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Being bi and feelings towards men/women

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You're not using men at all. Being attracted to both sexes is never balanced.

I'm more physically attracted to men, and men make me feel more attractive then women. I do get female attention, but it's nowhere near the reaction I get from guys, so much that it makes me feel like I'm invisible to women.
 
You are definitely not using men. Noone can help how they feel, or what their sexuality will bring about at any given moment (remember, it is a sliding scale).

My case is different, but the same thoery that "I use men" for sex can be deduced. I am one who is 100% emotionally attracted to women, and only sexually attracted to them once I get to know them and am comfortable with them (i.e. several dates). This might have something to do with what other people are referring to above, in that they don't think women find them attractive.

Anyway, with guys, it is 100% sexual. I can't help this - perhaps it is a little dash of nature, but to me, women need to be nurtured, loved, caressed, etc. Conversely, I do not have the same attitude towards men, much in the same way a heterosexual guy would not.

What I am trying to get it is, for some bisexual men, it may come down to solely nature in how we view men. I realize this may be offensive to some, however I assure you that is not my intent. I have no doubt that homosexual guys derive the same emotional satisfication out being with another man as I do with women - and I am glad that they can find happiness in this. It is a wonderful thing and something that should be encouraged in society. However, I strongly believe that some men simply can not derive the same kind of emotional satisfication from being with another male.

Any other bisexual(s) able to relate to this?
 
Hmmm. Being that I'm one of the 'involved' parties here makes it very hard to say what I want to without revealing anything that is truly personal.

I can say from knowing you, I don't see this as you 'using' men at all. I believe you're just at a crossroads; given what else is taking place with you personally.

I'm not bisexual, so I can't, and won't say I understand completely. I'm not blind, though. If I was asked, I'd say you're at a point where you question if an emotional relationship with a man is as realistic as with a woman.

I imagine, if you can remove whatever barriers life has put upon you, a fulfilling relationship with a man is possible. You just might find this your best relationship ever!
 
Hi jav--this is a neat thread. Thanks for starting it.

If you (or I) had the definitive answers to this, we'd both be rich. I think the key is exactly what you're doing--thinking this through, reflecting, and figuring out what it means for you. I've long felt that the whole coming out, and self-identification, process consists of a lifelong series of insights and steps like this.

Good luck on your journey!
 
Hey Jav1231,

Mate... its weird isnt it... still learning things about yourself when you are supposed at a time where we are meant to be wise and all knowledgeable! Its just another one of those misconceptions we carry around from childhood I think where the adults knew everything...

But Jav, its a really great thing that you are still thinking, still growing... it means that the possibilities are endless... and that your thoughts are fluid... things that mean you'll never be trapped into having to fit yourself into a box or square...

I dont reckon we ever stop learning about ourselves, what we like and want, what we are attracted too. And we never stop trying to put it into words either! If you never have an epiphany it means that your not asking enough questions... and when you get the answer that feels right for you its just like now... Somehow the world gets clearer... and easier.

So theres no way that you were or are using men... those expereinces were helping you get to that epiphany... they were some of the pieces that helped you learn a little more of your puzzle.

Now mate, you can look at the future with a little more clarity and understanding of what you want and need... and with that comes the happiness that you both crave... and deserve!
 
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