-up. Just relax and know why you're there.

Mainly engage, relax, enjoy, maintain, be sexual and cautious.
 
Don't fall into the trap of thinking that everyone there is some sort of filthy deviant. All sick, all pitiful.

The same guys at the bathhouse are the ones you'd see in a gay bar, serving you at a restaurant, or selling you stuff at The Gap.
 
A good source of info is at bathhouseaddict.com

There is a section on bath house ettiquette, FAQ's, etc and a city by city listing of baths and their facilities.

Go and enjoy. Just remember that everyone is there for the same reason.
 
A good source of info is at bathhouseaddict.com

There is a section on bath house ettiquette, FAQ's, etc and a city by city listing of baths and their facilities.

Go and enjoy. Just remember that everyone is there for the same reason.

there isn't one in my state (NC). not even sure if there is a regular bar in Charlotte here either besides some seedy male strip club and some leather type bar.
 
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