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Being alone is better

You're kidding, right? <----- I'm addressing Hunky here, not The Bled.

I'm dating someone (I was told last night that I can't call him a bf for a least another couple weeks :rolleyes: ) and it is a wonderful feeling.

It's so nice to have someone to relate to on an emotional, intellectual, and sexual level.

It makes life so much easier to live.

My soon-to-be-ex-wife told me she refuses to date anyone and may die single and she likes it that way.

I am the complete opposite. I won't date a guy just because I'm lonely (I do have high standards), but I'd much rather be with someone than without.

Not to validate me (I'm proud of who I am), but just for that emotional, intellectual, and physical connection.

You can't beat it. ..|
 
I don't think that a "boyfriend" is necessary. But, whether you live with a partner or best friend, I feel that life is just better with someone. To experience life with someone is much more pleasurable....even the simple things. I used to love to sit in the backyard and watch the wildlife with my best friend. Now I do it alone and it is not the same thing. I do not enjoy it nearly as much. It is fun to see someone love to do the same things that you love to do...to appreciate things that you appreciate...to appreciate each other...and to love to do them together.
 
There is something to be said for flying stag. But there are times when you've no one with whom to share your life. And in those times, you need someone special.

But, as my motto goes, "Fuck it." I'm tired of the incessant bullshit involved with meshing two lives, two worlds. Fuck it.
 
I'd rather not be alone either; but I've been un-attached for so-o-o long, I'm rather used to it. There are, however, certain things I refuse to do alone, e.g., go to the movies, go to a restaurant, go to the lake, etc: too depressing by oneself. :-({|=
 
You guys are all right, but I have been looking so hard for a boy friend those last couple of years and all I got is being stood up, guys who just want sex and goodbye, committed guys, that I am giving up now.
 
Ya, who needs anybody!!!
I'm happy being completely alone.... :(

*goes back inside cave*
 
I felt that way too firephoenix but when I found that special one - it became too good to be true. It is so nice to be able to share your day, over a glass of wine, with someone you love and he in turn loves you back. All the problems of the day just seem to disappear - you can vent without fear. Wish everyone had a bf like mine!
 
My BF is very special to me, I don't like to be alone.
 
hunky said:
You guys are all right, but I have been looking so hard for a boy friend those last couple of years and all I got is being stood up, guys who just want sex and goodbye, committed guys, that I am giving up now.
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Well, why don't you forget about looking for a bf for a little while and focus on doing things that you love to do. Join a group that that interests you...preferably a gay oriented group. Go out with friends for now. I think that it is vital to have friends or at least a partner that knows who you are and appreciates you for being you.

There was a period in my life, my happiest times so far, where I did not have bf, I was not looking for a bf, did not feel any need to have a bf, and I spent all of my free time w/ my friends. You need to make up the rules of how you want to live your life that work best for you.

I do think that the following needs to change:
"Are you out?: No one knows."
 
I feel your pain, hunky. I went through the same thing, and ended up enforcing celibacy on myself. But after a while I decided that boyfriends aren't something one has or doesn't have... they are not possessions or fashion accessories. They are people with whom you share your life. And I haven't yet met anybody who is willing to share the rather odd life I lead: living with and taking care of my Grandmother, and coming with an assortmant of mismatched emotional baggage.

It's like having odd-shaped feet, you can't wear just any old shoe, you need a special shoe. And sometimes it takes years and years to find the right shoe. And considering that this sort of shoe has needs of its own, it becomes endlessly complicated.

Being single is simpler. But I'd be willing to complicate my life if I found the right shoe.
 
Robert~Marlénè said:
I feel your pain, hunky. I went through the same thing, and ended up enforcing celibacy on myself. But after a while I decided that boyfriends aren't something one has or doesn't have... they are not possessions or fashion accessories. They are people with whom you share your life. And I haven't yet met anybody who is willing to share the rather odd life I lead: living with and taking care of my Grandmother, and coming with an assortmant of mismatched emotional baggage.

It's like having odd-shaped feet, you can't wear just any old shoe, you need a special shoe. And sometimes it takes years and years to find the right shoe. And considering that this sort of shoe has needs of its own, it becomes endlessly complicated.

Being single is simpler. But I'd be willing to complicate my life if I found the right shoe.
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That is soooooo true and soooo wise!!!! (*8*)
I feel the same way.
 
Yea, it seems like when you stop looking for a BF, then they come out of the woodwork.
 
By out of the woodwork you mean the sillies and the crazies, then yes. =]
 
Robert~Marlénè said:
Being single is simpler. But I'd be willing to complicate my life if I found the right shoe.
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looseliam said:
But, as my motto goes, "Fuck it." I'm tired of the incessant bullshit involved with meshing two lives, two worlds. Fuck it.
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Being with someone definitely involves compromise. Sometimes it's a pain in the ass, but it's better than being alone (well, up to a point; you gotta be happy with him overall).

There's an Irish proverb:
Is fearr an t-imreas ná an t-uaigneas.
(Marital) Strife is better than loneliness.

hunky said:
You guys are all right, but I have been looking so hard for a boy friend those last couple of years and all I got is being stood up, guys who just want sex and goodbye, committed guys, that I am giving up now.
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Aw, don't give up, Hunky. The right one will come along when you least expect it. There was a survey in the latest Advocate, something about finding the right guy. And most people found them at play or work.

As others have said, do what you enjoy, and you'll find someone with a common interest.
 
Well, having lived alone and lived with a boyfriend, sometimes it can feel equally as lonely living with a boyfriend. The financial support is always nice to fall back on and I do get the occasional cup of tea in bed. Not sold on the idea? Stay single then.
 
I've had the live in relationship thing a few times.
I much prefer living alone. And that's the truth.
If I met Mr. Right tomorrow, then he'll have to stay living in his own house and we'll commute between our two homes! :D
 
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