So I'm bisexual and I'm not out yet. My sister one day found some gay porn on my computer. Now everytime we fight she always brings up "Well you're gay!" in front of my parents. My parents don't seem to care, but it really does hurt. How can I make her stop because she absolutely hates my guts.
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Hi slowsky and welcome to JUB! Glad you found us.
Sister-dearest sounds like a work of art. Insofar as she hates your guts, there's really nothing you can do to stop her from using information that she feels is damaging to you (how she managed to find gay porn on your computer is another matter, but I trust you're covering your tracks better now).
Anyhow, have you considered coming out to your parents? That would take the wind out of her sails pretty fast. Perhaps she's already told them (or maybe they figured it out themselves) and thus she doesn't get a rise out of them. Once they know, then it becomes "just" a hateful insult in an argument, as opposed to blackmail. Plus, she'll look cheap and living in the gutter for throwing it up (and it wouldn't hurt at all if your parents told her that).
Good luck. Until siblings grow up a bit, there's really no changing attitudes like this. The best you can do is dis-arm them.
Sister-dearest sounds like a work of art. Insofar as she hates your guts, there's really nothing you can do to stop her from using information that she feels is damaging to you (how she managed to find gay porn on your computer is another matter, but I trust you're covering your tracks better now).
Anyhow, have you considered coming out to your parents? That would take the wind out of her sails pretty fast. Perhaps she's already told them (or maybe they figured it out themselves) and thus she doesn't get a rise out of them. Once they know, then it becomes "just" a hateful insult in an argument, as opposed to blackmail. Plus, she'll look cheap and living in the gutter for throwing it up (and it wouldn't hurt at all if your parents told her that).
Good luck. Until siblings grow up a bit, there's really no changing attitudes like this. The best you can do is dis-arm them.
RicanDAB
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to JUB!My only advice is to ignore and distance yourself from her. If she's going to be so insensitive and obnoxious you're better off staying away from her. That's the way I would deal with it. She sounds young and immature (I certainly hope she is younger than you) ... Perhaps other guys have their own ways of dealing. Coming out that way is never easy, and it does not sound like she's the type that's worth sitting down with and having a serious chat about this.
Hope that helped.
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Since you are a bisexual... next time when your sister says, "You are gay!," respond either by saying you are much better than that and you are a bi or say you do not stoop to her level by insulting other people without knowing the real facts before.
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I need some clarification to understand this
You say your parents don't seem to care. Do you mean that they don't care if you're bi or gay, or don't care that she says it?
How old are you and your sister? How much do you both depend on your parents?
What was your relationship with your sister like before she found the pictures?
Do you think she keeps bringing it up because she's genuinely homophobic, or mostly because she knows it'll upset you?
If it's the latter, then it's likely that she thinks that her knowledge gives her some special advantage or power over you. You can teach her otherwise, either by removing that advantage (e.g., by coming out to your family) or by continuing to play the game, and demonstrating that you have something over her as well - or that you're otherwise just as capable of making her miserable as she is of making you miserable.
You say your parents don't seem to care. Do you mean that they don't care if you're bi or gay, or don't care that she says it?
How old are you and your sister? How much do you both depend on your parents?
What was your relationship with your sister like before she found the pictures?
Do you think she keeps bringing it up because she's genuinely homophobic, or mostly because she knows it'll upset you?
If it's the latter, then it's likely that she thinks that her knowledge gives her some special advantage or power over you. You can teach her otherwise, either by removing that advantage (e.g., by coming out to your family) or by continuing to play the game, and demonstrating that you have something over her as well - or that you're otherwise just as capable of making her miserable as she is of making you miserable.
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I am in a payback phase right now, so i suggest you seduce and have sex with your sisters boyfriend, that will teach her not to mess with you.
If you really want to stick it to her, time it so she walks in on you while her man is riding your pole or the other way around if you are a bottom, but it would really make her feel it if her boyfriend was the one taking the dick. That will teach her to mind her own business.
If she doesnt have a boyfriend now, just wait till she gets one, even if it takes 7 years because life has a way of making everything right, no matter how many years have past.
If you really want to stick it to her, time it so she walks in on you while her man is riding your pole or the other way around if you are a bottom, but it would really make her feel it if her boyfriend was the one taking the dick. That will teach her to mind her own business.
If she doesnt have a boyfriend now, just wait till she gets one, even if it takes 7 years because life has a way of making everything right, no matter how many years have past.
SilverRRCloud
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Sure, you can tell her to simply grow up, though I strongly doubt that she will have the wisdom to do so before her time really comes.
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I'm for stop arguing. Why bother? If, as you say, she hates your guts, she'll have a lifetime to spew her hate at you if you engage her. Just be indifferent. I'll bet there's not a single thing you're arguing about that is worth the effort.
Why not steal her thunder and tell your parents that she was snooping on your computer and found some pics? Why not use it as an introduction to talking to your p's (if as you say they are cool) about your uncertainty regarding sexuality?
Why not steal her thunder and tell your parents that she was snooping on your computer and found some pics? Why not use it as an introduction to talking to your p's (if as you say they are cool) about your uncertainty regarding sexuality?
bluedragon4
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Next time she says." you are gay!" than you say, "well ,you are a hateful cunt and your point is?"
spreadeagle
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A different approach might be to look at why it is you keep fighting with your sister. If you're able to look for the things that trigger an argument and then avoid those situations you might be able to take the wind out of her sails.
I would also consider the issues of privacy within the home - I mean, how was it that your sister was able to go snooping on your computer? . I assume you're both adolescent and I think it's perfectly reaonable that teenagers should be allowed to have their own private space. If your sister is invading your privacy would your parents be agreeable to you having a padlock on your door?
Making smart-arse responses to her will only accelerate the antagonism, not defuse it. Occupy yourself as much as you can with legitimate activities that keep you out of the house. If your parents question this you should explain to them calmly, and out of your sister's hearing, that you have more important things to do with your life than bickering with your sister and her constant aggro is making your life a misery so you prefer to spend more time away from home.
I would also consider the issues of privacy within the home - I mean, how was it that your sister was able to go snooping on your computer? . I assume you're both adolescent and I think it's perfectly reaonable that teenagers should be allowed to have their own private space. If your sister is invading your privacy would your parents be agreeable to you having a padlock on your door?
Making smart-arse responses to her will only accelerate the antagonism, not defuse it. Occupy yourself as much as you can with legitimate activities that keep you out of the house. If your parents question this you should explain to them calmly, and out of your sister's hearing, that you have more important things to do with your life than bickering with your sister and her constant aggro is making your life a misery so you prefer to spend more time away from home.
theblackajah
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"Oh, the pot calls the kettle black. Don't tell me Loaded Lesbians 2 just WALKED into your room by itself that one time, huh?"
Just ignore it, she has no proof to hold over you. Sure she's being a bitch but hopefully she'll grow out of it. The parents are just disregarding it as juvenile BS.
If she ups the ante and attempts to produce proof I'd frame her. I think used condoms in her room where the parents will find them would be a nice touch.
It is not up to her to force you out into the open before YOU decide.
If she ups the ante and attempts to produce proof I'd frame her. I think used condoms in her room where the parents will find them would be a nice touch.
It is not up to her to force you out into the open before YOU decide.
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First of all, she probably already TOLD your parents. (younger siblings are like that). That could be why your parents don't seem to care.
Secondly, It's true, that once you come out she (and anyone else) will not have that power over you. You will be able to stop "looking over your shoulder" worrying who might find out. Good luck with whatever you choose to do.
Secondly, It's true, that once you come out she (and anyone else) will not have that power over you. You will be able to stop "looking over your shoulder" worrying who might find out. Good luck with whatever you choose to do.
Well, smothering dearest little sister with a pillow would definitely stop her 
Seriously, if you want, you could give her a taste of her own medicine and accuse her of being gay. Be sure to put some lesbo pr0n magazine on her bed and show your parents.
Perhaps your parents doesn't take her seriously when she says you're gay. Heck, a lot of kids call other kids gay these days when they know they aren't REALLY gay. Except shes know that you're REALLY gay, but your parents could think otherwise.
But, yeah I would personally beat the shit out of her if she was my sister
Seriously, if you want, you could give her a taste of her own medicine and accuse her of being gay. Be sure to put some lesbo pr0n magazine on her bed and show your parents.
Perhaps your parents doesn't take her seriously when she says you're gay. Heck, a lot of kids call other kids gay these days when they know they aren't REALLY gay. Except shes know that you're REALLY gay, but your parents could think otherwise.
But, yeah I would personally beat the shit out of her if she was my sister
