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Book Stores , gay men's hang out ?

Alive and Free

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Hi Guys

I am trying to tune up my gaydar and for one reason or another I get the feeling that book stores are a hang out for single gay men , anyone else get this feeling ?
 
I agree. Everytime I go to B&N, it is packed with single gay men.
 
Actually both gay and straight men frequent bookstores.
Both frequent Adult Bookstores as well, even those with the movie booths in the back.
In the ABS you pretty much don't need Gaydar because the straight guys know what's going on and avoid anything hat remotely resembles cruising.
In the regular bookstores Gaydar does come in handy, but you still have to proceed with caution.
 
O guys I am really talking about places more like barnes and nobles and borders.
 
merogerger said:
Yeah, sorry for turning away from your original post. :D

Well, what do you mean by meet a guy this way? You meet a guy in a book store in the same way you meet a guy in any other place ;) ...it's even easier! In a book store you'll have something to start a conversation with, like, gee I don't know... books? :rolleyes: So yes, I think a book store is a good place to meet a gay man if that's your original question. ;)
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I still havent figured that out yet ! I have just been comming out for about a year but I have no expirence in public like that.
 
Alive and Free said:
Any idea as to how best meet a guy this way ?
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There aren't any hard-and-fast rules. It really depends on the situation. Fortunately, cruising is a two-way street so be aware of your surroundings and be sensitive enough to know when you are being cruised.

Usually, these places have a snack bar where people get a coffee and a snack and read. That's one place they hang out. Another is in the overstuffed chairs sitting around.

In general...make eye contact and nod. Ask if what they're reading is "good." You'll tell, almost immediately, by their response and body-language if they're interested in having a conversation with you.

If you're really bold, go to the gay/lesbian section and get one of the more conspicuous titles and boldly read it. If someone wants to cruise you, they at least won't doubt whether you're gay yourself.

Once you make connection, you just have to play it by ear from there.

I've never cruised Borders or Barnes and Noble or those types of places, but I've been cruised in them. Not often, though, probably because I'm not giving off signals or cruising myself. But, every time I go into those places, I can usually guess about a half dozen to a dozen are gay, if not interested. If nothing else, those places are great places to people-watch.

Good luck!
 
You could try lurking around the 'gay interest' section.
 
Actually, I've met a couple of guys in bookstores. One of the bookstores in DC is Lambda Rising. They sell gay items like lube, cards, mags, books, etc. It's a cruising place and I had a young guy pick me up there once. Also, Kramer's bookstore in Dupont Circle has a lot of hot guys that look at the books but you'll also find looking at guys looking at books!

I guess the way I would say to meet them is if you see someone and look at them; notice that they glance back at you -- do a "check look" and if they continue, perhaps look at a book in their section. Start a conversation but don't grab the "Sex for Dummies" book. It might be a turn-off.

I actually have met a number of gay guys and have gone out to coffee or become friends that I met in the bookstore. I have a good looking friend that plays football on Sunday's with us who works at Borders....

Maybe it's because gays are classy, smart, enjoy the language.....
 
There's a large Chapters book store here with a starbucks attached. You can go in anytime and there WILL be homosexuals sitting everywhere. It's quite pleasant. :o
 
Just make sure you're using real gaydar and not some stereotypical shit. I ran into this one man in Borders the other day near the bathrooms. He was dressed really nice and walked manly, yet kind of upright and tense. And plus he was thin and looked healthy and in-shape too. I thought for sure he was gay but then his girlfriend came by and got him. I don't care if he looked a bit stereotypical, the guy was HOT and I spent about three minutes checking him out before I was stopped by the estrogen whore. (lol)

Now of course he could still be gay, but I think it's kind of funny (and pathetic) how somebody that obvious would be using a girl as a cover-up lol.

Then I ran into this one guy that was much more subtle, like you know just that gay feeling you get, where the guy wouldn't bite your head off if you flirted with him....you know it's just a certain energy. He just sat by himself though but maybe next time I'll try to talk to him.
 
Maybe it's because gays are classy, smart, enjoy the language.....
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*Gag* The quickest way to turn me off is to act like this. You don't have to be an obnoxious jock either, but classy isn't sexy to me. Guys should be a bit dirty and burp more. If you look too clean-cut I will think you have a low self-image of yourself. Nothing turns me off more than the Queer Eye metrosexual look. There's nothing really erotic about that at all. They're Crab People lol.

Also speak English, and intelligence doesn't impress me much as having a sense of humor and being a compassionate person.

Gay snobs = yuck.

Oh damn is this the safe discussion? I'll try to be nicer. *Halo*
 
LOL I have never been to a adult gay book store or gay bar or anything of the sort you see I live in a country environment and theres not much here just alot of trees and stuff LOL it sucks in a way because I have not even find a regular sex store unless am over looking it in some way
 
Wow I dont think i ever realized how much book stores like barnes and nobles and borders are filled with single gay men.
 
It is like rite of passage to visit adult bookstore and see all the guys there.
 
There's a B&N near my house and it's always loaded up with gay men and lesbians. I love it.
 
bike10 said:
It is like rite of passage to visit adult bookstore and see all the guys there.
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Yeah? The only time I went to one all the people were boy/girl. I suppose they could have been gay dude and his best girlfriend. I didn't get checked out though. Now I just buy my stuff online.

But Barns and Noble and Borders both have coffee shops and lots of gay men there! That is true. Well I think I have to buy a book...
 
Yes, and by the way, you'll notice there are also a lot of good books to read as well. If you don't get under the covers with a guy, you can do it with a paperback.

Remember to purchase something really gay and leave it visible on your table. It is like a hanky code.
 
Lol. I went to the B&N in Union Square last evening and I was thinking the same thing - lots of hot men. Nothing happened though and I was meeting someone for dinner anyway.
 
i thought we already established this. the big gay casual hangout place is a starbucks.
 
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