Bottomed for the first time...

[SayWhat]

I usually read the complete opposite about people's first time experiences with bottoming, so I'm not really sure what to think.

I felt the initial pain that everyone talks about. It wasn't horrible and it went away quickly. After that, I didn't really feel anything. Every once in a while if he went really deep I felt a little bit of pressure, but aside from that there wasn't any pain, pleasure, or otherwise. I even started "squeezing" instead of relaxing and it didn't seem to make a difference for me (although he seemed to really enjoy it). And he was NOT a small guy by any means. He was at least 8" and fairly thick.

Am I doing something wrong here?! Or is bottoming just not meant for me?

 

[shastamc24]

This isn't 100% uncommon. The squeezing instead of relaxing is not going to help, however. I would say try it again or a few times, and if you still don't get any pleasure from it, don't do it. Have you topped? Just stick to that for a while if you are still having this problem.

 

[Gay Angel]

That's almost exactly what happened to me. I could feel him inside me, obviously, but there was neither pleasure nor pain, just... there. I know my boyfriend loves to top, but I just don't feel anything when bottoming - it's about as sexually arousing as brushing my teeth. And we've tried it many times I guess some people just aren't wired to enjoy it.

 

[jensu846]

I think sometimes its also mental, I can get pleasure from the fact that I have a guy on top of me, penetrating me. The thought of having a cock inside me really gets me hot, more than the actual physical pleasure around/in my asshole, until I am just about to cum, thats when I really feel the pleasure of anal sex.

 

[Rolyo85]

Bottoming isn't just lying there and taking it. You have to experiment with positions, depth of penetration, speed, angle... It's a science. You find the way to hit the right spots and I promise you it's gonna be mind-blowing. And yeah, I'm a top. So to me bottoming required a lot of work. It's worth it though.

 

[hotatlboi]

Did you only do one position?

 

[SayWhat]

No, we tried a few! I started on my stomach with him on top of me. Then I rode it facing him, then doggie style, then on my back with my legs up, then on my side with one leg crossed over the other (which was my personal fave). Short of dangling from a chandelier, I can't think of any major positions we omitted. Is it possible to use too much lube? He was pretty generous with it.

The weird thing is I felt sexually satisfied by it still. Maybe it just got me off conceptually. I don't dislike it and I wouldn't mind doing it on a regular basis even. It just wasn't a "Wow!" moment for me in a positive or negative way.

 

[Rolyo85]

First time very rarely is, either way. You did nothing wrong, there was no "misfire". Your body isn't built for this, it has to get used to it, and learn to appreciate it. Despite the lack of pain, there was still a sensory overload. If it got you off in your head, and if it didn't hurt, then you've got a win-win here. Just keep going, and you'll figure out where your buttons are.

 

[chance1]

No, we tried a few! I started on my stomach with him on top of me. Then I rode it facing him, then doggie style, then on my back with my legs up, then on my side with one leg crossed over the other (which was my personal fave). Short of dangling from a chandelier, I can't think of any major positions we omitted. Is it possible to use too much lube? He was pretty generous with it.

The weird thing is I felt sexually satisfied by it still. Maybe it just got me off conceptually. I don't dislike it and I wouldn't mind doing it on a regular basis even. It just wasn't a "Wow!" moment for me in a positive or negative way.

note to self: try dangling from chandelier

from what i read you're doing great - everyone is diff - the only commonality is being relaxed and open to it maximizes the pleasure

i find "directing" as a bottom can provide great pleasure mentally and physically

both standing against a wall or door can be hot - i find the naughtier the better - have attempted shower fucking - no success yet but close

depending on the level of your submissive nature (opposite of directing) that can be fun as well

keep us posted

 

[tbtmo02]

Maybe u expected to much to happen.ive bottomed nd never really felt that intens pleasure everyone tals about

 

[Just_Believe18]

Have you tried just experimenting with yourself? Fingering, dildos, etc. can give you a better perspective of what you like or feel before actually doing it with someone else.

 

[SayWhat]

i find "directing" as a bottom can provide great pleasure mentally and physically

both standing against a wall or door can be hot - i find the naughtier the better - have attempted shower fucking - no success yet but close

depending on the level of your submissive nature (opposite of directing) that can be fun as well

keep us posted

All of the above sounds pretty hot. Thanks for the tips!

Have you tried just experimenting with yourself? Fingering, dildos, etc. can give you a better perspective of what you like or feel before actually doing it with someone else.

That makes sense. Toys have never really been my thing, but I'm willing to give it a try! Thanks!

 

[hanzosword]

I never bottomed myself so I have no advice but I'm curious to know if you had any foreplay before the sex and did that continue during sex? I would think I would want to be kissed and touched a lot if I were to bottom.