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Bisexuality Accepted By Girls?

RRRalph

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Can the girls you like deal with your bisexuality?

A few weeks ago i met this really nice girl and at some point she asked me if the guy she saw before me with was a good friend. I said that he was a lover and that i was bisexual. After stumbeling a bit she said she had to go and was gone.

Who experienced things like this?
 
Re: Can Girls Accept Your Bisexuality?

Jordy03 said:
My girlfriend knows that I'm bi, and she is, too. We're both pretty turned on by it and it's nice to be able to be like "That girl's hot" or "That's a hot guy" together. In the very beginning, there was a little bit of jealousy but where we're at now, we're so extremely comfortable with eachother that we can fully accept these things and it actually makes life a lot more fun.
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Wow, same thing with me, my gf is b and so am I and we share that same connection.
 
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My gf is straight but she is perfectly fine with my sexuality. It was a little awkard at first, but she allows me some freedom (at least with guys lol) and is sort of intrigued by it.
 
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Lucky. Every girl I've met hasn't been to accepting of it.
 
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I only told one woman I was bisexual. We were at dinner. She said she was completely fine with that. And I never saw her again.
 
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My girlfriend and I had a deep discussion about this once. While my heterosexuality leans closely to bisexual, it doesn't freak my girlfriend out.
 
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gerold_fisherman1 said:
My girlfriend is cool with it. She is actully into guy on guy (not that she watch hard core porn or anything lol) but she always loves to see to guys kiss.
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I bought this yaoi book (gay pornographic comics, fyi) and let her read it and she thought it was hot. It's fun to have someone to share this stuff with!
 
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RRRalph said:
Can the girls you like deal with your bisexuality?

A few weeks ago i met this really nice girl and at some point she asked me if the guy she saw before me with was a good friend. I said that he was a lover and that i was bisexual. After stumbeling a bit she said she had to go and was gone.

Who experienced things like this?
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1) some folks just can't handle it

2) How did you expect her to react? If you showed her some interest, she was well within her rights to assume you were available. By saying he was a lover, and showing interest in her at the same time (if you did) she should feel uncomfortable, if not hurt. Yes there are some folks who are willing to live in open relationships, but they are few and far between. Most people would be insulted by it. Take the bisexuality out of it. What if the other guy was a girl and you off handedly said that she was your lover? You wouldn't expect her to have a poor reaction (assuming of course that you were showing some interest in her as well)?

3) Or perhaps she has a problem with guys who like both sexes at all. It is tough to say from what you described.
 
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Center said:
By saying he was a lover, and showing interest in her at the same time (if you did) she should feel uncomfortable, if not hurt.
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She asked me a clear question and i responded quite clear as well. Should i lie and say he was a good friend?

Center said:
What if the other guy was a girl and you off handedly said that she was your lover? You wouldn't expect her to have a poor reaction?
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I still would give a her the same answer. But instead of lying i could avoid answering the question.
 
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My own experience leads me to believe that the major part of the problem is anticipated promiscuity, and the resulting danger of STD. Of course, this is something that _every_ sexual relationship, bi, straight or gay has got to think through carefully these days.

Be real. Be honest. Be respectful.
 
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RRRalph said:
She asked me a clear question and i responded quite clear as well. Should i lie and say he was a good friend?



I still would give a her the same answer. But instead of lying i could avoid answering the question.
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Don’t get me wrong. I don’t think you did anything wrong. In fact, based on what you wanted, you were refreshingly honest. You and the guy were current lovers (if I inferred correctly), and (again if I inferred correctly) you were seeking another partner openly and honestly. Right or wrong, most people are going to react poorly to that. Frankly, I don’t think they are necessarily wrong to react that way. In our culture, when seeking out a partner, there is an assumption that you don’t currently have one. Her reaction was in accordance with our cultural norms. If you want to have multiple partners at the same time (though not necessarily in the same bed, though that can be fun too) most women are going to react poorly to it. You need to accept that fact and develop some internal defense mechanisms to cope with it. If you go out looking for an open relationship, expect to get a drink thrown in your face from time to time.

Once again let me point out that I don’t think you did anything wrong. Far from it. The average woman, and perhaps man too, is just not going to take kindly to it. It isn't a rejection of your bisexuality as much as it is a rejection of the idea of an open relationship.
 
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Center said:
Don’t get me wrong. I don’t think you did anything wrong. In fact, based on what you wanted, you were refreshingly honest.
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That's me! ;)

Center said:
You and the guy were current lovers (if I inferred correctly), and (again if I inferred correctly) you were seeking another partner openly and honestly.
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I guess i wasn't clear. At the time i talked to the girl, the guy and i were not current lovers. We all recognise each other from some disco club. She saw me a few times with that guy in the club.
 
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RRRalph said:
I guess i wasn't clear. At the time i talked to the girl, the guy and i were not current lovers. We all recognise each other from some disco club. She saw me a few times with that guy in the club.
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Whoa, that makes a ton of difference. OK she's a bitch.
 
ljhotboy said:
If I were a girl I'd have to REALLY love the guy to be with him if he was bi. I'd be worried he was sleeping around nonstop because if he suddenly desires a man he'll probably go after him. People just aren't loyal enough these days to trust someone who's riding on the fence when it comes to sexuality. They may want to love the girl but screw men, and that can result in some nasty conseqeuences both emotionally and physically. Happens all the time these days. It's precisely why women are becoming infected with HIV at such high rates.
A friend of mine had a bf who was bi and they broke up because he decided he was more interested in guys. For a while at least. So yeah, girls can accept it, but I think many realize that they're setting themselves up for something more than they bargained for.
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I agree with some of what u said. Some girls will accept it and so will some gay men however there are even more that will avoid it like the plague to avoid getting hurt. I think it hurts more knowing that your lover is cheating or dumping you for another gender. This lends a hand to the biphobia going on because woman have had their fair share of bi men falling for other men and gay men have been burned as well. With someone straight or gay they know they wont have to worry about another gender getting in the way providing what they cant.
 
Raven03 said:
I think it hurts more knowing that your lover is cheating or dumping you for another gender.
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Straight girls seems to be disgusted by the idea of having a bisexual bf and feeling ashamed if people to find out that she has a bisexual bf. :(
 
RRRalph said:
Straight girls seems to be disgusted by the idea of having a bisexual bf and feeling ashamed if people to find out that she has a bisexual bf. :(
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I wouldn't especially if I had a boyfriend as attractive as you, RRRalph. I actually LOVE bisexual men. I've had a few bisexual boyfriends, and boy did I have some fun with the ones I had. ;)
 
TierraSimms said:
I wouldn't especially if I had a boyfriend as attractive as you, RRRalph. I actually LOVE bisexual men. I've had a few bisexual boyfriends, and boy did I have some fun with the ones I had. ;)
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Ah you're such a sweatie :kiss: ! You bet you can have much fun with me lol ;)
 
RRRalph, you are indeed a very good looking guy, and yes thats coming from another bisexual hehe. My gf thinks ur hot too. You have that mature laddish look. I luv it!! I luv ur spiked hair in that first pic, how do u do it?
 
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