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been offered first time sex with a friend should i take it ?

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Okay so im currently a virgin and i have been offered sex the gay im speaking to seems really nice and mature.

im slowly coming to terms with the fact that i could be bi-sexuall. I have had fantasies for a while now about having sex and really want to try it but im worried i may regret it after and that being gay might no actually be for me. But on the other hand im also thinking i only live once and its worth a try and if its not for me then are just move on plus the guy is hung !!! :sex:

any advice would be great
 
I meet him online he lives about 10 miles away from me and with have been mailing for a few weeks ive seen photos of him and stuff.

and yeah im a virgin with both sex's but have had foreplay with a female before.
 
Costa7 said:
I meet him online he lives about 10 miles away from me and with have been mailing for a few weeks ive seen photos of him and stuff.

and yeah im a virgin with both sex's but have had foreplay with a female before.
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I would caution you against having sex with some stranger off the net, you've never met before. Meet him if you must, just for coffee, no sex. Don't put yourself in a situation where you feel forced to have sex, hence meeting for coffee / drink first. If he's not willing to do this, then he isn't the right one for you to have your first sexual experience with. Then, after you go home, think it over, and decide you still want to sleep with him, make another "date" with him to do so.

Once you have some experience, then meeting up for sex off the internet is reasonable. But right now, you don't have the internal radar most of us with experience have when a red flag goes up. What about just meeting up with some guys off the net to go out on dates with vs. jumping right into sex? Any gay friends? Gay relatives?

Your first time probably isn't going to be some magical, fairy tale come true, so I'm not preaching that your first time should be "special". I would just prefer your first time to be safe, and average, with the potential of having the guy you just had sex with, sticking around for awhile as you process the emotional and physical realities (or lack thereof) of sexual intimacy with a male partner.
 
Read moltonrock's 6:11 post several times. It is excellent advice.

The drive to try sex is great. But if you are bothering to post, I would guess it will be a big deal for you emotionally. So resist the urge to rush it.

Again, read that post several times.
 
I'm torn between the concepts of sex for sex sake and meaningful sex. I think it depends upon the person as to which is more desirable. I think as long as a person doesn't act against their own inclination there ought to be no negative consequences provided the partner is normal.

The key to sex with strangers, and an online friend is a sranger until you meet them, is that every bit of common sense is used to assess the situation. Posters have already mentioned "red lights."

There is a real possibility of an addiction to danger if the above warning is not heeded. Mixing an element of danger with the pleasure of sex can be a big problem for some.

Some people need an emotional connection every time they have sex, others do not. The main thing is that you try to discover how you feel about that before you have sex. Guilt and sex aren't pretty companions and I'd advise you do always do everything possible to avoid that.

Now even with all of this being said, sex is supposed to be fun.
 
Since you say you are worried that you will regret it, I would say you should take more time to get to know him. Meet him in personal at a public place. Have coffee, lunch, see a movie, whatever. You will know when the time is right. The right time may or may not be with him. Only time will tell.
 
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