Black Men "On The Down Low"

[Nomenclature]

Alright, so earlier I registered on adam4adam out of boredom, and to see who was local. I guess it's different in other locations, but in my state 80% of the men on that side are masculine black men who're "on the down low" and insist on being ultra discreet. I was a little shocked; I now believe that 45% of black men are closet cases.


Is it like that where you live?

 

[ElBarto]

Alright, so earlier I registered on adam4adam out of boredom, and to see who was local. I guess it's different in other locations, but in my state 80% of the men on that side are masculine black men who're "on the down low" and insist on being ultra discreet. I was a little shocked; I now believe that 45% of black men are closet cases.


Is it like that where you live?

Where do you live that 45% of black men are closet cases?

 

[Nomenclature]

Where do you live that 45% of black men are closet cases?

Ohio.


10Ohios.

 

[Sha-Rok]

It's the oppression of the church and stigma of black strength laid upon our heads. Don't worry to much about it.

 

[LaughingMan]

It's like that in Louisiana too.

The sex seems more passionate though

Probably because they have all this pent-up sexual energy needed to BURST FREE

 

[Nomenclature]

It's the oppression of the church and stigma of black strength laid upon our heads. Don't worry to much about it.

lol Oh, okay.


I used to know a local guy awhile back. He told me that once he came out, all these self-identified "thugs" in the area began secretly hitting on him and were making sure he wouldn't tell anyone that they wanted to hook up with him. I thought he was completely full of it then, but now I actually believe him. Like i've said: The down-low black guys on that site seem to outnumber the white guys by like, 4:1.

It's like that in Louisiana too.

The sex seems more passionate though

Probably because they have all this pent-up sexual energy needed to BURST FREE

Do you know this by experience?


Just to quickly clarify: I'm not at all racist (and i'm ethnic myself). I like some interracial porn, and I think a few of the guys in the Official Black Hunks thread are pretty hot. I was just surprised to see such a large number of these big, masculine guys online saying "I need to be topped"; Most of them look like they could beat the shit out of you. lmao

 

[AllMan]

Its funny: when a black or latino guy doesn't go around parading and advertising himself, he is ridiculed/negatively connotated/labeled as a "down-low guy who is cheating on his wife/gf and isn't being true to himself"....but when a white man does the EXACT same, he is nicely given the allowance of "being discreet because he is married"....just like during Hurricane Katrina, when the black people were begging to get food/shelter, the were labeled as "looters and rioters", but when the white people did the EXACT same, they were identified as "hopelessly struggling to survive"

hmmm, interesting.......can anyone explain why the difference????

 

[CaptainJohn]

Because George Bush doesn't care about black people.

 

[Nomenclature]

Its funny: when a black or latino guy doesn't go around parading and advertising himself, he is ridiculed/negatively connotated/labeled as a "down-low guy who is cheating on his wife/gf and isn't being true to himself"

Oh, don't even go there. I didn't mean it in a derogatory way at all. If I did, I wouldn't have made the thread. These guys specifically say on their profile that they're not out. Being closeted is NOT the same thing at all as "not going around and parading and advertising himself".

Also, there's no way to tell whether these men are in a relationship or not just by looking at their profiles. I never implied that they WERE in one in the first place.

As far as I understood, the term "on the down low", simply means "to be closeted" and holds no other negative connotations beside that. If i'm wrong, please correct me. If I said something wrong, then I apologize.

 

[AllMan]

Oh, don't even go there. I didn't mean it in a derogatory way at all. If I did, I wouldn't have made the thread. These guys specifically say on their profile that they're not out. Being closeted is NOT the same thing at all as "not going around and parading and advertising himself".

Also, there's no way to tell whether these men are in a relationship or not just by looking at their profiles. I never implied that they WERE in one in the first place.

As far as I understood, the term "on the down low", simply means "to be closeted" and holds no other negative connotations beside that. If i'm wrong, please correct me. If I said something wrong, then I apologize.

Ok, so what's your point? What was the reason you made this thread anyway, if you weren't trying to poke fun or subliminally degrade a certain group of people for their actions or their "profile status"? You can try to sugarcoat it and "blah blah blah" all you want, in retrospect. But the words are already spoken. You already posted this forum, so you can't go back and falsely justify something.

Why single out black men in particular---and then feel the need to make a headlining post about it? If you were just making general statements, why not just say men or white and black and latino and asian men? Why single out one group?

To me, this post makes no sense and neither does your argument/reasoning (or lack thereof).

 

[Seiya174]

Allman, really, it is a little early in this post to play the race card, so do us all a favor and put it back in the deck.
This was obviously not meant to be racist in any way, especially since "down-low" is how the men THEMSELVES describe it, not the OP.
As far as the Katrina thing goes, why would you think that it would be a good idea to argue AGAINST racism using a quote from when Kanye West, an extremely racist man himself, made an ass out of himself on live TV....again.

 

[Liam84215]

I see what Allman is talking about, and I to, don't see the point of this post. It does seem like an attack on closeted black gay men. But at the sametime. If you're going to try to hook up/date online, slim pickings, slim pickings. Especially speaking from experience. Go out and meet real people.


and to Seiya174- Racism does infact exist and is a problem in the gay community. No matter how much we'd all like to pretend that its not there.

 

[AllMan]

I see what Allman is talking about, and I to, don't see the point of this post. It does seem like an attack on closeted black gay men. But at the sametime. If you're going to try to hook up/date online, slim pickings, slim pickings. Especially speaking from experience. Go out and meet real people.


and to Seiya174- Racism does infact exist and is a problem in the gay community. No matter how much we'd all like to pretend that its not there.

Finally, someone with some common sense!

 

[r0bLNY]

Wow I just joined this site and read this thread. This is BS. Black men always identify as "down low". Atleast in NY they do in the city and every outer borough. Get over the racist crap, I doubt it was intended that way. And I have to say Liam84215, to say that the gay community is racist is wild to me. To be honest, the black community (or african american) is the most homophobic. I have grown up around it and still witness it as an adult. So don't go there.

 

[Sha-Rok]

AGAINST racism using a quote from when Kanye West, an extremely racist man himself, made an ass out of himself on live TV....again.

What makes you think Kanye is racist?

 

[Liam84215]

Wow I just joined this site and read this thread. This is BS. Black men always identify as "down low". Atleast in NY they do in the city and every outer borough. Get over the racist crap, I doubt it was intended that way. And I have to say Liam84215, to say that the gay community is racist is wild to me. To be honest, the black community (or african american) is the most homophobic. I have grown up around it and still witness it as an adult. So don't go there.

I'm not going to turn this into an argument. Why? cause we clearly see what that accomplished with regard to Allman and Seiya's rant. Lets just agree to disagree. You have your beliefs based on your own experiences and I have mine. I didn't say the gay community was racist, I said it exists there, and clearly isn't the belief of the entire community. But here you are and I quote" Black men always identify as "down low" Atleast in NY they do in the city and every outer borough" Just because someone likes the same sex, doesn't mean they are accepting of everyone of a different race/ethnic background. You(not you) grow up as a child and are taught mostly what your family believes in. Again, lets not turn this into an argument. If you have something to say to me, I invite anyone who really wants to discuss it further, to PM me and let me have it.

 

[Nomenclature]

Allman, really, it is a little early in this post to play the race card, so do us all a favor and put it back in the deck.
This was obviously not meant to be racist in any way, especially since "down-low" is how the men THEMSELVES describe it, not the OP.

True, and thank you for saying that.

Second of all, no one is playing any race cards...it was an arbitrary question that no one seems to be able to answer, which makes it in and of itselft logical and thought-provoking.

Automatically assuming i'm being racist just because the thread's about black guys isn't logical or thought-provoking.

I've noticed something: When the discussion of race comes up - and especially when it involves black people - it's always the conservative older white men who get the most offended and up-in-arms about it. Relax.

If I misread the OP's intentions then I apologize to him....

Apology accepted, now please stop turning this into a flame thread.

Why single out black men in particular---and then feel the need to make a headlining post about it? If you were just making general statements, why not just say men or white and black and latino and asian men? Why single out one group?

Because a majority of men I saw on the site were closeted black guys. That's why this thread isn't about Asian or Latino men.




Not that it matters, but i'll repeat myself: I'm not racist, i've never had an issue with race. I come from an ethnic background myself, and I like ethnic guys too: Latino, Middle Eastern, Black, etc. I was just surprised to see that SO MANY black guys in my area were secretly into gay sex and wanted to be ultra-discreet.


But damnit, if I can't even bring up black guys without someone screaming "OMG UR RACIST!! WON'T SOMEONE PLEASE THINK OF THE CHILDREN?!", then the mods have permission to lock or delete this thread; This is, afterall, a gay porn and sex forum. . .conversation's supposed to be a little more arousing and fun than this.

 

[AllMan]

I come from an ethnic background myself

I notice you keep "saying" that....but you never actually SAY it. Is this some sort of blanket statement to protect you and establish yourself a "I can say what I wanna say because I'm 'ethnic' myself" pass?? By all means, please tell us what "ethnic background" you come from sir. Be proud, don't hide.

Once again, if I am wrong---then I apologize; but if you want someone to fully understand you and empathize with you, you must also do your part and tell the whole story and not just bits and pieces.

 

[MisterMajestic]

So what if Black men register and create a profile on a GAY "Hook-up" site and say up-front that they are Down-low/closeted?

True enough..White guys dont say they are "Down-Low"..They just say they're married with kids and need to be discreet...And most of the time they don't disclose anything until you talk to them "privately"...

If you don't like "Down-Low" Black guys then SKIP their profile...If you don't like Married White guys that request "discreet" hook-ups then SKIP their profile..

Maybe this is the SURPRISE of the day but Black Men didnt create the term "closeted homosexual"...

 

[Nomenclature]

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If you don't like "Down-Low" Black guys then SKIP their profile...If you don't like Married White guys that request "discreet" hook-ups then SKIP their profile..

Again: I like black guys, I have no problems with them. I was just surprised to see that there were 10 times more closeted black men in my state than I thought.


Now, one more racially-charged comment and i'm deleting this thread myself.