Beginning of a Bromance

[Tomruyssss]

This is part 1 of my Bromance. I'm 24 and he's 21. We're both around the same height and weight. And to be honest we look like brothers. We're constantly asked if we are twins. In the way we dress and talk, and how were both hispanic. It's honestly strange that we weren't closer friends before. I'm bi and out to most of my friends but I don't speak about it much to not make others ununcomfortable. He is Straight. Me and my bud were aquiantances back in highschool, but we weren't ever close friends. We never hungout outside of like in lunch in highschool. So I was bored and I hit him up out of the blue in January. Ended up going to a little party at his house and we had a good time.


Me, I'm not a very open person. I can be emotional but I've become less open and less trusting to people. And sometimes I can be shy, but when I'm comfortable I'm the life of the party.


Since we hungout in January he's hit me up a bit and we've done everything from the strip club, to dinner and drinking. And to be honest we've become like brothers. The way we tease eachother, joke around and are there for eachother when we have a bad day. I'm a cold person and alot of times I'd rather chill alone than with other people. So I've turned him down a bit and he actually gets pretty sad even if he has other people coming too. Little by little he's broken down my wall and has gotten me to open up. We had a road trip and it honestly was the most time we've spent together at one time. And it definitely changed our relationship. I had come out to him as bi before our trip and he was fine with it, but whenever he wanted to ask me questions about it I would shut down.


During our trip I told him if he got me drunk, I would answer any and all questions he had. And that he had to do the same for me. So I opened up about my last relationship, and some things about my past I had never told anyone. And he opened up to me about the same. It was crazy, I don't know if it was the alcohol or what but I wanted to cry because I hadn't opened up to anyone like that ever. So instead of bawling my eyes out in front of him, I did say a very shy I love you man.


Through the days of our trip, we would talk shit to eachother in the car, and grab and squeeze eachothers nipples, and knees and rough housing. And slowly we got more and more comfortable with eachother. I remember how he teased me so I pinned him on the wall and he tackled me and we landed on my bed with him pinning me down. We paused for a moment like we were going to kiss with just huge grins and then just laughed it off. In our hotel room I always was shy about my body, and so was he but by the last night we were there, we were in only our boxers in the same bed showing eachother funny youtube videos. We inched closer and closer like we were gonna snuggle until the phone rang causing us to startle and jump up. One night we were drunk and I was super horny, so I told him I was going to the bathroom to jack off. I didnt know until the next day when he brought it up and told me he was jacking off in the bed when I was jacking, so I while laughing asked him why didn't he invite me to just jack off with him. He was like I wasn't sure if you were gonna watch straight or gay porn haha.


We both wanted to do karaoke one night, and it turned out only the gay club had karaoke. I had only been to a gay club 3 times, but he had never been to one. He was straight so he justified it saying there might be girls there. He looked like a deer caught in headlights there for about 20 mins. It was pretty dead, probably 5 guys and a shirtless couple playing pool in the back. No girls, except our lesbian bartender. So I bought him a beer to loosen up and he decided he'd be DD so he didn't drink anymore and I had a few more promising when I'm drunk he could ask and talk to me about anything personal.


After his beer, I had never seen him so relaxed. He loosened up and he sang twice, once alone and once with me as a duet. To be honest it was one of my favorite moments with him.


I was pretty much an ass on our last night in town. And so of course he was pretty pissed at me. I apologized to him but I felt like it wasn't enough. So as he slept I stayed up writing him a letter on my phone telling him how grateful I am for him, and in the end I gave him an I love you. I gave him my phone the next day and asked him to read it. So he instantly replied back basically saying he's thankful for me too and he loves me too.


One our final car ride home he was driving and he was rubbing his own back/shoulder saying it was sore. So I just put my hands on it and started massaging him. He just moaned and said it felt good. I asked if he wanted me to stop and he replied with a soft "Nah.." so I continued for a while until my hands got tired. We sang to the radio for a bit. And I without any prompting from him, massaged him again. I asked him where he was sore. He just replied with a raspy "everywhere." He moved forward in the seat so I could massage him better. So I massaged his whole back and slowly inched lower and lower to right above his ass. I slightly stuck my hand under his shirt as I massaged him. I was under there for a few minutes until he said I was making him feel sleepy which I took as a cue to stop.


I got a little quiet and sad because of the music during the ride. And when he would notice, he would look at me with a funny face, or tap me to look at him and give me a giant grin just to make me smile. We even had a few moments when he called me Babe and Sweetheart. I called him Pa and Papi which are terms are endearment that us puerto rican guys usually get called by our significant others.

We did talk about sharing a girl together in a threesome. But nothing about just me and him.

To be honest, I don't want a romantic relationship because I don't see us as boyfriends. I do love him but I know his heart is with women. I just like the intimacy we've grown to have. It's like he's my brother mixed with some sexual tension at the same time. I love how I can rub his back and have him melt in my arms especially since neither one us is really that touchy feely except with each other. And if we were both comfortable with it, and the moment was right making out and maybe blowjobs would be the extent of what we do sexually. But more than anything it just feels good to have someone like him around

 

[mcbrion]

It sounds beautiful, man. It's great that you are both very sweet and tender to each other. So very many men cannot do that with each other. Treasure it.

 

[checkinthingsout]

Its awesome that you have a friend like that. I hope it continues with time. But from what you described, it seems like this could grow into you having feelings for him. I am not saying it definitely will, but the intimacy + sexual tension you describe are dangerously close to romance.

I do think you should note the good qualities of this relationship and find another gay or bi man who can fully reciprocate.

 

[Blueboy369]

It sounds like you have a great friendship with this dude. You know that he's straight, he knows you like guys. My advice is, keep it casual. Even if one day you fool around, don't fall in love. Keep your options open and look for a boyfriend who can be there 100 percent. Have fun with him but realize you could never be more than friends with a straight guy. Tell him "being that you're straight, I have to look for a boyfriend but don't be jealous, your still my best friend".

 

[KaraBulut]

....To be honest, I don't want a romantic relationship because I don't see us as boyfriends. I do love him but I know his heart is with women. I just like the intimacy we've grown to have. It's like he's my brother mixed with some sexual tension at the same time. I love how I can rub his back and have him melt in my arms especially since neither one us is really that touchy feely except with each other. And if we were both comfortable with it, and the moment was right making out and maybe blowjobs would be the extent of what we do sexually. But more than anything it just feels good to have someone like him around

Relationships between male friends are complex. There's a lot of deep emotions. When one of the guys identifies as straight, it's even more complicated- sometimes difficult to put a label on it- whether it is a good friend or a boyfriend that you don't have sex with.

Sometimes these relationships are life-long. Sometimes they just last until one or both of you find a girlfriend or boyfriend.

For now, enjoy it for what it is. Respect his boundaries. Be sure to have your own life that involves real boyfriends or girlfriends. It's a lot easier to be clear on relationships with your friends when you have someone else who that you're having sex with.

 

[Tomruyssss]

So here’s the next part of the story. Since we’re so close, we always horse around and play fight and grab each other’s nipples but never each other’s dicks. So the other night we were sitting on the love seat at his house during a house party, and we were both pretty trashed and it was pretty dark because people were starting to go to sleep. And me and him are touching each other tickling each other fucking around like we always do. And then he puts his hand up my shirt and starts playing with my nipple in a different way, so I go to do it to him and he stops me because the way we were sitting the other people could see it. So I put my hand down and he grabs it and we interlace hands. This was so crazy cuz I knew this was feeling different than what we usually do, all of the sudden he starts rubbing my chest and my body under my shirt, and he puts his hand on my dick over my jeans and squeezes it.


We were the only Spanish speakers there so we started speaking only Spanish at this point so no one else would catch on. So I say what are you doing? While laughing and he was giggling and goes idk so I grab his dick and he says the same and I give him the same response. So I’m like what are you tryna do? Do you want to go to your bed room? He’s like yeah but go first and I’ll go up to pretend I’m going to help you get ready for bed. So He comes up and I push him on the bed, and start sucking his dick and I pulled my dick out and started jacking off, so he grabs it and tugs it a few times. All this was happening while he had a girl down stairs he was planning on banging that night. He stopped when he heard a noise to go check on her. A few minutes later he comes back and he says you have no idea how long I wanted to do this with you. And I told him I always wanted to too but didn’t try out of respect. Then he goes, you know I love you right man, and I’m like yeah I love you too.

He’s fully hard, and I’m kind of semi because of all the beers plus I had already gotten a blowjob during a hook up before I went to the party. So I’m like let’s compare and see who’s bigger. Because we have this friendly rivalry about everything. He was fully hard and my semi dick were honestly the same size, so I said I must have the bigger dick cuz I’m not fully hard yet. He was like you’re not turned on by me? I’m like dude I am crazy turned on it’s just the beer dick fucking with me. He was like nah it’s not you’re just not into me. Then he asked me if he could fuck me and I told him dude you know I don’t bottom, I’m like for you maybe we can sometime but not tonight. He was like alright, then one of his friend called him so we both got dressed again and I went to bed and he went down. Apparently the girl got jealous and left. So the next day I give him a ride to the store and he was like nothing ever happened. And I’m kind of quiet because I have so many emotions in my head.

He asks me if I’m okay and I go yeah I’m okay man, but it was obvious I was lying. Then he was with the whole yo that party was crazy fun but I don’t remember a lot of it. I was fucked up and I go yeah dude It was hella fun from the bits and pieces I remember. So today he messaged me that he wants to hang out and drink but I had to work, so we’re planning on doing something on my next day off. Idk how it’s going to go. I’ve thought about it for our whole friendship and we’ve said I love you to each other tons of times, but I wouldn’t say I’m in love with him romantically, but sexually yeah I have looked at him and always fantasized about us messing around.

And I definitely want to do it all again and more, it’s just crazy thinking about it. I am worried about our friendship getting ruined, but we can leave things like this and still be boys I wouldn’t mind having a friend with benefits.

 

[Blueboy369]

You already crossed the line player! Have fun and enjoy! Don't take it seriously though, keep it casual.

 

[Tomruyssss]

So the night we hooked up he left to go be with the girl, so I got this dude I met at the party to sleep in the bed with me. Idk if it was the drunkenness or what but I started snuggling him when I was sleeping. My first friend, walked in and caught us and quickly shut the door, then came back a minute later after I being startled and turning around and pretending to be asleep again. Asking for my phone. I guess he got jealous, so nothing else happened that night. After I got my phone back we talked to each other the way we always had and ignored that what happened with us, actually happened. A few days later I stop by and we started joking with his room mate, and he brought up that he caught me snuggling with the dude from the party. I had to play it off as best as I could but I was definitely embarassed. The guy from the party was straight, and I'm in the closet to everyone there except my best friend.

I cooled off for a couple days, and I brought up that now that I'm not pissed the joke was funny but it was still fucked up to say that to his room mate because his room mate already calls us both gay all the time. I made a joke saying youre lucky I didn't say anything about what else happend that night. He suddenly got mad and said it was a one time thing and that I had better not have told anyone. Which I pretty much havent except for here. We made some jokes about the whole thing and who had the bigger dick and laughed it off. I also confessed that this happening was something I've thought about a few times before but that 1, I never wanted to risk our friendship by making the first move without being sure and 2, I had no romantic feelings for him just that It was something fun that we did and I'm open to doing it again alone or with a girl involved

Even though he's straight there are times I feel like he's gotten a lil jealous over me sometimes. Like one day we were at my best female friend's house before this whole thing happend, and we're talking about a hook up I had, she noticed how he got kinda pissy when he overheard me, and this was before us hooking up. She's always saying he sets off her gaydar but I always defend him saying he's my closest guy friend and if he was gay or bi he'd tell me. Considering he bangs a new girl everytime I see him, there was no reason to suspect anything.

Last night i was over for a movie and he had a date there I was supposed to give her a ride home as a favor. He was talking to me from the other side of the room but I definitely saw him flex his dick a few times. I definitely looked at it and laughed and when he asked what I was laughing at I played it off. After she was gone I grabbed my dick a few times because I had a huge boner thinking about him but I'm not sure he noticed.

I really never expected this, and I love the dude, I'd honestly do anything for him. I kinda wish this had happened in the beggining stages of our friendship instead of now to make it less awkward for me. Because I know how it easy it is to ruin a relationship like this. And if it did fall apart It wouldn't be as hard to then than it would now.

I asked him out for a beer this weekend. I really wanted to ask him how long he's thought about what happened with me before it happened, and maybe tell him how long I've thought about it myself and kinda see how willing he is to open up to me.

 

[Blueboy369]

Don't talk about it. Just be about it. Act like bros but be playful. If play fighting and that sort of thing leads to something else, enjoy. Talking about it could make him feel weird. There is nothing wrong with friends with benefits. Sometimes "straight" guys will be willing to fool around but the second you want to talk about it, they distance themselves.

 

[Tomruyssss]

So we hung out a few times after that and we've been hooking up. We talked a bit about it, and we're both cool. Im more of a top, I only bottomed a handful of times, so Im planning a special bros night just us to go out of town and barhop and have fun and hopefully go all the way.

We both get jealous over eachother when we hear eachother talk about something sexual with someone else. It's a little look that Ive noticed him make, and I make the same. I told him anything he wants to talk about Im open minded. I also told him not to over think it and just have fun with it. i don't over think it because I know we're not meant for more,nor am I ready. We love eachother just not in that way. I asked him how long has he wanted to do this with me and he didn't want to answer. Honestly I kinda felt shitty because that could mean that this was the basis of our friendship. I've been giving him space and letting him come more to me just to not ruin things. I can't believe this is happening though, he's my best friend and I was happy with how things were. And yeah this changes things, but I hope our bond can make it keep our friendship alive for a lifetime.

 

[123kid]

Update????? Bump.!!!!

 

[Tomruyssss]

Quick update. We hook up once in a while, Still can be normal bros after. He doesn't have giant muscles, or a 6 pack. He's beefy fat but he carries it well. Not too fat but not skinny. He's just a thick guy. I've hooked up with really hot guys and girls before. But honestly he's the sexiest guy to me that I ever messed around with. We haven't actually fucked yet. But we have messed around with handjobs and blowjobs. I'm the first person to ever eat his ass and he loved it.

We hooked up last night and it was amazing.

I did make a point to remind him even though I think he's sexy as hell, and he turns me on all the time, I only like him as a friend and that no matter what happens his friendship means the world to me and if his feelings ever change we can talk anytime. My biggest fear of this getting outta hand and our friendship getting ruined. He promised it wouldn't.

 

[Tomruyssss]

He made a point saying he didn't think he was all that sexy cuz of his weight. So I confessed all the times I secretly got turned on by him. Times I was super horny for him and kept it to myself. I always joked calling him ugly because I joke about being conceited and looking sexy. But even though I was only kidding, I'm going to stop. I never realized he had low self esteem like that. We always joke and say mean things to eachother. But I learned to give him more respect and help him through it.

We both joke and say mean things to eachother in a brotherly way. And we laugh about it all. But I don't want to be a shitty friend and talk about something that affects him. I never thought we would be hooking up like this or even be as close of friends that we are. Honestly I'm super thankful for him in my life. I've had the best times of my life with him.