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Bi, with absolutely no desire to come out?

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Ok. So I'm coming to the determination that I am bisexual.
I have absolutely no desire to tell anyone. Is that weird?
I have no desire to actually be in a relationship with a man, I just fantasize online watching porn and stuff.
I am attracted to women and plan on getting married to one and having kids some day. I just don't feel it necessary to mention to anyone my fantasies about men.

No real response needed on here, just felt like sharing. Anyone else feel the same way?? Or have any comments on the situation?
 
Maybe you can find the right woman, one that will share a cock with you.

I am a closet bi. I'd love for my wife to ask me for a threesome so I can suck a dick and blame it on her :twisted:

Seriously, don't get into a relationship with a woman who is going to give you regrets further in life. You will both be unhappy and probably end up divorced.
 
I think it's completely understandable that you don't want to come out. Being with a guy, particularly in a relationship, is often times a huge act of subversion against social and family norms. Gay guys only do it because they feel they have no other choice. But being bi, it's understandable that you'd opt to be in a situation that's totally supported and encouraged by just about all of society.
 
i used to think like that but i am belieiving now that i wouldn't mind a relationshipwith a man :/
 
oh, of course I understand. why would you want to reveal any of your dirty desires to anyone, those should kept silent because surely they're to be ashamed of! and it's better to bottle everything up instead of telling anyone about the real you, it'll avoid confrontation in the long run.

you should just get in a relationship with a woman, and fuck guys on the side without telling her.

:rolleyes:
 
FossilForbes said:
Ok. So I'm coming to the determination that I am bisexual.
I have absolutely no desire to tell anyone. Is that weird?
I have no desire to actually be in a relationship with a man, I just fantasize online watching porn and stuff.
I am attracted to women and plan on getting married to one and having kids some day. I just don't feel it necessary to mention to anyone my fantasies about men.

No real response needed on here, just felt like sharing. Anyone else feel the same way?? Or have any comments on the situation?
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Yeah, I feel the exact same way. I told my close family and whatnot, but not my friends or extended family or anything.

I've even tried to push myself into a mode of thinking where I could be in a relationship with a guy. And I just can't do it. I've tried to will myself gay, and you just can't make yourself fall in love with men if that's not who you are. I feel physically attracted to some guys, but falling in love with one is just not something I think I can do. Have a little "guys only" fun, yes. Pledge our undying love as soultwins, no.

Sometimes I think gay people just think we bisexual men are gays in denial. I don't think any of us are in denial. It's just that some of us like girls more, some of us like guys more. And some are perfectly 50/50. I fall on the hetero end of the spectrum. Maybe you do, too.
 
I am bi and dont ever plan on coming out the closet. So you are not th only one.
 
FossilForbes said:
Ok. So I'm coming to the determination that I am bisexual.
I have absolutely no desire to tell anyone. Is that weird?
I have no desire to actually be in a relationship with a man, I just fantasize online watching porn and stuff.
I am attracted to women and plan on getting married to one and having kids some day. I just don't feel it necessary to mention to anyone my fantasies about men.

No real response needed on here, just felt like sharing. Anyone else feel the same way?? Or have any comments on the situation?
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are you a republican?
 
Bi, too and never coming out.
Sometimes I wonder though if I'm more gay than bi, and that bi is just a copout.
 
chellelaro said:
are you a republican?
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No,He's Barney Frank.:rolleyes: What kind of question is that?He's just a dude,like any other dude. [-XGod,Just because ,he does not feel the desire to act on his attraction is no excuse to stereo-type him as a Republican or a member of any other Geo-Political Group.:grrr:
 
Nope. I've told several close friends that I am Bi. They're all OK with it. They treat me the same way as always
 
ejbonk said:
No,He's Barney Frank.:rolleyes: What kind of question is that?He's just a dude,like any other dude. [-XGod,Just because ,he does not feel the desire to act on his attraction is no excuse to stereo-type him as a Republican or a member of any other Geo-Political Group.:grrr:
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This was meant to be a joke. :D
 
Your coming out or not is purely your own matter.

Both doing it and not doing it are controversial and laden with their own inner complexities and drawbacks.

For many people, there will never be the right decision in this matter and for the others, this is an amazing opportunity.

It really boils down to the fact that only you know, what's really good and right for you and only you can call shots, when it comes to your intimate life.

SC
 
being Bi is soo much easier once you move into your on place.. But i'm still hiding close to my heart.. I don't think I could ever come out to even my closest friends.. They're all macho men and bible thumpers. They're all great people but they'd never understand, or keep a secret like that to themselves :(

Which I love this site, I get to expell all the "holy shit he's hot!" thoughts get mixed in with the holy shit she's HOT

Even though not having roomates for once in my life has given more more ways to fantasies ..

Good luck to yo man :)
:)
 
I don't know how I feel about coming out as bi. I have helped three really good friends deal with accepting being gay and eventually coming out. It was great for all of them because they were truly free for the first time, even with some of the challenges of coming out. I know it can be liberating and empowering to finally be yourself, but so many people don't understand the complexities of sexuality, especially as it relates to bisexuals. There are a few friends who know and it has only increased my anxiety. I'm someone who holds close to his secrets and doesn't like revealing anything, especially some thing so personal. I think that unless I'm in a real, lasting relationship with a guy, no one needs to know that I'm bisexual. Why go through the hardships of coming out for nothing?
 
curiousguyUNT said:
I don't know how I feel about coming out as bi. I have helped three really good friends deal with accepting being gay and eventually coming out. It was great for all of them because they were truly free for the first time, even with some of the challenges of coming out. I know it can be liberating and empowering to finally be yourself, but so many people don't understand the complexities of sexuality, especially as it relates to bisexuals. There are a few friends who know and it has only increased my anxiety. I'm someone who holds close to his secrets and doesn't like revealing anything, especially some thing so personal. I think that unless I'm in a real, lasting relationship with a guy, no one needs to know that I'm bisexual. Why go through the hardships of coming out for nothing?
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:D That's why it is call a Private Life as opposed to Your Public Life.
Your Private Life is NoBody's Business,But Your Own. Some People just do not Appear to Understand this,These Days.:D
 
As many others have said, you have to do what feels right for you. If you don't want to come out, then don't. Just do what feels right for you.
 
FossilForbes said:
Ok. So I'm coming to the determination that I am bisexual.
I have absolutely no desire to tell anyone. Is that weird?
I have no desire to actually be in a relationship with a man, I just fantasize online watching porn and stuff.
I am attracted to women and plan on getting married to one and having kids some day. I just don't feel it necessary to mention to anyone my fantasies about men.

No real response needed on here, just felt like sharing. Anyone else feel the same way?? Or have any comments on the situation?
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flixelblix said:
Maybe you can find the right woman, one that will share a cock with you.

I am a closet bi. I'd love for my wife to ask me for a threesome so I can suck a dick and blame it on her :twisted:

Seriously, don't get into a relationship with a woman who is going to give you regrets further in life. You will both be unhappy and probably end up divorced.
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Sorry I just had to point that out.....#-o He doesnt want to do anything with a guy....just gets horny watching gay porn.....
 
I'm bi and I have no desire to "come out." I hate the whole "coming out" deal anyway...complete BS, IMO. My sexuality is my sexuality and no one else needs to know or care.
 
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