Best Friend Fight

[STEPHEN412]

Me and my good friend / best friend got into a fight. Need some advice. We are 2 guys and he was spouse to be at a surprise bday party I had for my bfriend at my house ( he leaves a street away too), and he knew about it for 2 weeks .he didn't show for 4 hrs. I got angry when he did show and told him to leave. We texted and said some mean stuff. He changed his cell number but i see him every day cause he stops for a coffee next door to my work. I don't want to lose his friendship but don't know what to do. Was i wrong for asking him to leave. He called twice and said he be right there but found out he was with a friend and he lied and said he was changing clothes and be right there.Now do I make a tempt to say sorry for over reacting or just let it go. I dont want to lose his friendship cause we have a good time. But it hard to be friends when your lied to also. thanks guys!

 

[godson112]

Can't you just talk it out? Explain why you were upset? Apologise for being so angry but justify why you felt that way? Say it was a moment thing and you're sorry about it now and just want to be friends again?

 

[momp57]

I was surprised to see that your profile said you were 36.

 

[G-Lexington]

Looks like you have two options.

1. Forgive and forget. Tell him "I'm sorry I got mad at you, but the party was kind of important to me. Next time, just call and say you can't make it if you're not gonna show. That's fine." Hug, and carry on your friendship.

2. Keep the soap opera going. When you see him at the coffee shop, either deliberately avoid all eye contact, or stare at him until he gets uncomfortable. Call him names under your breath, and badmouth him to your other friends.

I know which is the smart decision. I also know which one is more likely to actually happen.

Lex

 

[STEPHEN412]

I want to do that, just say I am sorry and move on. But if you were in the situation as him, and i texted you or left you a voicmail. What would you do ? I know it hard to say. Thanks for the advice all you guys. It just he a great friend and i dont want to loss that.

MOMP57 - why u surprise about my age ? I am young and also have friend issues as any other person does. I dont get it ?

 

[G-Lexington]

36 isn't young. 36 isn't even "young adult'. You're starting towards the world of middle-aged at that point. He assumed, as I did, that people over the age of 35 have gotten past the soap opera stage.

Don't text or voicemail him. If you know when he's in the coffeeshop, go talk to him. In person. And apologize. FIRST. Not "I'll apologize to him once he apologizes to me".

Lex

 

[lonnie1]

Once a liar, always a liar.

 

[KaraBulut]

Adding to Lex's list:

3. Get a real adult friend who doesn't stand you up, puts your priorities in line with his own and isn't a lying sack o' shit.

 

[rareboy]

It sounds like both of you are 14 years old, not adults.

I'm not buying that a 36 year old guy would have been so dramatic over a frien being late to a party.

Grow up.

 

[trawler69]

Sorry but I don't buy the 36 either. This really isn't a big deal, you have blown it up out of proportion. Sit back and relax and see it for what it is: a storm in a tea cup. You totally overreacted by asking him to leave. Apologise to him and try to save the friendship. Don't be too proud to save a friendship.

 

[Seasoned]

An invitation is not a summons.

 

[texan_slant]

Yes, you were wrong to tell your friend to leave the party, and he is rightfully mad.

You have to apologize, but sometimes, the damage is already done if neither of you can forgive (people don't forget though).

 

[thephoenix]

Gotta agree with the others who say you blew it out of proportion. IMO if you're 36, you might have figured out what's important in life by now and honestly have more serious issues to devote your energy to.

Yeah your friend should be mad. You pretty much tossed him out, not for causing a scene or being belligerent, but for having the gall to show up late. Dude, lighten up. What does it matter when he showed to a party? Was he supposed to bring the cake or something?

Save the dramatics for when you really need him and he doesn't show. In the grand scheme of things, being four hours late to a party doesn't mean squat. Count your blessings if he even talks to you again.