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Between Breaking Up and Confusion

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Hey folks!

So I'm kinda at loss with this, hope you guys could lighten my way a bit.

I have been dating this guy for 3 and a half weeks and things were really great. I think I even fell for him a bit and that made things harder for me. The morning after I slept over in his house he was kinda jealous about me chatting with some male friends on my Facebook. I assured him it was nothing, like some of them were just good friends of mine (even though they were gay). But he was acting on it, and picking up on me like "yeah so why don't go with xxxx(guys' name)? you will surely have more fun with him than with me" and stuff like that.

Then I went home with this bad feeling about his attitude but then again I still loved him so I didn't mind. So that following week he suddenly stopped calling me like he had been doing before and wasn't texting as much as he used to. If I had texted him, he would have sent me a reply like 3 hours or so later!

So I decided I would confront him about it and so I did. I told him that I was done with his games... and he told me I was right and since then he started texting me everyday but would not call me at all, even though I called him like every 2-3 days.

The absolute downfall came when one Friday night he would contact me on MSN but then disconnect. I decided to call him and he was like "i'm kinda having dinner with my family.. i'll call you when i'm done.." and ,not surprsingly for me, he did NOT call... 2 hours after that he sent me a Facebook message stating his cellphone fell into to the sink and the touchscreen didn't work (WtF???) and he asked me to sign in into MSN, there he seemed to be offline. I called him again but couldn't reach him. I had enough of his BS and sent him a Facebook message that we are over.

We haven't spoken for a week since that until he texted me writing that he had "cold feet" and couldn't go on with it. Yesterday I was thinking about him so I asked what was he afraid of and he just replied saying he's "a little boy that ruins every serious thing he owns".

Now I don't know what to do. I still have some feelings for him but I'm afraid being hurt again with his games and drama. If he didn't want us to be together so why he couldn't just tell me when I spoke to him about the games.

Bah. Life sucks.](*,)
Me.
 
Why would you even consider putting yourself back into that.

He's right, this is immature, teenage drama.

How old are you?
 
I'm 21, he's 20. You're right it IS awaful lot of drama for 3 weeks of dating.. but it's like we have seen each other everyday so it was pretty intensive.
I don't measure love in time. We got attached very quickly.
 
If this is the DRAMA at 3 and a half weeks can you even imagine 3 months? A year? You might not measure love in "time" but he slept with you once and he's jealous of FB "friends." and leaves you feeling bad.

Even if you were in middle school, this would be ridiculous. Unless you are a certified Drama Queen leave this one far, far behind. It's a learning experience, sometimes (like all ways) real love takes time.
 
Sigh.. I can relate to this. Should probably take my own advice but get out of there while you can. The mind games are NOT worth it.. all they do is depress you. If you can't even speak to your other friends while in a relationship I don't see the point of being in one!
 
So the drama continued today as he was texting me...again. He wrote that he didn't want to be alone, and he feels bad but he can't really explain what he wants. He calls himself names like 'idiot' and 'dumb'.

And he really is. I can't believe I even considered being with this guy. He's so immature for his age. I wrote him I'm done understanding him and we shall leave it at that.


Thanks guys for your bits, it really helped me see.
I'm through with him; No more texting, no more contact, nor confusion.:wave:
 
Here comes grandpa with a different take. You have not made a lifetime commitment in three and a half weeks and just maybe you have something to teach each other.

There must be something you really like about him. He seems to have low self esteem so he sabotages himself until the other guy leaves and it proves his point. You could put down Facebook while on a date and spend time with him.

If there is something worthwhile about this guy don't take his shit seriously. Don't allow him to call himself names. Tell him when he does the conversation is over and mean it. Don't let him control your friendships, but give him the time he deserves.

Grandpa here remembers when there was no Internet and no cell phones and when you were with someone you were with them unless you ran into friends. Set some new boundaries and try again. You'll go from this drama to different drama with the next guy anyway.
 
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