being curious sucks

[joejoeint]

I realize I am probably bi-sexual or bi-curious at the least, and I finally think I am ok with it, but... I'm at the point where I think I want to try some sort of male/male sexual interaction, maybe just mutual jo or oral, but the problem is I am not sure if this is just some sort of fantasy I've worked up in my head thanks to prolonged porn exposure or if it's a legitimate curiosity. I don't really have much romantic interest in guys (unless I am extremely horny), I save that for women. Then there's also the problem of trying to meet someone who isn't just some cracked out horndog from craigslist for a first experience. It's gone from confusing to curiosity to frustration, does anyone have any advice or words of wisdom?

 

[LikesDudes2]

I realize I am probably bi-sexual or bi-curious at the least, and I finally think I am ok with it, but... I'm at the point where I think I want to try some sort of male/male sexual interaction, maybe just mutual jo or oral, but the problem is I am not sure if this is just some sort of fantasy I've worked up in my head thanks to prolonged porn exposure or if it's a legitimate curiosity. I don't really have much romantic interest in guys (unless I am extremely horny), I save that for women. Then there's also the problem of trying to meet someone who isn't just some cracked out horndog from craigslist for a first experience. It's gone from confusing to curiosity to frustration, does anyone have any advice or words of wisdom?

Well, welcome to the board and welcome to what about 2/3 of all men feel at some point in their life. You're probably bicurious and there's nothing wrong with that. Just relax and explore bro

 

[joejoeint]

Well, welcome to the board and welcome to what about 2/3 of all men feel at some point in their life. You're probably bicurious and there's nothing wrong with that. Just relax and explore bro

Thanks I've known I was probably some flavor of bi for a while, I just denied it. I've liked looking at cocks since I was a teen and got bored with run of the mill porn magazines (back before the days of streaming porn lol). Actually I blame an episode of real sex on HBO which featured two transsexuals and showed their giant cocks and I was enthralled, haha.

But anyway, I know that's what I should do. It's just that I'm not sure if this sudden need to experiment is a porn addiction/escalation sort of thing or if I really want to get my hands on a penis (and some balls ). I mean say I do meet someone and I quickly realize I really have no desire to suck a dick or jerk someone off in reality, what do I do then? And how do you go about meeting someone who is understanding and willing to work with you slowly? I am extremely cautious and don't trust 99% of the people from online dating sites/craigslist, most of the people I've interacted with seem way too eager to meet up and get to business. I guess that's the more frustrating part.

 

[PoppaJunk]

Man I'm in the exact same boat as you except I've actually done the mutual handjob thing. For the most part I liked it but I was aprehensive afterwards. I feel I need to experience something a little more involved to see if I like it, to really know if I'm Bi of if it's just something else and I can let it go.

 

[versatileplayer]

I realize I am probably bi-sexual or bi-curious at the least, and I finally think I am ok with it, but... I'm at the point where I think I want to try some sort of male/male sexual interaction, maybe just mutual jo or oral, but the problem is I am not sure if this is just some sort of fantasy I've worked up in my head thanks to prolonged porn exposure or if it's a legitimate curiosity. I don't really have much romantic interest in guys (unless I am extremely horny), I save that for women. Then there's also the problem of trying to meet someone who isn't just some cracked out horndog from craigslist for a first experience. It's gone from confusing to curiosity to frustration, does anyone have any advice or words of wisdom?

It sounds like you're in the process of self acceptance, and still have a bunch of hang ups.

Fuck whomever you are attracted to - love whomever you want - all that matters is you do exactly what you want to do - and do it when you want.

Follow your dick and follow your heart wherever it leads.

Stop shopping on Craigslist - make some friends - socialize - and find a guy that turns you on. But if you bring a bunch of hang ups and scripts with you - you'll surely disappoint yourself and him too.

 

[versatileplayer]

Thanks I've known I was probably some flavor of bi for a while, I just denied it. I've liked looking at cocks since I was a teen and got bored with run of the mill porn magazines (back before the days of streaming porn lol). Actually I blame an episode of real sex on HBO which featured two transsexuals and showed their giant cocks and I was enthralled, haha.

But anyway, I know that's what I should do. It's just that I'm not sure if this sudden need to experiment is a porn addiction/escalation sort of thing or if I really want to get my hands on a penis (and some balls ). I mean say I do meet someone and I quickly realize I really have no desire to suck a dick or jerk someone off in reality, what do I do then? And how do you go about meeting someone who is understanding and willing to work with you slowly? I am extremely cautious and don't trust 99% of the people from online dating sites/craigslist, most of the people I've interacted with seem way too eager to meet up and get to business. I guess that's the more frustrating part.

You won't know if you like it unless you try it. You'll get out of it exactly what you put into it. It's supposed to be fun - so have fun while you're at it.

It's not the porn son - I've seen lots of hetero porn - guess what - I'm pretty gay - but I I like to have sex with women too. I'm sure there are lots of guys who would never be interested in a video of a big fat cock fucking a guy - but I am - it's not the porn - it's me. It's not the porn - it's you.

 

[joejoeint]

You won't know if you like it unless you try it. You'll get out of it exactly what you put into it. It's supposed to be fun - so have fun while you're at it.

It's not the porn son - I've seen lots of hetero porn - guess what - I'm pretty gay - but I I like to have sex with women too. I'm sure there are lots of guys who would never be interested in a video of a big fat cock fucking a guy - but I am - it's not the porn - it's me. It's not the porn - it's you.

That's a pretty good way of looking at it. And as for your last reply, I have tons of friends, the only problem is none of them are bi/gay and I wouldn't want to get that intimate with a friend anyway.

 

[KevLINY]

Ha, you're thinking of hooking up with a guy, of course they want to get down to business.

It doesn't matter why you want to do it--you should probably give it a shot. You'll like it or you won't, but at least you won't be looking back in 10 years saying "what if?"

Most importantly, remember that you don't have to do anything you don't want to. When I was in college I met a guy in a bar who was really aggressive. He pulled my dick out and started sucking it in the cab (which made the cabbie really uncomfortable). Anyway, once we were in his apartment he started in rimming me, etc. and it just kept feeling not right to me (nothing against rimming, it feels great, it was just him). So he puts his dick up to my mouth and tells me to suck it. At that point, I got up, got into my clothes gave him some lame excuse and walked out.

Moral of the story is only do what you want to do, and if it doesn't feel right then you just stop/leave.

Of course that doesn't solve the standard guy issue that what might seem like a good idea before you cum seems way more questionable right after...

 

[joejoeint]

Of course that doesn't solve the standard guy issue that what might seem like a good idea before you cum seems way more questionable right after...

That's the exact scenario I'm afraid of, haha. What if I cum and realize... oh hey now there's a dude in my house with cum all over him, lol.

 

[hotatlboi]

try adam4adam.com. That's worked for me before.

And not everyone that is looking to hook up is cracked out, just fyi.

 

[versatileplayer]

That's a pretty good way of looking at it. And as for your last reply, I have tons of friends, the only problem is none of them are bi/gay and I wouldn't want to get that intimate with a friend anyway.

Is there any place in your area to meet some gay friends? Just socialize and you'll find a guy that turns you on. But if your area doesn't have any gay venues - there might be a support group or something - if there aren't any of those - you might only have online cruising opportunities...... a lot of the guys cruising online are just like you. Be picky - put your turn offs in your ad...... you could also try gay.com or squirt.org.

Enjoy - it's supposed to be fun -

 

[versatileplayer]

Ha, you're thinking of hooking up with a guy, of course they want to get down to business.

It doesn't matter why you want to do it--you should probably give it a shot. You'll like it or you won't, but at least you won't be looking back in 10 years saying "what if?"

Most importantly, remember that you don't have to do anything you don't want to. When I was in college I met a guy in a bar who was really aggressive. He pulled my dick out and started sucking it in the cab (which made the cabbie really uncomfortable). Anyway, once we were in his apartment he started in rimming me, etc. and it just kept feeling not right to me (nothing against rimming, it feels great, it was just him). So he puts his dick up to my mouth and tells me to suck it. At that point, I got up, got into my clothes gave him some lame excuse and walked out.

Moral of the story is only do what you want to do, and if it doesn't feel right then you just stop/leave.

Of course that doesn't solve the standard guy issue that what might seem like a good idea before you cum seems way more questionable right after...

Yeah that guy who looked hot - when you were itching for a fuck - suddenly is annoying lol -

I dated a guy once for about 5 weeks - lots of really hot sex - but he was such a basket case - now I see him in town and think "did I have testosterone poisoning? what the fuck was I thinking?" The guy was just not boyfriend material.

That said - if I thought he wouldn't get all attached - I'd probably do him today - because he is a hot fuck!

 

[versatileplayer]

That's the exact scenario I'm afraid of, haha. What if I cum and realize... oh hey now there's a dude in my house with cum all over him, lol.

Same thing happens with women you fuck though - you get all horny for pussy - and then you fuck - and the next thing you want is for her to go home - right now......

So you make some stupid excuse like "Oh shit - I'm late for my dog washing class" or whatever....

 

[HunterM]

Go be curious and suck.

Only you know what you like and don't like.

Same thing happens with women you fuck though - you get all horny for pussy - and then you fuck - and the next thing you want is for her to go home - right now......

So you make some stupid excuse like "Oh shit - I'm late for my dog washing class" or whatever....

^ that is so true.

 

[joejoeint]

Same thing happens with women you fuck though - you get all horny for pussy - and then you fuck - and the next thing you want is for her to go home - right now......

So you make some stupid excuse like "Oh shit - I'm late for my dog washing class" or whatever....

Actually I'm in the 'yeah I just want to lounge around for a bit' after sex camp with women, which is cool because I can cuddle and play with boobs, the problem there is cuddling leads to getting horny again in fairly short order. It's a never ending cycle, lol