big crush

[anarodrigues]

Hello

I have a huge crush on this guy - he's 19, i'm 23. I find him looking at me sometimes, and making stuff with his friends wanting to be seen by me. the same stuff i did when i was his age and wanted to be noticed by an older guy i had a crush on at the time. like saying something funny to his friends or drinking shots and the look in my direction as if to see i am looking. One day i was drunk on the disco and pat him on the back when he passed by, and now he always does that to me even though we never spoke.

I'm not gay, I'm bisexual and never tried anything with a guy before. No one knows i'm attracted to guys. I don't know about him, he's considered straight but for someone as beautiful as him, he's never with girls which is weird.
I know his sister, i'm kind of her friend, she's hot, 22 years old, hits on me sometimes but i never acted on it. maybe he looks to me that way because i'm older, friends with his sister and a popular person along with my friends in my city. I'm also friends with his best friends brother.

Is it possible he's interested? how do i approach him? i thought on saying something like: You're claire's brother, right? and then say something like he can count on me while his sister is away in california for the year. i dont know. can you help please?

Sorry for my bad english and confusion, I'm from spain.

 

[Georgiadude]

next time you see him just approach him and introduce yourself. say something along the lines of I've seen you around and I know we have some mutual friends. let the conversation flow from there. talk for a while and see how it goes. maybe the next time you do something with his sister or a mutual friend include him. don't over complicate things. he may be a little shy and can't take the first step so it's time for you to do it.

Steven

 

[TX-Beau]

We don't know him, we don't know you, we don't know how much of this is in your head, and how much is real. There is no one in here with your answer.

The only person who can answer your question is him, an you will never know unless you let HIM know YOU are interested.

 

[Seasoned]

The easiest way to find out is to be direct or to be out of the closet.

 

[checkinthingsout]

From what you have described, I do not think he is interested at all. He sounds like a shy younger guy who admires you because you are older and "cooler". But still, the easiest way is to be direct and ask, as Seasoned advised.

 

[anarodrigues]

First of all, thaanks to all the replies

I finally talked to him in the club, he was very nice and receptive, asked my name and said he knew my cousin etc. But they're not great friends, just know each other. We talked for a moment then went to the bar for a drink. Then I left because i felt like i was too drunk to keep talking and might say stupid things.

Now I'm thinking about it all the time. I wonder how I can take it a step forward, to become friends. The biggest problem is the age difference i think. I don't care if he's gay or interested sexually, i'm more interested in a friend right now.

Don't want to add him on facebook or anything either, because it might look too sudden and whatnot.

Any advice? I'm not used to making new friends out of the blue, it's usually the same old group of friends since childhood. But they're all gone now to university so it's a bit lonely here this year. ahah.

 

[checkinthingsout]

Add him on Facebook. It is not too soon since you guys know each other. Most people don't look for an ulterior motive from a friend request.

 

[Georgiadude]

you're way over thinking this. you're making it a lot more complicated than it needs to be. send the friend request. the worst that'll happen is he ignores it. I highly doubt he'll ignore it. just keep talking with him. a friendship isn't going to fall out of the sky. it takes some communication. you've broken the ice. just talk to the man. if he's not interested he'll let you know.

Steven