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Bicurious dude pressuring me to have sex.

G-Lexington

G-Lexington

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"I'm not interested in having sex with you."

...what's so hard about saying that?

Lex
 
OK, one of two things is going on here.

1. If I said to you "This guy wants to do something with me, but I really don't want to, but I can't tell him no because he's so aggressive and I don't want to piss him off"...would you consider this guy a "friend"? That's not a description of a "friend". Yeah, sometimes I'll go along and do something my friends want to do that I'm not overly gung-ho about. Like seeing a movie I'm not crazy about seeing. But if he's "aggressive", and you're thinking you have to do things with him to avoid pissing him off, he is not a friend. That's not how friendships work. In which case, you tell him to find some other guy to fuck, and leave you out of it.

2. You're getting off on this. Not just on "my straight friend wants to fuck me" but "my straight friend is going to coerce me into letting him fuck me". In which case, I really can't give much advice here.

Lex
 
Just say no,simple as that.
 
If you don't say no to him, then you're leading him on. That means YOU, and you alone, are enabling his aggressive behavior.

Then own it. Don't blame him.
 
Good god, man, strap on a pair.

You're not a disposable sex toy for every bi guy to use like a Fleshlight that makes coffee in the morning. If you don't want to have sex with him, don't. You say you don't want to piss him off... You're putting your ass on the line for that?

Fucking hell.
 
"No (thank you)" is a reasonable way to respond. Saying nothing is just increasing his interest.
 
I totally get where your coming from! If you don't want to, you don't have to! Plus if he's really your friend, he'll understand. Stand your ground grasshopper!! :)
 
If he's that aggressive about sex and you can't see that as a good reason to say no, there's no helping you.

Jasun is right - grow a set of furry ones guy. I say it not out of malice, but seriously.
 
tell him it will CHANGE your friendship. Explain to him the risk of losing you as a friend.

Oh, and please tell him you might be the "only gay guy" he knows, but not the "go to guy" for gay sex because you are not an experimental item.

Sex, even if its anonymous or NSA, needs to have some kind of spark or interest. If he wants just experiment with himself and have "gay sex" there are many ways. Go to a gay bar, call an escort, go online to a dating site and meet up with locals... or even craigslist. Sit down and explain all this to him.

Please, never give in...unless YOU want to. Nobody can force you to or pressure you to.

If he's a friend, then tell him to not treat you like a sex toy.

The best you can do is to be a matchmaker and find him another dude that is willing to have sex for those kinds of reasons.

Or scare him off by telling him (lying, ofcourse) that you're a strict top only and if he wants to experiment, you will have to be on top and explain to him you'll never be a bottom now or futre, he would have to find someone else.

bicurious guys will be scared of that idea...easilly.
 
You could help him set up a Adam 4 Adam profile and see what he finds there.




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Take him to a bath house...Take separate cars so you can leave after you have shown him around. It will be like a wet dream for him.
 
Let me just say that, if I were you, I'd dump him as a friend. His attitude on this whole matter is skeevy, and he seems to think you are a disposable sex toy that he should have the right to play with if he so wishes. No matter what he says, he doesn't need this to move on with his life. Don't ever let somebody pressure you into having sex. Just because you're gay doesn't mean you are obligated to have sex with every man with a pulse. If he won't take no for an answer, then maybe it's time for you to move on.
 
He said, "You are the only gay guy I know, so you are my only option." You can point out to him, as a friend, that you are not his only option. There are ways he can meet other gay men: online meet sites, gay bars, organizations, and even in the course of everyday life. You could maybe be his "coach" on how to meet guys that will be interested in him, and how to handle himself in those situations. But if you're not interested in coaching him, then just let him handle it himself. But don't succumb to any pressure from him to have sex with you if you don't want to have sex with him. Just keep saying "no" any time he brings it up and eventually he will realize it's not going to happen with you.
 
Yeah... "I want some cock, and it's you or nothing."

What a sweet talker.




I had a straight friend once approach me and say "I see how you look at me. Women don't find me attractive usually and they never look at me like you do... Just once I want to have sex with someone who's actually turned on by me that much."

Yeah, he was probably just wanting to try some cock once... But meh... At least his sales pitch was hot.
 
I may as well say it before somebody else does, Soil...

...did it work?

Lex
 
Soilwork said:
"I see how you look at me. Women don't find me attractive usually and they never look at me like you do... Just once I want to have sex with someone who's actually turned on by me that much."
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I have to admit, that line would probably win me over, at least at that moment. It would probably get me in bed with him.

On further reflection, though, it's not very complimentary. It doesn't say, "I want to have sex with you because you're hot and sexy and I love you." It's really only saying, "I want to have sex with you because you're hot for me (and therefore you will do a lot)."

And the line, "You are the only gay guy I know, so you are my only option" is actually a mild insult. It's like saying, "I want to be with a guy, but you're all I can get, so I'll settle for you."
 
bw92116 said:
I have to admit, that line would probably win me over, at least at that moment. It would probably get me in bed with him.

On further reflection, though, it's not very complimentary. It doesn't say, "I want to have sex with you because you're hot and sexy and I love you." It's really only saying, "I want to have sex with you because you're hot for me (and therefore you will do a lot)."
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To me it was more like... We'll both get something out of the deal.

He was right
 
Hell, I got a semi- reading it. But I still don't think I would've gone to bed with him. But then again, we're kinda different in that regard. :)

Lex
 
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