Born gay or turned gay ?

[Just_Believe18]

I don't know if it's 100% born that way, but in my case, it is.

I do have a friend, however, who was converted by a very dominant gay guy who wouldn't take no for an answer. Eventually, the gay guy won him over to being gay. Even after their turbulent relationship, my friend is still gay. He sincerely believes he wasn't born that way. Just his first boyfriend made him that way. Who am I to argue about the details of his life?

 

[Nonimus]

Always Bolognaise - Rissoto never fills you up.

 

[kayman23]

When I was younger I liked only guys, but when I hit puberty I started liking girls only. Now I like both. I believe I was as born bisexual, but I had to discover my true sexual orientation. My attraction it is person to person basis, where I may be attracted to a certain dude or a certain girl. Sometimes at the same time, and sometimes one or the other.

 

[Riverrick]

I had the bolognaise .... minced beef, bolognaise sauce from the bottle, capsicums and a bit of added broccoli and carrots ..... on spaghetti.

I missed the part where you take it out of the freezer and pop it into the microwave.

 

[Jeimuzu]

I've had an inexplicable phobia, literally since birth, of anyone doing anything to my toes. Especially my little toes.

It provides a little evidence that we are born with certain characteristics set down maybe by a little more than genes?

Lord knows, it's the last bit of evidence I'm clinging to which suggests that human beings have a soul separate to their bodies.

 

[Riverrick]

I've had an inexplicable phobia, literally since birth, of anyone doing anything to my toes. Especially my little toes.

It provides a little evidence that we are born with certain characteristics set down maybe by a little more than genes?

Lord knows, it's the last bit of evidence I'm clinging to which suggests that human beings have a soul separate to their bodies.

Yes, I see where you're coming from.

That's an interesting idea that our sexuality has neither a genetic nor an environmental basis, but rather a spiritual one. That this really IS who we are.

 

[BrianCB]

Nobody is born a doctor, nobody is born to rule the world, nobody is born to murder, and certainly nobody is born gay. You don't come out of the womb with a predetermined sexuality.

 

[Raybee]

In the second or third grade I had my first crush on another guy, in that I felt a bonding with him that was different to the bond I had with my "school-friends". It was deeper and scarier. I certainly hadn't felt that way towards the girls in my class.
In the fourth grade, a new guy started at our school. I was the first to befriend him, and after some time I remember lying in bed one night and saying the words to myself "I love him".

Although I'd known for years that I had no sexual feelings for girls, and very strong sexual and romantic attractions to males, denial was sufficiently strong to keep the vain hope of a burgeoning heterosexuality alive.

I remember the moment when I eventually said to myself "This heterosexual thing isn't going to happen for me, and all the wishing in the world isn't going to make it happen". I was 16.
Up to that point I had been waiting expectantly for heterosexualiy to arrive so that I could meet the requirements of society: marriage, kids, etc.,
There was a good bit of grieving involved in this realisation.

For ages I tried to blame a distant, cold, father for not providing me with the makings of a straight life - but come acceptance time, I knew that rang hollow; I was never comfortable within my own skin, until I accepted that I was gay; and looking back I'd known, at a cellular level, that I was different from a very early age.

I believe I was born to be gay - other options simply were never on the cards for me.

I tend towards the belief that the arguments supporting the "environmental" perspective, are part of our societal denial that homosexuality is, indeed, a legitimate sexuality.

Instead of it being societally aberrant, might there not be a very good reason for homosexuality? - might it not serve a function that we're not quite enlightened enough to identify and articulate yet? But asking the question can only be good. What is our primary function to our species?
Hopefully not just to write musicals!