Being 20 And Single...I Feel Behind The Curve

[sunoftheskye]

Ugh, I feel pathetic being so desperate, but it sucks when all of my friends are going out on dates and I'm sitting at home eating gummi bears watching Desperate Housewives.

I've got a good professional life, I'm working at MTV (LOGO more specifically) and going to school, working on an original pilot, and some other things, but my personal life is so bland right now.

It sucks.

I guess it's better this way anyway. I think it takes a while to be comfortable with being alone.

 

[Inwood]

You're 20. You've got plenty of time to spread your wings and fly, when you're ready.

For a few personal reasons, for most of my 20's I was single. I had many friends but I rarely dated, and when I did I never got close, so the relationships never lasted more than a couple months. Eventually I got used to being alone. I had a great apartment in Manhattan, a great job, traveling the world...why did I need a relationship?

Fast forward to 2000 when I meet my partner. Ever since then I couldn't imagine my life alone.

Moral of the story: when you're ready, you'll jump into the dating pool. until then, don't over-analyze things, just enjoy life.

LOGO, eh? Any chance of getting in to see a taping of "Big Gay Sketch Show"?

 

[Lube]

Don't rush into something you don't want or aren't ready for.

But then don't avoid it either. Are you afraid of relationships?

 

[sunoftheskye]

No, I'm not afraid at all. I guess I'm just not around enough guys to meet anyone that's interested.

Meeting people is so easy for straight people. lol. Those bitches.

 

[Lube]

No, I'm not afraid at all. I guess I'm just not around enough guys to meet anyone that's interested.

Meeting people is so easy for straight people. lol. Those bitches.

Ha ha.

Don't worry about it. I remember sitting on my parents' couch when I was 19 or 20 and thinking "God, I'm so old and haven't done anything".

And that's when I was in denial.

Believe me, it could be so much worse.

Are you in a small town or something? Just get out and about. It doesn't have to be bars.

 

[Croynan]

The Musical: "Company" - Stephen Sondheim

The Song: "Being Alive"

Someone to hold me too close.
Someone to hurt me too deep.
Someone to sit in my chair,
And ruin my sleep,
And make me aware,
Of being alive.
Being alive.

Somebody need me too much.
Somebody know me too well.
Somebody pull me up short,
And put me through hell,
And give me support,
For being alive.
Make me alive.
Make me alive.

Make me confused.
Mock me with praise.
Let me be used.
Vary my days.

But alone,
Is alone,
Not alive.

Somebody crowd me with love.
Somebody force me to care.
Somebody make me come through,
I'll always be there,
As frightened as you,
To help us survive,
Being alive.
Being alive.
Being alive!​

eM.​

 

[Soilwork]

So.. um.. why not get out and meet guys and maybe ask one out to dinner?

It's not any easier for straight guys.. just go out and meet some gay guy.. but DO NOT do it in a bar.. don't go meet guys in places that are sexually charged and alcohol fueled.. and while you're at it, forget meeting guys on line.

Why not join a gay bowling team or a gay motorcycle club or a gay stamp collecting club? Maybe volunteer for a gay help line or something?

There's lots of ways to make some gay friends and maybe some thing more...

 

[Soilwork]

by the way... how do I get one of my Fratmen documentaries run on LOGO and yes, there could be an introduction to one of the Fratmen it it for you..

 

[Sunshine]

by the way... how do I get one of my Fratmen documentaries run on LOGO and yes, there could be an introduction to one of the Fratmen it it for you..

lmao! That was fun.


but anyways, I know exactly how you feel. I've always been alone and I got used to it. Too many people were paid to go out with me at one point so I just gave up. I dont want to look anymore I will just let fate decide. Who know's maybe Mr. Wonderful will show up and take my breath away and maybe he won't.

 

[country long hair]

When I was single(many moons ago). I wasn't lucky at dating either. One way I found to not be alone was going out with a group of people from school or work. Nothing fancy, maybe coffee, pizza or a club.

 

[Paws]

I'm 27, never had a boyfriend and feel perfectly fine.

 

[Soilwork]

You guys aren't helping... he doesn't want to hear that he'll be single at 27 or that he'll have to settle for group pizza parites when he's wanting a quiet dinner for two.

HE needs to put himself out there. (so do some of you).

 

[kevbo]

Hold in there, bud

A gay guy will come along eventually.

I know who you feel








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[TheOscar]

I feel the same way. v.v But at least you're out with your career already. I gotta get that down, first. I'm doing some things to meet more gay men, but things are slooow.
I guess I need to find more gay men, too.

But gummy bears are awesome. XD

 

[mark1111]

You might have the same problem I had. People were out there and interested, I was to stupid to notice. You will figure out eventually that there are many guys interested and how to know it.

In the mean time, go out with co workers for lunch, drinks, what ever. Guys will notice you when you are out and about, not home watching tv. Your co workers will let you know, or should let you know if any guys are interested in you.

Don't feel bad and good luck

 

[derelictdarrel]

Wait until you're almost 30



If you're anything like me, you'll come to terms with your confirmed bachelorhood and all these things won't bother you so much anymore.


You got to live your life right?

 

[menRsexii]

Ugh, I feel pathetic being so desperate, but it sucks when all of my friends are going out on dates and I'm sitting at home eating gummi bears watching Desperate Housewives.

I've got a good professional life, I'm working at MTV (LOGO more specifically) and going to school, working on an original pilot, and some other things, but my personal life is so bland right now.

It sucks.

I guess it's better this way anyway. I think it takes a while to be comfortable with being alone.

I feel ya, man. I am jut about your age (I'm 19) and I'm going to school but I don't even have a job.. so you beat me haha.

But ya, the whole dating scene sucks! My sister and brother and more and more of my friends are with significant others and I feel like a lonely outsider that just wants to experience a little loving. I mean, is that too much to ask? Everyone else is getting it.

I'd say, just hold tight because it's going to happen for you, just as I hope it will happen to me someday or sometime soon, either/ or. Just keep being you and someone will come along.

Oh, but I also must mention that I think part of why people in general (at least me) don't get dates or romance or whatever is because they are passive aggressive. We don't take any action. One friend of mine would get dates practically every night and he told me I could do the same if I just took some action, had some confidence and just went for it. Of course, you'll experience the occasional rejection but that's all part of the the experience.

 

[Paws]

[Forget it, this thread is from 2007]