Being gay in the workplace

[briefboy86]

the one guy i work with is a super awesome guy alot of fun to chat with and we have alot in common, hes currently going through a divorce so we chat a good bit durring the day. but he friended me on facebook, and im "pending" adding him, but im thinking just do to do it, cuz he will see im in a relationship and see all my pictures so i think it would make this easier..

 

[G-Lexington]

Do it.

Lex

 

[innocentbychoice]

I don't know if this is necessarily a job for human resources. People aren't hounding you because you're gay. They're just being chatty. What I've found to be true is "if you treat your sexuality like it's no big deal, everyone else will treat it like it's no big deal." "Yeah, I'm dating somebody, but I'm really sure about him yet. We're still sort of getting to know each other." That makes it clear that you're gay, clear that you're cool with it, and clear that it's not this big horrible secret that nobody is supposed to know. If you make it sound like a secret, people will immediately treat it as such...which usually means telling people.

Lex

That is exactly how I feel. The more you try to hide it, the more they'll try to find out and they'll bother you. Just go with the flow, be cool abou it and they will be off your case.

 

[briefboy86]

I had one chance yesterday to let it out but chickened out... it just feels as scarry when I came out to my pops... but it's a work in progress rite now

 

[TomahawkEagle]

I take the "don't ask, don't tell" approach. No one at the mob I work at know I'm into guys. My workplace is near the beach and is a hotspot for tourists and backpackers. Everytime a hot chick walks past the building, someone always remarks to me "hey how about her". I just make a passive response without saying anything specific.

 

[CtBoyWonder]

I take the "don't ask, don't tell" approach. No one at the mob I work at know I'm into guys. My workplace is near the beach and is a hotspot for tourists and backpackers. Everytime a hot chick walks past the building, someone always remarks to me "hey how about her". I just make a passive response without saying anything specific.

That would be exhausting to me. If someone always did that to me. I would tell
them the truth. No matter how much it hurts.

 

[bankside]

I take the "don't ask, don't tell" approach. No one at the mob I work at know I'm into guys. My workplace is near the beach and is a hotspot for tourists and backpackers. Everytime a hot chick walks past the building, someone always remarks to me "hey how about her". I just make a passive response without saying anything specific.

That would be exhausting to me. If someone always did that to me. I would tell
them the truth. No matter how much it hurts.

Yeah, she's great, but I prefer a woman with no boobs and a dick.

 

[briefboy86]

well i did add the guy from work and said "finally you added me dude! just lettin ya know your gonna find all my little secrets lol"

 

[CtBoyWonder]

I take the "don't ask, don't tell" approach. No one at the mob I work at know I'm into guys. My workplace is near the beach and is a hotspot for tourists and backpackers. Everytime a hot chick walks past the building, someone always remarks to me "hey how about her". I just make a passive response without saying anything specific.

At my part time job last week. One of the teenagers for whatever reason
decided that I should "hook up" with the manager in charge. I have come
out to the manager a few weeks ago, because she seemed like she was
getting comfortable with me enough that she has started telling me personal
things about her, and such. I thought it would be best that she knew I was
gay. However this kid kept gunning for me and the manager to hook up, to the
point that I was getting really mad. That hoodlum wouldn't let it go. I had
no choice but to come out to him. But his response indicated that everyone
thought I was anyway. So much for trying to be "big and butch"

I think gay guys have something about them that people pick up on, that
makes us stand out. I don't think I wear my sexuality on my sleeve, but
when I open my mouth and tell someone the truth, it's usually not a surprise
to the other person.

 

[kguy3387]

I work for a small company and the owner has a gay brother, so I know I'd have plenty of support if I did come out, but I have no plans of doing so. In my book it's right up there with religion and politics: irrelevant in the business world. Do what you've got to do, but I don't see how it's gonna make punching your time card any easier.