gangineer
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what do people know about bathhouses?
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bathhouses?
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Use google or wikipedia.
I went to one out of curiosity before but never made it past the front desk. I just wasn't willing to pay the money for a membership and I'd imagine the guys that go there are going to be old, out of shape and just the complete opposite of what I'd be attracted to. I don't know if I'd be comfortable just walking around in a towel while horny, old queens drenched in sweat are checking me out. I'm not even fully comfortable going to a gay club due to unwanted advances from guys so a bathhouse is out of the question for me.
It also seems like a cest pool for STDs of all kinds.
Even craigslist is better than a bathhouse if you need sex.
I went to one out of curiosity before but never made it past the front desk. I just wasn't willing to pay the money for a membership and I'd imagine the guys that go there are going to be old, out of shape and just the complete opposite of what I'd be attracted to. I don't know if I'd be comfortable just walking around in a towel while horny, old queens drenched in sweat are checking me out. I'm not even fully comfortable going to a gay club due to unwanted advances from guys so a bathhouse is out of the question for me.
It also seems like a cest pool for STDs of all kinds.
Even craigslist is better than a bathhouse if you need sex.
gangineer
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if i were to go, it would probably be just that one time out of curiosity. i'll see.
have gone to many bathhouse so here is my opinion...Its like going to a bar except you have no clothing on..There are men of all ages race sexual preference..If a guy hits on you and you are not interested a firm but kind "No Thank You" and chances are he will move on...You have locked rooms so if you dont want to be bothered just close and lock your door..My "straight" friends like to go there because no fear of arrest like a city park or similar place..And the places I have been to a very clean and as for STD's..anytime you are with a man you take that chance...people can and do lie about that but why takes chances..use condoms!
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Never been to one, but from what I've found out from others, it's pretty much what you want it to be. If you're looking for a variety of "normal" looking guys, all who are interested in having no-strings-attached sex of some sort, then it's great. You may have to do some searching to find a guy who both floats your boat AND wants to do what you'd like, but apparently, it doesn't take that much effort. In general, people are relaxed and laid back - a fairly low-pressure scene. If you're not interested, you say "no", and they move on. And many guys are totally open to trying new things - if you want to move to a private room, or a hot tub, or whatever, they're open for it.
If you're looking to find someone to hook up with for more than one evening, however, it's not ideal. Yes, it CAN happen, but that's not really its strong suit.
Lex
If you're looking to find someone to hook up with for more than one evening, however, it's not ideal. Yes, it CAN happen, but that's not really its strong suit.
Lex
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I go to one here in my town; it is www.steamportland.com
I go to one here in my town; it is www.steamportland.com
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I've heard they are predominately older and out of shape, or at least older. Not that there's anything wrong with that, but if you're a young man it's probably not the best place unless you like older.
When I was single, I went. They were OK, and the one in St. Louis was well run and maintained (or at least it used to be). It can be very erotic, or it can be a bore--depending on your mood, expectations, and who happens to be there.
Know that the underlying assumption is that you're there for sex. BUT, there is NOT an underlying assumption that you will agree to sex with just anyone. It's perfectly fine to politely decline someone who doesn't interest you.
They all vary, but usually you are given a choice of a locker or "dressing room." The rooms have a crappy bed, usually, and some linen. Men usually walk around in various forms of undress, but typically with towels wrapped around themselves. Wet areas (saunas, steam, hot tubs, showers, pools) are almost always nude. Most have nude sunbathing available too, which is nice.
Many have TV areas, snack areas, smoking areas, and some come with "theme" rooms such as dungeons, role-play, etc. You just walk around, make chit-chat, day-dream, relax, do this or that, and if the right person and mood strike, have sex.
The clientele varies widely from time of day and from site to site. Some cater more to the younger crowd; some to the older crowd; some to the married crowd. My experience was that all crowds showed up eventually, and you got to know the prime time for the various populations.
While the sex is easy, and certainly safer (legally) than cruising parks, johns, and bookstores, it's always prudent to keep your head screwed on straight and practice safe sex. The last thing you want to do is get lost in the moment and do something that goes against your better judgment.
Good luck! If you go, report back and let us know how it went.
Know that the underlying assumption is that you're there for sex. BUT, there is NOT an underlying assumption that you will agree to sex with just anyone. It's perfectly fine to politely decline someone who doesn't interest you.
They all vary, but usually you are given a choice of a locker or "dressing room." The rooms have a crappy bed, usually, and some linen. Men usually walk around in various forms of undress, but typically with towels wrapped around themselves. Wet areas (saunas, steam, hot tubs, showers, pools) are almost always nude. Most have nude sunbathing available too, which is nice.
Many have TV areas, snack areas, smoking areas, and some come with "theme" rooms such as dungeons, role-play, etc. You just walk around, make chit-chat, day-dream, relax, do this or that, and if the right person and mood strike, have sex.
The clientele varies widely from time of day and from site to site. Some cater more to the younger crowd; some to the older crowd; some to the married crowd. My experience was that all crowds showed up eventually, and you got to know the prime time for the various populations.
While the sex is easy, and certainly safer (legally) than cruising parks, johns, and bookstores, it's always prudent to keep your head screwed on straight and practice safe sex. The last thing you want to do is get lost in the moment and do something that goes against your better judgment.
Good luck! If you go, report back and let us know how it went.
gangineer
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i meant to put this under a different section. oh well. it doesn't matter. haven't done it yet.
Well, when I was trying to decide whether to come out three years ago, some guys on this site told me I should go to "Steamworks" in Chicago. I had never been to a bathhouse; I had never really heard much of them but I wanted to know if I was really attracted to guys and would I be attractive to guys.
I remember walking in the front door -- scared to shit. The young man at the front counter was very cute and he smiled and kind of flirted a little (he flirted a little more later). I was given a key to a locker and towel (didn't know about the "private changing rooms" at the time). There are lockers just like at a gym and there are "private changing rooms that have what looks like a bed on which one could choose to lay on or do other sexual things! The rooms usually have a mirror and some had TV's with various porn channels.
I remember taking off my clothes and kind of watching what other guys were doing....putting on a towel and nothing else. You then set out and walk around, see if someone interests you and approach them if they do. There are "signs" that one gives like pushing the door slightly shut or turning your head if not interested.
There were young guys, older guys, fat guys, skinny guys, twinks, and everything in between. I thought I had died and went to heaven. There was a sling; there were glory holes; there were little rooms in which one could hook up and open beds that you could choose to hook up upon.
I also dated a guy who worked at one in DC and got to check it out. It was pretty much private rooms (large and small) and a locker area. It had a dry sauna and a steam room, an open shower area, and a tanning bed. No glory holes or slings!
I know the one in DC was very well run and the owner used to jump staff if things weren't maintained and cleaned properly. Condoms are available all over and, if you are going to hump, make sure to cover the stump. It is a good rule no matter if you are having sex in a bathhouse, after a club, or if you meet on Craigslist.
I would invest in a pair of cheap flip flops and I took my own condoms and lube (although you can buy lube and other things at the bathhouse like toothpaste, mouthwash, etc.)
I know when I would have dinner with Roger when he was working (and stop all those dirty thoughts -- staff does get to eat normally!) there were all kinds of guys who came in. There were quite a few military and a number of diplomatic people. The older guys usually came in early and the twinks (who were usually buzzed on booze or something else) staggered in after 1 or 2 a.m. Many crashed in the rooms or brought someone from the bar that they had met (and perhaps couldn't take home or back to the dorm).
There are showers with soap but it is quite strong and not exactly "Dove." I would take my own soap and products.
I know when I was in Milan I went to a bar that was also a bathhouse, as it turned out. I wondered when I went in why quite a few people were in towels -- they also had a pool and hot tub, served food, etc. And when I wanted to know if I should stay in a "clothing optional" resort in Ft. Lauderdale, someone here suggested I check out the bathhouse first and see if I liked it. I can't remember the name of it, but it had a huge outdoor pool, private cabanas around the pool, lots of lounge chairs, and had a buffet on the day I was there. There was also a huge workout room/gym and had the standard changing rooms and locker room. I think the guys were much more cute at the bathhouse than at the clothing option resort I ended choosing and it was far cheaper! I never had a problem with unwanted advances but had plenty of others! ha..ha!
I remember walking in the front door -- scared to shit. The young man at the front counter was very cute and he smiled and kind of flirted a little (he flirted a little more later). I was given a key to a locker and towel (didn't know about the "private changing rooms" at the time). There are lockers just like at a gym and there are "private changing rooms that have what looks like a bed on which one could choose to lay on or do other sexual things! The rooms usually have a mirror and some had TV's with various porn channels.
I remember taking off my clothes and kind of watching what other guys were doing....putting on a towel and nothing else. You then set out and walk around, see if someone interests you and approach them if they do. There are "signs" that one gives like pushing the door slightly shut or turning your head if not interested.
There were young guys, older guys, fat guys, skinny guys, twinks, and everything in between. I thought I had died and went to heaven. There was a sling; there were glory holes; there were little rooms in which one could hook up and open beds that you could choose to hook up upon.
I also dated a guy who worked at one in DC and got to check it out. It was pretty much private rooms (large and small) and a locker area. It had a dry sauna and a steam room, an open shower area, and a tanning bed. No glory holes or slings!
I know the one in DC was very well run and the owner used to jump staff if things weren't maintained and cleaned properly. Condoms are available all over and, if you are going to hump, make sure to cover the stump. It is a good rule no matter if you are having sex in a bathhouse, after a club, or if you meet on Craigslist.
I would invest in a pair of cheap flip flops and I took my own condoms and lube (although you can buy lube and other things at the bathhouse like toothpaste, mouthwash, etc.)
I know when I would have dinner with Roger when he was working (and stop all those dirty thoughts -- staff does get to eat normally!) there were all kinds of guys who came in. There were quite a few military and a number of diplomatic people. The older guys usually came in early and the twinks (who were usually buzzed on booze or something else) staggered in after 1 or 2 a.m. Many crashed in the rooms or brought someone from the bar that they had met (and perhaps couldn't take home or back to the dorm).
There are showers with soap but it is quite strong and not exactly "Dove." I would take my own soap and products.
I know when I was in Milan I went to a bar that was also a bathhouse, as it turned out. I wondered when I went in why quite a few people were in towels -- they also had a pool and hot tub, served food, etc. And when I wanted to know if I should stay in a "clothing optional" resort in Ft. Lauderdale, someone here suggested I check out the bathhouse first and see if I liked it. I can't remember the name of it, but it had a huge outdoor pool, private cabanas around the pool, lots of lounge chairs, and had a buffet on the day I was there. There was also a huge workout room/gym and had the standard changing rooms and locker room. I think the guys were much more cute at the bathhouse than at the clothing option resort I ended choosing and it was far cheaper! I never had a problem with unwanted advances but had plenty of others! ha..ha!
gangineer
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yeah, there's a steamworks here, so that's where i'll go if i go.
gangineer
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yeah, so i decided to try it. to see what it was like. i thought i was going when it wouldn't be busy, but there were a LOT of people. it was very dark, a lot of people. there were a lot of much older guys, in their 60s and 70s, maybe even 80s. and i know that's not a place you have to feel modest in, or like you have to cover yourself, but with so many people, all looking for sex, i felt much more modest than i usually would've. like, i found this one guy, he seemed nice, we talked for a bit, i found out a few things about him. neither of us had a room, so we found a stall you could lock with a glory hole, and placed a towel over the hole, so it would be more private, bu people kept looking in over the door and pulling down the towel, which i didnt mind too much, it just wasa weird feeling to be with a guy while people watched. i ended up seing him again then next day and am seeing him again on friday. so, i found someone interesting who seems more or less like me, but don't see myself going back.