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Been dating this guy to find out...

Hey boy

You ask - how does one begin to trust another? And you say you are working on your trust issues with a therapist.

I think the answer is that you begin by trusting yourself: trusting your judgement, your instincts, your ability to choose appropriate responses, your ability to say 'no'. You need to start believing that you're a worthwhile person and begin collecting evidence that supports that view.

You've had some unfortunate man-2-man experiences in the past. Those experiences resulted from choices you made, but that was then, this is now. And now you have the opportunity to make different choices. Different choices create different results.
 
The hell with the trust issues, if you don't trust the guy.......it's likely because he's not trustworthy. I agree with ahotjock71 and disagree totally with Dr. Beat, the guy didn't agree to a hook up just because he fantasizes, he was planning of hooking up.
There is nothing wrong with checking out the integrity of a potential life partner, one with any integrity would have turned down the hook up and let the guy requesting the hook up that he's seeing a great guy and wouldn't want to do anything at all to jeopordize the relationship...period. This guy was just a dog. When my life and health are at stake I'd do what I could too, to find the right guy with the right set of morales.
 
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