Bisexual

[Gruff01]

Hi i have always heard people saying bisexuals do not exist and all the usual excuses and bi-phobic (?) attitudes. Anyway i just thought i'd have a say about why i believe bisexuals DO exist. I have always viewed sexuality as something that is different in everyone and there is no set-in-stone "oh it's a boy/girl that means he/she will marry a woman/man when he/she is older " that seems to be forced onto people. If it were like that then people would basically be robots, doing something that we "all" have to do... and be.. blah blah. It is our differences that make us human. We are not programmed like robots, we are not "perfect" (whatever that may be). So by those points i believe that there are no such things as "100% straight" people.

Think of sexuality as a line. Everyone has it. Just as example picture the right to be the "straight" side and the left to be the "gay/lesbian" side. There is a middle ground in that line which is the "bisexual" part of it. And even then it is not a set 50/50 gender attraction for bisexual people. I lose respect for people who go out of thier way to cause problems when sexuality should never be that. Humans are different and sexuality is just one of many attributes of a human.

I hope this post makes sense. I just had to give my views as i hear it a lot and get annoyed.

 

[cklover]

I too have read where "experts" say that bisexuals do not exist. Apparently it is impossible for someone to be sexually attracted to both sexes. I am extremely attracted to women. I like to look at them and feel them and have sex with them. I get a hardon looking at women. I love watching women in porn whether it's straight or lesbian. I also include transexual women as women. I am extremely attracted to them and very sexually aroused by them. I am also sexually attracted to men. I like to watch gay porn and get very turned on by it. I get a hardon whenever I think about sucking a cock or getting fucked. I love to feel a cock in me and I'm always hard when I am sucking a cock, or getting fucked, or feeling up a guy - in short anything sexual with a man turns me on. So I say piss on the "experts" who don't know what they are talking about.

 

[hermanding]

it sounds like the best of both worlds
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[Dodger712]

Well I tend to disagree with the bias of these "experts". I do agree with Alfred Kinsey's scale though. Sexuality can be (and is for some of us) very fluid. Why do people insist on cramming others or themselves into a firm catagory? That is senseless! WHAT you choose to call yourself/label yourself is your business. We tend to catagorize ourselves for the convenience of others. I have had two long-term girlfriends and even have two children by one of these woman
BUT I do NOT label myself as "bi-sexual" or (God forbid! for me at least) "Straight". I have always been emotionally attracted to other men though, obviously, my "parts" are happy with any friendly attention. Physical attraction is another thing altogether. This is why there are many men who will say they are straight but they will "get off" with another guy. The EMOTIONAL attraction is with the opposite sex for these men. I personally hate to label myself because I feel that limits me. IF I should ever meet someone and fall in love again, it will be 99% likely to be a man but it MIGHT be a woman. Who knows, who cares, why bother to label and limit. This planet is such a scary place at times wherever one can find LOVE, it should be okay to act on it without having to defend that decision to others. Not their business anyway. Just my opinion and 2 cents.

 

[jesusfarts]

yup, bisexuals exist. i happen to be one.
for me personally, my bisexuality doesn't mean i'm attracted to a wider variety of qualities than a straight or gay person does. there are just certain things i find attractive and if i can find that in a girl, thats awesome. if i can find it in a guy, that's cool too.

sexuality definitely is complex and fluid. that's why i am what i am and i dont try to justify it.

 

[Storybook_Man]

I believe Bisexual men and women do exsist, just they might favor one side more then the other.

 

[giorgiobaby]

I know several bisexuals of both sexes. We had a going away party for an Army buddy who was going overseas for 2years, the next day I realized he had been with me, another guy and a girl in the same night. All 3 of us are still friends and still laught about this.

 

[conrad]

IMHO, the term bisexual is used to cover too many possible approaches to sex. I have never had any interest in threesomes. Nor, have I ever needed or wanted to have one male and one female partner as an on-going arrangement. In my own case, I prefer the term AMBISEXUAL rather than bisexual. I want only one relationship with one partner at a time. But, I have learned that I can be happy in and sustain a relationship with a man; but, I can also be happy and sustain a relationship with a woman. I honor love whenever I find it and with whomever I find it. Love and sex belong together and sex that is prompted by deep love for the other rather than simple animal urges ought always to be the goal. [/U]FONT="Arial"][/FONT]

 

[flixelblix]

I go both ways. My first wife strattled my face while a guy sucked my dick.
I've done one on one with both sexes, prefer women over men, but there are times where I just crave a hard cock.

I look at sex (purely sexual, no love involved) as a sliding scale. You have the 1's who are homophobic and like to cruise the gay bars so they can beat the shit out of you as you walk out and then there is the 10, the gay guy who finds women to be disgusting creatures and would not touch one to save his life.

I run between a 4 and a 6 depending on my mood at the time. Mostly closer to a 4 though. I'll move a woman in with me, I won't share a bed and home with a man.

 

[Swim69mer]

It's a double standard, the most discrimination I think is against bisexual men. We must all except females can kiss another girl and that female bisexuality exists, but when it comes to men he has to be either gay or straight. it's bullshit.

 

[kramer362]

I'm gay, but it's funny for people to say bisexuality doesn't exist. It's like saying homosexuality doesn't actually exist. I think a person knows if they are turned on by both men and women. Particularly men cause the penis is like an arousal meter...

To me it's like having someone question the actuality of any bodily function you've had. Telling a guy who gets an erection at the sight of naked women AND men that he can't like both and must be either gay or straight is like telling someone who farted that they don't have gas... kinda funny but sad.

And I bet some of the hostility towards bisexuals is just from gay people who are jealous that bi people can fit in with straight people when they talk about enjoying sex with the opposite sex (particularly men talking about fucking women). I know I'm kinda jealous in a way but only cause being turned on by both sexes seems awesome, plus the whole fitting in thing. I'd never be angry or hostile towards someone for it though, else I might as well be hostile towards straight people for being in the majority and not facing discrimination, and it could go further yet.

 

[Gruff01]

It's a double standard, the most discrimination I think is against bisexual men. We must all except females can kiss another girl and that female bisexuality exists, but when it comes to men he has to be either gay or straight. it's bullshit.

Yes exactly. Why is it alright for any woman to kiss and cuddle and hug and be so close in public places and be seen as a normal thing. There's nothing like "oh they are lesbians" but as soon as 2 men hug it is "they are gay". I believe there are more lesbians in the world than is known because of this acceptance that women can do these things it is easier for them to accept it and not have to let people know. The world is strange and if everyone were bisexual all these problems would not exist. Somewhere years ago something must have changed in peoples views about male-male closeness because it must have existed back then. looking at old pictures painted by people show such things but no mention of sexuality. Probably because it did not matter hundreds of years ago. It is a shame because bisexual men do not deserve to be so discriminated against. I also believe it explains why women can become friends easier and open up about feelings because they don't have any fear of being told they are lesbians for being close. Perhaps the world should learn that sexuality should not matter. I like the quote "Love knows no gender". I heard it from somewhere and it is true.

 

[CGHJ]

The Kinsey scale is where it's at!

Personally I always laugh when I hear that bisexuals don't exist. I think most men are bisexual to a degree. It's just the matter of the degree.

 

[TaigaStar]

Let's not forget the recycled stereotypes launched at us...

 

[NoStarDies]

I agree with the "sexuality is fluid"
Because I've been with girls and guys and the attraction has changed over the years. I've only ever been attracted to one sex more than the other, never equally, but I am attracted to both sexes in pretty much everyway (emotionally, physically and sexually).

I also agree with CGHJ, I have always said that everyone (guys in particular) are all to some degree bisexual...and I know its a weak basis but, I justify my belief in that statement by how "straight" guys are turned on by porn with Male/Female scenes...while yes, there is a women in the scene, there is also a male, and most porn focuses on both the female pleasure (fucking,fingering ect) but also has many scenes of male pleasure and focus on the cock, which still during these scenes the "straight" guy is aroused..

One could argue that by saying "well he is just using his imagination and placeing himself in the role of the guy", well yeah that could be true, but he is still getting off on a chick sucking a dick, with the dick as the main focus.

Again I said it was weak at best, but still in my eyes some form of justifying my point of all guys are bisexual to some degree.

 

[spencer]

Bisexuality isn't a stretch to say exists because people can be born with both male and female sexual organs.

 

[AngelFromAbove]

I have always said that everyone (guys in particular) are all to some degree bisexual.

I disagree. In order to have those shades of gray, black and white must exist. In other words, there are plenty of purely heterosexual and homosexual people who exist.

 

[sonny10305]

I don't think they're exist!!!!!bisexual is just an excuse for closet case to have sex with men.

 

[AlmondMilk]

I don't think they're exist!!!!!bisexual is just an excuse for closet case to have sex with men.

umm...what if you know you like sex with men but occasionally like sex with women?

 

[Beanstalk]

What a funny thread! I was going to say that straight men don't exist -- everyone is bisexual to some degree. Men who think they are exclusively straight and just too _ _ to accept attraction to men, so they repress it. The gay bashers are always closet gays, who can't handle it any other way except to express the enormous tension the whole subject causes them. A truly straight man wouldn't care in the least if another man didn't have any interest in women -- just less competition. Paradise to a straight man would be to be the only straight man in an otherwise normal population of men and women. Let the guys fuck each other, and let all the women be after him!

But I decided not to say that. Because, even though being straight indicates some deep seated neurosis screwing up a person's sex life, if it ends up making a man only feel interest in women, then, by definition, he actually is straight.

As for me, I don't know what an inhibition is (this has caused lots of problems in my life, to say no more than that!). I have loved both men and women since I was the smallest child. There are two genders out there; in general they are clearly different from each other; and I love them both.

I am even especially attracted to men who don't feel the slightest need to choose a box! There was this man in San Francisco who showed up at a mainly gay bar in a beautiful long black dress. He danced divinely! He was graceful and beautiful. But he wore no make-up -- no painted nails or lipstick, no false tits or wigs (he had his own natural long hair). And the icing on the cake was his full beard! He was so refreshing! I was so thrilled and delighted to see a man so completely free, so completely comfortable just exactly as HIMSELF.

So my conclusion to Part I. is that the terms "gay, straight, and bisexual" have a sort of meaning which is generally useful to indicate, in broad strokes, the sexual orientation of the persons so described.


But Part II continues with this quote from a previous poster:

"I have never had any interest in threesomes. Nor, have I ever needed or wanted to have one male and one female partner as an on-going arrangement. In my own case, I prefer the term AMBISEXUAL rather than bisexual. I want only one relationship with one partner at a time."

In my experience, that sentiment describes the overwhelming majority of men (and women too, for that matter) who describe themselves as "bisexual."

However, for me, I really do want both a man and a woman in my life at the same time, sharing one big bed, and all three of us loving each other, living happily together, and raising a family together with lots of kids. That is what bisexual means to me! I need and want both genders so much that I can not be completely satisfied until and/or unless I have a long term partner with at least one of each gender (and I am open to additional men in my life,perhaps additional casual affairs which would not affect my relationship with my main man, who would know that I loved him; but I think I could only deal with one woman in this complex arrangement, because any more would break up the energy into more than one single family, which remains my ideal).