Bisexual, Tell Everyone I'm Heterosexual, But Want To Tell Otherwise

[beautifulsfucktoy]

So, title... My best friend is... pretty homophobic but not to the degree where he can't be anywhere near them... Actually I'm not sure, he tends to steer conversation away from it haha
I told him I viewed gay clip a few years ago and he kept putting dirt on me for it for about a month (gently, no stabbings!). Needless to say, I've viewed more than a clip... Some of the profile pictures on that forum at JustUsBoys.com are pretty... explicit... Anyway

Mum wouldn't mind and dad has two gay brothers (the youngest 2 out 6, 1 sibling a girl - science is real! wooh!)

No one would look at me the same way... That would annoy the CRAP out of me.

I'm a virginnnn I haven't been with any boys, but I have had my first kiss (a few actually) from a girl.
Neither porn turns me on more than the other...

Sooooooo where to from here
Just keep sailing my little boat
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmnn

 

[Seasoned]

I see it this way: your main responsibility in life is to be your authentic self. That is the best way to be a conscious participant in all of your relationships. Why should your views, identity, etc. take the back seat with anyone in your life? You do nothing wrong by being yourself. Would a true friend ever force someone to be something they're not? So this guy is your friend and all he has to do is show up while you have to show up and shut up? On the other hand I believe homophobia can be cured. I would advise you to not lose yourself in the name of friendship.

 

[rareboy]

The problem with the best friends is that sometimes they're not.

Have you ever thought that maybe it is time to make other friends?

I think for you it is.

Don't necessarily drop your existing friend, but you can't define your entire life by only being what you think he wants you to be.

Grow up. Move beyond the type of 'friendships' that don't allow you to be on equal footing.

 

[Lube]

Do you look at your uncles differently? Why? Does their gayness bother you?

 

[beautifulsfucktoy]

The problem with the best friends is that sometimes they're not.

Have you ever thought that maybe it is time to make other friends?

I think for you it is.

Don't necessarily drop your existing friend, but you can't define your entire life by only being what you think he wants you to be.

Grow up. Move beyond the type of 'friendships' that don't allow you to be on equal footing.

I have a healthy group of friends actually... This best friend of mine is more like a brother than a friend. He's helped me through a lot of stuff at school (social stuff for one - he was the cool kid, I was the kid that most people picked on). I'm also an only child.

Do you look at your uncles differently? Why? Does their gayness bother you?

What made you think that?

People aren't like me, most of them seem to think sexuality changes who you are as a person when really all that it is is something you choose to do... It's like riding the bus instead of the train...

One of dad's gay brothers is my godfather, who, quite frankly you wouldn't know is gay unless he said so (as was the case)... The other brother talks like one... Why do some people talk like that... haha

 

[beautifulsfucktoy]

Just noticed your signature text, Lube... Why does it matter whether or not people know if you're homosexual?

To clarify, I'm in a pickle because I've always felt like I don't fit in and my "open-mindedness" hasn't helped that haha

 

[rareboy]

I have a healthy group of friends actually... This best friend of mine is more like a brother than a friend. He's helped me through a lot of stuff at school (social stuff for one - he was the cool kid, I was the kid that most people picked on). I'm also an only child.

So you're saying that you have a healthy group of friends who know you're gay and love you for it and not in spite of it?

If he's like a brother to you, then you shouldn't have any problem telling him that you are a homo.

Or do the fashionable thing that all the young homos are doing these days. Tell him that you think you may be bi-sexual.

At some point, you've got to put him and yourself to the test and find out whether fear of loneliness and rejection is the only real foundation of your relationship with this childhood friend or whether there is something of real depth here.

In my case, all my highschool chums and many of my uni acquaintances failed this test, thereby clearing the way for me to move on and make real friends that I have kept for life.

 

[Lube]

The other brother talks like one... Why do some people talk like that... haha

See, in very subtle ways, you keep revealing that you are not comfortable being gay.

You try to make light of it, but deep down inside it bothers you.

 

[Lube]

Just noticed your signature text, Lube... Why does it matter whether or not people know if you're homosexual?

To clarify, I'm in a pickle because I've always felt like I don't fit in and my "open-mindedness" hasn't helped that haha

It's not a matter of telling people you're gay--it's a matter of not hiding that you're gay. A subtle but important difference.

I told myself I wasn't gay for decades because I felt like I didn't fit in. But then I didn't fit in to the straight world, either, no matter how I tried.

There's no point in fighting your sexuality. You can't conquer it. Just accept who you are. You'll be a lot happier.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>Why do some people talk like that... haha

Because some people are like that. haha

There's this common belief that "gay-acting" people are putting on an act, but "straight-acting" people are just being themselves. And, if anything, that's backwards. It's more likely that the straight-acting ones are the people putting on an act - because they're ashamed of their sexuality, or they don't want anybody to know about it. It's the gay-acting ones who are saying "You know what? Fuck it. I'm just gonna be me."

Lex

 

[TX-Beau]

Look, it comes down to a choice, are you going to face down your fear, or are you going to let it rule you?

You're the only one who can answer that question.

It sounds like you're throwing obstacles in your own path.

You say that your family wouldn't mind, then you turn around and say that:

"..most people aren't like you..."

Which I presume is a reference to acceptance of gay people.

Well if your family is not going to freak, why not start with them, and let the friend ride for awhile.

It's not his life to live, and if the only reason you have for not telling anyone is because of him, then that sounds like the problem is in yourself, not him.

You will never be happy with a life that you live on other people's terms.

 

[kissthesky88]

When you're older, you will regret not being out and open and honest from the beginning.

This is a guarantee.

Your feelings won't go away, they'll only get stronger.

"Sorrow drips into your heart through a pinhole. Like a faucet that leaks, and there is comfort in the sound. But while you debate half empty or half full... it slowly rises. Your love is gonna drown."

 

[slnattak]

I don't think straight acting guys are acting. I think it's more like:

Straight acting gay: Man why are all the faggots on tv effeminate, and girly and talk about fashion. I hate all that shit.

straight acting gay: why don't guys hit on me ? Man, I really like that one guy but I don't know if he's gay or not....he acts so masculine and normal. nah he's probably straight

straight acting gay: why do flaming faggots make an issue about being gay , why can't they just shut up about it and live their lives.... oh damn I'd really like to meet a guy.

 

[Audio Tech]

Been there, done that. I went down the same road as Lube. That BS cost me half a LIFETIME of suffering. NOT anymore!

It IS better to be yourself sooner than later. The feelings just get stronger until they break you. Sooner or later.... you have no choice but to give in to them. Do it sooner. Live in peace.