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Best Bro not my friend after finding out i'm bisexual

Yeah def ain't gonna let things be like before, I'm just gonan do the same to him, when Im bored and have no one else to chill with then ill call him up if not ill leave him alone. and im def not dropping plans for him
 
It's been a while since I posted on here but the ending of the story happend today. I went through and my 3 best friends A,L and N all kinda had a rough patch since this whole shit happend. So I went through 1 by 1 and worked on saving all these friendships. The original guy i was talking bout, A, had talked with L bout finding out bout me being bisexual. L was telling me today A was actually more upset about me not trusting him enough to tell him since I was his best friend more than just him having a problem with bi/gay people. And that he felt like I wasnt being a true friend cuz I couldnt trust him the way he trusted me. damnnn crazy shit
 
Tomruyssss said:
So I message him to see how hes been since I havent talked to him since the whole coming out conversation.
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If you mentioned "the coming out conversation," that probably freaked him out. I think people deal better when they have time to stew on it. They will bring the subject up again when they feel comfortable taking about it. I think bringing it back up just proved to him that the friendship HAD changed.

He's probably also scared of being labeled gay by his other "friends."

Give him time and space. It's like the old say.... Let him go! If it's meant to be, he'll come back! In other words, hopefully with time he'll realize that he misses hanging out with you! :)
 
yhtang said:
Sounds like a wise choice. He "dumps" you when he finds a girlfriend, then reconnects when he is dumped. His actions seem to say that you are second grade; a companion of last resort. I am not too sure I would want to be treated like that.
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My thoughts exactly. I would've told him how low his actions made you feel, and then be done with him.

As for A being upset about you not "trusting" them. I'd tell them to wake up and turn on the news to see all the awful things happening to gay people around the world. It's not that easy to just "come out!," particularly when you don't want to be defined by your sexuality.

One final note, I think your "I also told him that honestly I didn't find him attractive in anyway" comment was a huge blow to his ego. I would have stuck with the "he was like a brother to me" statement. That alone says, "Hey, no worries! We're cool!"
 
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