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Being out is...

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So many times we hear guys say "I'm gay and it's nobody's business but mine."

The problem with this idea is that it suggests that "being out" is "being flamboyant" or "waving rainbows" or "people knowing who's top" or whatever.

But that's not what being out is. Being out is much more subtle, but much more powerful

It is simply being who you are.

Being true to yourself. No lies. No hiding.

With that in mind, I'd like to start a serious thread (not meant for Hot Topics) about what being out really is.
 
Being out is...

going to your partner's child's college's Parents Day--as the significant other (not a "friend").
 
Being out is...

telling a recruiter that you can't take a job in another city because you have to take care of your boyfriend, who just had an operation.
 
Being out is...

having your boyfriend come home from the local gaybar with a bump because some fucktard Moroccan kids decided to throw a bottle at his head. (They asked him if he was gay first).


Being out is...

having a family friend of forty years ignore you because you're a man with a boyfriend.


Being out is...

having every insecure or sadistic bastard having a go at you just because they think they can.


Being out and white...

sometimes means being discriminated and even attacked in the worst possible way by people who only draw breath to be able to voice their claims that they are consistently discriminated against.
 
Being out is...

when you open your mouth a purse falls out - guess that quote rofl
 
Harke the Boeotarch said:
Being out is...

having a family friend of forty years ignore you because you're a man with a boyfriend.
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Being out is...

knowing that he is, in fact, not a friend after all, and there is nothing you can do about it.

Being out is...

not trivial or always easy. But it is real and honest and, yes, sometimes risky.

But, then, what isn't?

Did you think that telling a recruiter I had a boyfriend didn't involve some risk? Or having my bf's daughter be the butt of jokes potentially if we go as her (step-)parents?
 
Being out is...

Becoming a person who makes the difference among your circle, and it's able to be an example of identity and tolerance.

Being out is...

Realizing that being whith a girl(or)boy(or)whatever it's not what makes you really happy and peaceful with yourself, even when it's the social rule.

Hey lube nice and reflective topic! makes me think a lot...
 
Lube said:
So many times we hear guys say "I'm gay and it's nobody's business but mine."
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Being out is understanding that your sexuality is not “private.” It’s just as public as all those straight people’s who inundate us with theirs and never hide or apologize for that, and never ever say, they’re straight but it’s “nobody’s business but mine.”.

Being out is being comfortable seizing the same prerogative.
 
Being out is...freedom.

Being out is...not having to live in parallel universes that can never meet.

Being out is...the best thing I ever did for myself.
 
being out is good cause my friends can make jokes about gays and then look at me and say "...sorry"

--hey, they gotta start somewhere.
 
Being out is competing in a gay rugby league's Hot Legs contest at the local gay bar, and commenting about it on Facebook--even though your family are "friends" on FB.



And having your family root you on! :-)
 
Being out is...

... having your bf call the doctor and tell them his partner will pick up his prescription!

Woo hoo! That's the first time he's called me his partner. :luv2:(!w!)
 
Being in America means I can choose what I want to be and how much I want to disclose.

Being open minded means respecting those that choose what they want to be and what they want to disclose.
 
spencer said:
Being open minded means respecting those that choose what they want to be and what they want to disclose.
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I'd prefer to keep this a thread about the benefits of coming out--since this is, in fact, the coming out forum. :)
 
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