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RedHawkk

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What do you think about this?

Well, I have this friend and we hang out a lot. We hang with each other more than we hang with our girlfriends, and it's not on purpose. I mean, I guess we just enjoy the company so much it's kinda innate to chill all the time. For example, I'm always at his house or vice versa, I eat / drink after him (and honestly, I don't even notice sometimes.. just happens), I usually pay for his food if we go somewhere after school, when ANYTHING in my life goes good or bad, he's usually the first to know, we fight (all the time) and then 5 minutes later it's like nothing happened, we wrestle & play PS3 often. Geez, I call his mom "ma", same for his dad and little brother, etc. People say that if we were gay we'd totally be right for each other and others say that we have a "bromantic" relationship (not too sure what that is).

Is that weird to you, or normal? (Note: I just want opinions, so please comment.)
 
It seems basically okay to me. I'm not sure why you aren't spending that time with your girlfriends though.
 
I mean, it's not like we neglect them. We see them on a daily basis; that's not really the point I was trying to convey.. just a reference.
 
Well, I suspect if you're in here asking us about this you probably want his cock more than you do the girl. Are you having problems dealing with that?

So why are you dating her and not him? Why bring the girlfriends up in the first place? To point out you're not gay perhaps?

Before you respond, if you just were "friends," with him, you wouldn't be in here asking a bunch of guys who like guys if that's "normal."

Yes it's normal, it was normal when I was 19 and after some guy.

Who knows really what's normal for straight guys - or hell even gay ones.
 
How do you feel about him romantically? Is he bisexual too?

Sometimes its just conveniance and personality. Even straight guys prefer to be around the guys when they're not thinking about sex.
 
If you're bisexual, what is the question?

Or are you both actually gay for one another but afraid to act on it?

Have you told him you're bi?

If not. Tell him.

See where that takes you.
 
TX-Beau said:
Well, I suspect if you're in here asking us about this you probably want his cock more than you do the girl. Are you having problems dealing with that?


So why are you dating her and not him? Why bring the girlfriends up in the first place? To point out you're not gay perhaps?

Before you respond, if you just were "friends," with him, you wouldn't be in here asking a bunch of guys who like guys if that's "normal."

Yes it's normal, it was normal when I was 19 and after some guy.

Who knows really what's normal for straight guys - or hell even gay ones.
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I'll admit that there was a time that I did like him romantically, but as I got to know him he transitioned from a potential lover to a little brother. I'm not really having problems dealing with that since I grew up an only child and it's kinda cool having a psuedo-lil bro.

And no, I'm not gay.. but I am Bisexual (I'm pretty sure the quick info under my username says that), but anyways I just brought them up to give you all a mental image of how much we hang out, I really didn't mean anything by it.

The main reason that I asked this question was because, of my many other friends, I don't see any other relationships like this. Our's is unique I guess, I just want to see what others thought about it.
 
rareboy said:
If you're bisexual, what is the question?

Or are you both actually gay for one another but afraid to act on it?

Have you told him you're bi?

If not. Tell him.

See where that takes you.
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It's weird, I haven't told him.. but he knows. I guess it's kinda an unspoken thing. We don't usually talk about. No, I'm not gay for him, the question (I guess) is something like: "Is this normal, or borderline relationship?" <== That's the best I can come up with.
 
I have a couple straight friends who are like this, we call them "Heterosexual Lifemates"

Others call it a "Rad Bromance", its brotherhood plain and simple and sure as heck nothing wrong with it
 
For being so close, I don't understand why you don't just tell him you're bi.
 
rareboy said:
If you're bisexual, what is the question?

Or are you both actually gay for one another but afraid to act on it?

Have you told him you're bi?

If not. Tell him.

See where that takes you.
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altlover85 said:
For being so close, I don't understand why you don't just tell him you're bi.
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Because there really isn't a point. Tell me, why tell someone something that they already know.

He's been through my phone, seen pics, stuff like that. "For being so close" there are somethings that don't need to be spoken, you just pick it up.
 
RedHawkk said:
Because there really isn't a point. Tell me, why tell someone something that they already know.

He's been through my phone, seen pics, stuff like that. "For being so close" there are somethings that don't need to be spoken, you just pick it up.
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So you've talked to him about guys and stuff?
 
Is he a link to the kind of family you would like to have - to have grown up with? You mentioned that you are an only child - do you wish his parents were yours?

I think he is the brother you wish you had - his the family you wish you had. You might feel more loved there - more connected with people.

Nothing strange.

do celebrate your life
 
I'll go against what most say and I dont think such a close friendship is "normal." It seems strange how close you two are. But if you enjoy it, why not. Then again, it seems to be bringing up tension. I feel it's better to have many friends than one who monopolizes your life, then you wouldn't be posting this thread.
 
Well, let's say you were both gay and wanted each other. Who really cares? If you're comfortable, then you shouldn't really give a shit what over people think.

But that's not really the situation here. If you are in fact both with girlfriends and both of you are clear that you're best friends and everyone's clear on the limits, you shouldn't waste time giving a rat's ass what anyone else thinks.
 
Years ago, I used to tease my (completely straight) brother that he had a boyfriend and I didn't. He and his best bud used to go everywhere together and do everything together. Now they're both in relationships and their career paths have taken them to different areas, but they're still friends and still stay in touch.

I see nothing wrong or weird with your situation. You guys are bonded and share a lot in common. Since the beginning of time, men have wanted -- and sought out -- male camaraderie. It's not a "gay" thing, it's a simple matter of brotherhood and fellowship. I've observed this in all of my straight guy friends -- they need relationships with other men just as much as they need relationships with women.
 
Don't even try to put this relationship in a box and put a label on it. Whatever you have, it is one of the greatest gifts that life can give. None of them last forever, so enjoy every minute of it while you can.
 
I don't think it's weird at all. I think it's amazing that you have someone so close to you.

If this is a story about two women best-friends, "sisters," hanging out, going shopping all the time, nobody would find it weird. There's really no reason why it should be weird just because two guys are so close.
 
Just enjoy the relationship you have with him, most people go their whole looking for what you have with him. There's nothing weird about what you guys have.
 
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