Being bicurious and shy?

[TXSunsetEagle]

Was wondering if there were any other bi curious shy guys out there? The ones like myself who are too afraid to approach a guy but instead play out the scenarios in their head. Just been feeling pretty outcast lately and would be great to hear from others in the same boat or have been there and gotten more out of their shell. Reason being is I can't exactly talk to my friends about any of this because they could never understand, and being from a pretty conservative area anything besides being straight is strictly frowned upon.

 

[RRUGER]

same here cause its frustarting no one u=nderstand most guys jus wabnts to have sex with u and your str8 friends wont understand

 

[AcquiredTaste]

^ I've been in the situation you two guys describe my whole life.

 

[cubbybear01]

I feel you big time. I'm from a small town in Mississippi. Definitely not someplace you feel safe enough to approach a guy. I've had a few guys approach me at college and talked to some long enough (weeks or months) that we felt safe enough to broach the topic. z

Boromir: "One does not simply walk up and hit on a guy in Missississippi. The Magnolia state is guarded by more than just religious zealots. There is bigotry there that does not sleep. The KKK is ever watchful. It is a barren wasteland, riddled with homophobes, racists, and violent rednecks. The very air you breathe resonates with American Family Radio. Not with ten thousand wing-men could you do this. It is folly."

I am exaggerating of course but that is what it feels like sometimes. If I wanted an environment where I could really feel safe enough to approach a guy I'd have to go to some of the gay-friendly clubs in Jackson. Outside of that I'd really be stretching my neck out there.

 

[LAPan75]

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I am definitely one who is "shy" by definition in Public, but I see it more as not being a fan of humans in general.
As such I have blossomed on the internet because I have no show to put on for anyone.... no one to have to watch, etc..
I am not much for going out alone and being basically a 6'2" (legit) hairless bear I automatically become the protector and lead dog in the pack per say.
I take the lead in a crowd because they usually part for me, and I am first to stand in if trouble looks to kick off.
My preference though is to blend in to the woodwork and watch, be very chill and just let things go on around me until I need to step in.

So, basically I am either perceived as shy or scary... maybe both.
Either way it makes it a hopeless situation for me to talk to another guy in Public in a sexual/relationship way.
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[Greeny-boy]

I am just the same mate. Good luck any how.

 

[johnbi1964]

I can certainly sympathize with you guys, this is not an easy way to be.
I became aware of my bi urges in my late teens when a friend loaned me a hardcore porn book. It was one of those black and white things, full of cock sucking pictures and I loved the sight of the erect men. I went on to have sexual relationships with women only but the bi fantasies were always there at the back of my mind.
Now, at 47 I am pretty much free to have sex with anyone without cheating on anyone but it's not that simple, I think I'd have to meet the right man who would treat it as a bit of fun and nothing more.

 

[TXSunsetEagle]

Glad to see I'm not the only one out there! Yeah it does suck, I just wish there was something I could do about it but it just feels like I'm trapped in it you know?

 

[drewmatthews39]

Very much so......I mean, shit, I'm married, I dig looking at gay porn, I've beat off to it numerous times. I haven't been with another guy (yet ). I've played around with dildos (still searching for that anal orgasm LOL......I need more patience in that regard.....bought a ton of toys. Squirting dildos, vibrators, prostate massagers etc). But I guess it's nothing like that one on one with another guy.

It's tough for sure, being trapped inside