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Bestfriend or boyfriend are more important to you? I am dating a guy who is abit older than me, very lovable nice,caring and have all this good quality but sometime seem to bit abit careless. He have this best friend which he knows like 6 years already, and he seem to hang around him alot, and sometime when I call him out to go somewhere he would say he can't because he will be at his friend(best friend) house or will be doing this together that together or will be having dinner together.. Make me feel abit jealous even though his friend is damn straight, or atleast that was what my boyfriend told me.

Do you think I'm being selfish? because i know he has his own life and i have mine, but I just contantly wanting to talk to him so i text and call and stuff, but I know I should back up because I feel i'm being a bother and should let him have some space. He also once said "sorry i can't talk to you all the time i have my own business" make me feel abit embarass. Should I talk to him about this. I really love him and I believe he lvoes me alot to becuase he call me also and we go out places and ........have :sex: and alot and I know he constantly saying he loves me and want me to understand that...So it's going pretty well and I think I should trust him more. :kiss: (*8*) He did alot of sweet things also !oops! Lol i think i loves him so much I'm afraid I might lose him. :rolleyes:
 
No matter what the relationship is, bf, or bf, or whatever, everyone needs their own time and space!

If you were living with him or he you, and he was doing this then it would be a different story...I would say WTF??? But your not living together. You said he has been bf's with this guy for 6 years. How long have you been with this older man? At least 6 years??

Sounds like on his end he is taking pretty good care of you....he calls you, you go places, and he loves you...and he has done sweet things for you!!!! Very cool mate!

Chill out and enjoy life. Be good to one another......life is short and love is hard to find sometimes!
 
Um ...Thanks for replies, I will try to ask and hang out with them if that is ok with him. And i never see this friend of him before but when i go out with him for dinner places and things we do together his best friend usually call and sometime he just said he have to go and then ...well BAM went to his friend...or somewhere, I know his friend is important to him, I guess becuase his best friend had been there for him alot of time bad or good time and well I haven't get the chance to.......Maybe I'm thinking to much. But i will ask him if i can hang out with his friend and do stuff together.
 
Instead of trying to force yourself into "their time" ("Can I hang out with you guys?"), why not suggest inviting the friend over next time you and your guy are together ("Why don't we invite Fred to come hang with us?"). That'll make it less like you're feeling jealous, and more like you're feeling friendly.

Lex
 
Boyfriends and best friends are not the same. Until the two of you make a mutual commitment to be partnered or something more serious, it is best not to be possessive.

On the other hand, if you really are very fond of this person, you may naturally feel some jealousy.
Shep+
 
My tip is to let him have his friends, just like you have yours. You can always talk him about it, but there is always a risk that he can take it the wrong way...
 
You're the fuck puppet; the other friend is the real thing.

Just let him be.

Don't be jealous.

Make sure you also get out with your other friends too.
 
best friends will always come first to me, when things end with your partner (well in general) who is going to be there to pick up the peices, your closest friends.

friends come before partners, just as families come before friends.

Dont be jelous, its not atractive, try to invite his friend out, maybe even get to know his friend more, just chat, after all you both care about the same person.
 
He also once said "sorry i can't talk to you all the time i have my own business" make me feel abit embarass.

his own business as in personal/social life?
or as in he runs a company??


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^ social life, sigh* guys it's not goign so well, I ask him about hsi friend and how htey get to know each other, he said long time ago, I siad maybe i can invite him over sometime, Like G-Lex told me to, he was sort of weird about it but he said ok, so I invite both of them over. This is sort of long of what happened,I feel terrible

He came over last Friday, we talk, First i ask him few question and stuff, then after I ran out of questions he start telling me ...or atleast i think he is, all of this stories, then he just ask my boyfriend "haha did you remember that?" and both of them just laugh and mess around even abit touchy, never seen him laugh and smile so much, I cant even make him smile as much as that. I just sit there and listen and .....like I'm not even there they laugh so hard they forgot I am there, then they talk about going somewhere on Sunday, some place I dont know, and my boyfriend was like sure, then I ask where they are going, they just smile and say it's nothing. Well then after that, they both say htey got to go, and I watch them go I close teh door look hrough the windo, they gave a hug then they both drive off somewhere, and after that I stand in my living room for a longest time thinking, I feel like a complete loser, I see the way they talk and look at each other like they like each other alot

I find out they both meet at some University and was roomate back then, I asked the guy(friend of my bf) if he have a girlfriend, he look at me a while then smile and say no, he siad he dotn want one, I was like Why? he said it's just not a good time, I smile then was like urg.., Then I was about to ask him if he ever likes guy before, but then i stop becuase that is not right, he looked at me and tilt his head abit to oen side and then he turn to my bf and they talk about something but i cant hear. Urg I feel left out, they sit at the table side by side and i was like all the way across the table seem so far.

For 2 days my BF didnt call me, so i called him and talk, and He pick up say "hello" but was laughing like having fun, and then i hear someone talk into background, some thing like i cant really understand, but I think he said ...Actually i dont know and not sure but there are alot of noise and music liek a party. So i ask him where he is, he said, just with his friends, I then ask where, He just didnt answer and he talk to someone, I can hear him say "Be there a minute" then he told me he got to go and just turn off his cell.....

There was like a knot in my stomach and it kills me, It almost make me feel sick. After that He called me the next day, I picked up, it was very early in the morning and he said he is outside, he said dress up and come out, So i dress up come out and went into his car, he said " I want you to meet my friend" then i turn aroudn there was 2 guys in the back seat. He introduce i say hi and they off to this one restaraunt, got there and notice we sit down in a big table and well some more of his friend came, they all dress so formal, hahah i feel so weird because the yare dress very formal and I dress so unformal. they all talk about something, I dont get it, maybe it's his job, then he introduce me to them and they shake my hand, my bf gota phone call so he went soemwhere to talk, I sit there with a bunch of men which i dont even know all staring at me and talk to me about all thsi stuff, I feel sick inside, and was nervous, it's like they want meor soemthign cause they start asking personal question and i feel uncomfortable, then my bf came back said he have to go, i siad I want to go to, he look at me and his friends, then one of the guy siad he can take me home later on, so my bf left me there, I sit down and i just notice all this men are all touchy and sort of touching me, I feel weird I said i have to go, the smae guy said he can take me home, i said it's alright i will take the taxi or bus, he grap me and said it's ok, so he take me home, on the wya home i look out of the window and I notice he look at me alot, it's weird and uncomfortable. I got home and he was like "do yo uwant to give me a good night kiss" i wasl ike urg it's ok. I dont know hwat going on, my bf just drop me there with some random men!

I called my bf the next day, he was at work so i cant so later on he called back and say wassup and ask me if i enjoy my dinner with those guys, i was like hell no! and I ask why did he left me there and stuff he said i'm making big deal out of everything, He siad i dotn seem to have alot of friends so he introduce me to them, Bullshit i got alot of friends and he knows i does. I told him they are touchy and stuff and the guy even ask me if i want a good night kiss, he got quiet and hten he laugh and just simply ask, Really? I was like wtf and well he siad sorry and he didnt mean to, he said he loves me, then we meet up and bam have sex O_O, he said he want me badly and then we just cuddle up in bed and he hold me super tight and kissing me constantly. I fall asleep and wake up he is still sleeping. I just get dress and went home.
 
If I had to guess, you're the "fuck chum". You're the one he goes to for sex. He might think you're OK otherwise, but if he's just going to "hang out" or have fun, it won't be with you. Not sure what was up with the "party" - perhaps that was his way of hooking you up with some other guys who'd like to get in your pants, hoping then you wouldn't cling to him so tightly. But this is all guesswork.

My gut feeling? End it. This doesn't sound good.

Lex
 
guys, just an update....we are over, he told me he liked me, but the one he loves is his best friend, his best frined loves him alot also, i'm just a third person, a stranger, his best friend alway was there to support him, And he said i better off with someone around my age. He said he had sex with his best friend many time when they were together, he said he feels guilty and not right, he said he just stay with me because he thinks it's not right to leave me and he feel bad, but he really loves his best friend. He cant break up with me because there is no reaon, that is why he hooking me up with some guys.

I didnt answer for a while then he about to say sorry but then i just shut him up and told him, I love you but I dont want to be a burden, ..after all i'm nothing comparing to your best friend, I dont know you as much as he does, I dont know you as long as he does, and i love you, so i want to see you happy, if you are happy, then i am happy for you and I will be happy for me too. I break out crying but I look down on the ground, he touch or grab my arm and ask if I am ok, I dont know what is going on in my mind but i slap his hand away and stand there said nothing, I just told him I will be ok, i told him I wont die because of him, I'm not going to give up my life for him, I will keep up and life will get better, life goes on. and I will be happy again.

He said,sorry many time, he gave me a hug and i just stand there. then i told him he should go because i am tire. He said if there is anything he can do for me, if he can find me a new bf! WTF who do you think I am, some loser needing help to find someone? I just said Fuck you and leave, I dont need your help anymore. he said sorry again, and i just said sorry and told him to leave, he ask if we still can be friend, I said yes, He said he will called me. he walk out of the foor, before it's close, i cant hold longer so i just cry more, and i think he heard it, urg. He called me that night and i told him i'm going to sleep.



Gosh i hate it when this happen, my eyes all hurt now nad you guys are right, i'm just a fucking fuck toy, the oen he loves is his friend, nto me, i'm so stupid, why cant i figure that out much earlier, I'm so fucking stupid and i'm an idiot,i hate it why i cant figure it out much earlier, i hate it that i cry in frotn of him, make me look weak...Everythign seem to go so well and this is all just happen at once, and i'm just nothing nothing not even someone he fuckign love.

fuck it
 
It aint you... he was IMO dishonest with you from the beginning.
 
I know, why cant hhe fucking tell me from the beggining, he could have safe me some time, and i would be less into him, why the fuck did he fuck me and said he loves some other fucker?
 
It was there from the beginning. Although you notice, he was more into his best friend than you. I'm sorry, but if a guy is spending way more time with his best friend than he is with you then you are just an option not a priority to him.
 
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