beekman001
Not a Cabbage
As far as what both of you guys said...I have never wanted a guy on the side or girl on the side when I was with a member of the same sex. If I was in love with or in a serious relationship with a member of either sex, I'm the relationship with THEM. Now, I'm not dissing open-relationships, or when a mistake happens because sometimes they do...I'm dissing on the fact of being "truly in love", I just don't see how STAYING in a relationship with another person and CONTINOUSLY having a person on the side is not acceptable.
And concerning Beekman's comment, and if I am taking this wrong or seeing a different side of what you are trying to say please write me and I will apologize immediately, but if I am taking it as you meant it... I am asking for replies from people about my relationships or my sexuality because I like to find the theories behind peoples thoughts and motivations and I like to question them on non-ethical or non-reasonable thoughts...such as people believing homosexuals shouldn't get married, or people who STATE that they believe in the bible as the complete and utter final authority and THEN PICK AND CHOOSE which verses they can take literally and the verses they can see aren't meant too (such as all the outrageous claims in Leviticus), or when people believe that homosexuality isn't a choice but yet bisexuality is a choice or a lack there of (concerning your either homosexual or heterosexual with no inbetween...)
I guess I'm just simply verbally expressing my viewpoint in hopes that others will embrace the same realistic and open and honest and kind views of what the world should be like...everyone truly believing everyone is equal and treating everyone and everything equally, loving one another...etc...
But enough of my rambles...just think you can fall in love with anyone who catches your eye or fits your own personal expectations of a future "soul-mate" and it shouldn't matter what race, religion, sex...etc, that they may be.
Nope I went off on a tangent and left the meat of the post on my scratch-pad. (that'll teach me to post late at night)
That said, I've never seen the point in the labels people seem to need for their relationships. In the end there are only two people who's opinion's of your relationship matter, yours and your SO's.
The point I was originally going to make is that your post gave me the impression you were stuggling with comming out and I wanted to prompt some metacognition. (w00t I used a big word!) It's very easy to over-analyze these things and quickly loose whatever it was that made your relationship special in the first place.
Big words are always good...I'm trying to quit cussing because my mom says I cuss because I don't have a good vocabulary, which is bogus because I know what a lot of words mean I just don't tend to think of using them in conversation...which I need to work on. But thanks Beekman, I appreciate your replies and yes, my relationship with John is extremely special!