Bi or Gay.. How do you decide?

[umhorny]

Do you need to decide?












mmm................. i dont know eh............................
are there any online tests????????????????

im 20 and just starting with same sex... lol guys..
yea experimenting.
so how do i decide.. or do i not...

cheers

 

[bluepheonix]

lol I dont think you do decide... I think it just is. Even if it eludes you now, you'll find out in time.

 

[cumtasteit]

Oh, what the hell try it both ways and go with what feels most comfortable. XXX

 

[hopnung]

There's no way to really "decide" - you just kind of do it.

 

[Ryan444]

One doesnt decide their sexuality despite contrary belief.
And no you do not need to decide just do whatever feels good man.

 

[umhorny]

One doesnt decide their sexuality despite contrary belief.
And no you do not need to decide just do whatever feels good man.

yea i reckon man..........

is it about going back to my childhood and picking out any gay things i used to do LOL or str8 things haha

Yea I agree ryan You are born with your sexuality. You dont decide.

guess i dont know which way to swing lol..

i always wanted a gf for like a long relationship..
when ive been experimenting with guys.. i just want to be physical..
but yea
since recently i have actually been looking at guys in bars .. i never used to do that.

where to now lol... i feel like i want to label myself.. or tell others im at least bi..
but yea big move i guess.. maybe bad for work.. getting public vote etc.

 

[kk-lonewolf-37]

umhorny,

Being straight, bi or gay doesn't matter. You said it yourself it is just a label used for others to identify with. What matters is that you find someone you can love and that loves you wether that person is a guy or girl. If your happy why worry about the label?

I am a married bisexual, but I consider myself straight because I have not had sex with a guy in over seventeen years. When I met my wife it was love at first sight, I knew she was the one. I made a promise to myself that as long as we are together, I will not have sex with another guy. So dont try and put someone else's label on yourself. Find someone that makes you happy and you are happy with, and FUCK THE LABELS.

Lone Wolf

 

[umhorny]

umhorny,

Being straight, bi or gay doesn't matter. You said it yourself it is just a label used for others to identify with. What matters is that you find someone you can love and that loves you wether that person is a guy or girl. If your happy why worry about the label?

I am a married bisexual, but I consider myself straight because I have not had sex with a guy in over seventeen years. When I met my wife it was love at first sight, I knew she was the one. I made a promise to myself that as long as we are together, I will not have sex with another guy. So dont try and put someone else's label on yourself. Find someone that makes you happy and you are happy with, and FUCK THE LABELS.

Lone Wolf

Thanks lonewolf...

that was pretty wise.

Just find someone i love..
what if i love more than one person/type.. haha negotiate?/compromise

lol... i know a bi gal

 

[954dude]

lol I dont think you do decide... I think it just is. Even if it eludes you now, you'll find out in time.

Couldn't have said it better. You'll know when the time is right. But they are just labels...you sound like a regular horny young guy, have safe fun!

 

[kk-lonewolf-37]

Thanks lonewolf...

Just find someone i love..
what if i love more than one person/type.. haha negotiate?/compromise

QUOTE]

As long as you're happy and the person/people, if that is what you want, are happy then why worry about it. If everyone in the situation is happy with the situation then what everyone else thinks shouldn't matter!

Just do what feels right to you! Whether that be with a guy, girl or BOTH!

Lone Wolf

 

[screwnutty]

I have to agree with Lone Wolf.

You just come to notice one day. There's no need to rush things. Just play safe, explore and let things develop naturally. Good Luck!

 

[dizzzzzy]

You can't just decide. Well you can, but you won't be happy.

You just do what makes you happy. I'm into guys and girls. As a whole I'm more attatracted to women, but a big dick can chagne things LOL.

But for myself as far as something serious that's long term I prefer women. If I were to get with a guy just for the sake of it, I probably wouldn't be happy or as happy.

Its just something you feel not decide

 

[umhorny]

happy

thanks for the replies eh guys

lol

u should give me some mail lol.. or chat on msn or..

Ill just let it happen eh...
i want to come out tho.. so come out as bi.. hmm.. guess i just wanna tell a few close people.. brother sister mother.. (father not really want to tell him)
and this hot bi gal lol..

yea.. but im thinkin if i tell one it will just spiral eh??
its hard to get jobs with these labels.
tis in new zealand.. especially public jobs.

 

[umhorny]

You can't just decide. Well you can, but you won't be happy.

You just do what makes you happy. I'm into guys and girls. As a whole I'm more attatracted to women, but a big dick can chagne things LOL.

But for myself as far as something serious that's long term I prefer women. If I were to get with a guy just for the sake of it, I probably wouldn't be happy or as happy.

Its just something you feel not decide

feel yea that makes sense

good wording man!!

i feel i want a gf for long term eh.. hmm.. maybe thats just because im used to that .. used to dreaming that in my head.. hmm.. but yea... shud have some fun with gals.. the ladies and make up my mind lol..

haha..hmmm then think its not just about sex.. eh.. its about life partner.. lol
but seriously i guess past gfs have been friends best friends eh..

so just need to find a best friend lol

 

[dizzzzzy]

feel yea that makes sense

good wording man!!

i feel i want a gf for long term eh.. hmm.. maybe thats just because im used to that .. used to dreaming that in my head.. hmm.. but yea... shud have some fun with gals.. the ladies and make up my mind lol..

haha..hmmm then think its not just about sex.. eh.. its about life partner.. lol
but seriously i guess past gfs have been friends best friends eh..

so just need to find a best friend lol

Just do what makes you happy. Regardless of what anyone thinks. In the past I've known guys that wanted to be serious and it just didn't feel right. Had I gone for it odds are it wouldn't have gone well. I just knew for something serious it wasn't right for me.

So again its something you feel rather than decide.