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BDSM makes me cry

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Xzilla7

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Occasionally I'll try to watch a BDSM porn, and I can't do it. I start crying because I feel like it's really hurting the people. Is this normal or am I just a total pussy?
 
It upsets me too. I find it very disquieting.
 
I never watch str8 porn, even occasionnally. It totally depresses me.

Do like me.

I don't see what makes you cry in bdsm.
 
Well I am such a men you can watch being suspended, whipped or tortured somehow. I enjoy erotic torture, real pain on my body. The pleasure is mutual as the other guy gets turned on watching the effect of inflicting pain on the vunerable body. These pain Masters are in general too carefull to avoid injuries and as submissive I really beg to do harder, longer, stronger or more brutal.

Yes the pain is real: a leather whip that hits my skin is a streaming pain feeling that shakes my body, being hang in ropes, getting hot wax rained on my bare skin, wearing nipple clamps, dragged naked into stinging nettles, etc, etc it all really hurts.


The video frame close up shows how a leather belt smashes itself into my skin while I'm tied with my hands above my head. The Master was a farmer and used to deal with cattle, I enjoyed it and he enjoyed his role. If I would stand naked in front of you, begging you to hit me with a bull whip, would you just leave me without even trying?

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iiiset said:
You just need to be aware that it's a feeling, not a policy judgment.
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I can only agree with that: sexuality is about feelings, erotic feelings which prove to be a complete universe of tastes, including very bizarre preferences. I show and describe the way I happen to be, I know I'm a rather weird sexual nature but that's just the way it is. If being out as gay seems difficult for many imagine what it is to be open about my sm nature
 
i have never been in a sm nature its not really my cup of tea.. i think sex between 2 people should not have pain involve...sex is suppose to make 2 people feel good. as long its between 2 that are in love...thats how i feel about it and i am not going to apolozie for it either.
 
manfromtenneessee said:
i have never been in a sm nature its not really my cup of tea.. i think sex between 2 people should not have pain involve...sex is suppose to make 2 people feel good. as long its between 2 that are in love...thats how i feel about it and i am not going to apolozie for it either.
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No need ever to apologize for a personal opinion, that's your absolute right of freedom of speach, however I think your perception of sexual awareness is rather narrow. If pain is just fully part of that feeling good, sm even fits in your view.
 
A lot of people enjoy pain during sex, some just enjoy pain by itself. While others think pain during sex is outlandish. Though I fit into the category of enjoying pain without even having sex itself... to each their own.
 
sm8591 said:
If I would stand naked in front of you, begging you to hit me with a bull whip, would you just leave me without even trying?
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I would probably administer first aid and call somebody.

How could anyone enjoy excruciating pain? It doesn't look like they're enjoying it at all, and watching it wrenches my chest with torment. I feel like I'm watching a rape in progress and start bawling. Any sexual arousal leaves my body almost instantly. This always confuses me because the descriptions always sound like it's going to be hot but it never is, at least not to me. And the victims, sometimes, will try to assure viewers at the end that they were enjoying it. I just can't watch.
 
Xzilla7 said:
I would probably administer first aid and call somebody.

How could anyone enjoy excruciating pain? It doesn't look like they're enjoying it at all, and watching it wrenches my chest with torment. I feel like I'm watching a rape in progress and start bawling. Any sexual arousal leaves my body almost instantly. This always confuses me because the descriptions always sound like it's going to be hot but it never is, at least not to me. And the victims, sometimes, will try to assure viewers at the end that they were enjoying it. I just can't watch.
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I can understand where you are coming from. I personally enjoy S&M a lot. I am currently in a master/slave relationship, and I enjoy it a lot. Sure when I get whipped, I do cry out in pain, and though it may seem like I'm not enjoying it, I really am. I'm currently in a chastity device, so during the punishment sessions, I don't even get to look forward to release; but that just enhances the feelings of arousal more. The feelings of helplessness, and total submission and vulnerability make me really sexually excited. For my partner/master, it's not so much the infliction of pain that makes him aroused, it's the fact that he has total control over me, and that I willingly give up all power to him that gets him aroused.
 
I enjoyed self torture ever since my puberty began, I had never heard about SM at that time.
 
Xzilla7 I have the same feelings as you regarding the subject. Pain is a turn off for me, period.I have such a visceral reaction to BDSM and body mutilation that if I even come across some of it by accident it will seriously disturb me to the point of having bad dreams about it! You are not alone. :)
 
Must be deeo inside a human nature and one has it or hasn't at all. I guess you can't imagine I pulled sexing needles through my nipples to enjoy masturbating better.
 
I have to say.... if you dont like it dont watch it. Its not like it hardcore BDSM will crop up in your fave soap opera
 
Blackrabbit35 said:
I have to say.... if you dont like it dont watch it. Its not like it hardcore BDSM will crop up in your fave soap opera
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Indeed, nobody should go watch BDSM scenes if not able to enjoy it. But like any erotic aspect, BDSM should be an open topic without shame or secrets. I try to get this lifestyle in the open discussion, hoping that it gets at least tolerated.
 
To me it's all about head-space, if the environment is right and I can go deep enough into sub-space then I start turning masochistic, otherwise I can internalize pain but I get nothing from it.

I learned a long time ago not to slip into sub-space when getting a tattoo unless the artist is expressly cool with it.
 
iiiset said:
As gay people, we should be very good at understanding that other people may have sexual desires and interests that may be foreign to us or even seem revolting to us. Unless a different sexuality leads someone to harm someone else who is not a consenting adult, we should not judge or shun anyone.

But reacting with distaste to the thought of sexuality not in the small box of what you're into is not abnormal. You just need to be aware that it's a feeling, not a policy judgment.
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Extremely well-spoken! ..|
 
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