bottoming, discomfort/pain, and anal sex (warning:very long post).

[gotdimples77]

ok..well if you arent into anal sex i think thats fine...honestly doesnt do a whole lot for me either...sometimes its fun though and actually i have enjoyed toys more than most of my sex partners. second of all..i think three inches on that toy is too big...can it go in? yes. are you going to really enjoy it if you arent that into anal? no. I think you should ignore all that label bullshit and just do what you like. if thats jerking off with friends i think thats cool...sucking is fun too...i could 69 all day..well at least till my leg cramps lol.

 

[RicanDAB]

Dude that's WAY TOO MUCH to read!

Oh c'mon .. someone was bound to repeat it and you know you laughed and besides you said if I was JUST going to write that, don't bother ... so by definition, I am allowed to continue ...

Not everyone is into anal sex and good for you for experimenting on your own. This way you have spared yourself from embarrassment with a partner and it sounds like you have had a number of experiences to show you it's uncomfortable for you. But on the other hand, you never know if your preferences change with time. Some people who used to be tops end up being bottoms and vice versa and go from none to one or the other. Depends on the new experiences you have if you're open to them. Who knows -- you might find a guy someday who will magically find the perfect way to bring you pleasure down there. Then again, you may always be no-ass play forever. Only time will tell.

My BF and I are both versatile but more often between us he's top and I am bottom. It's what both of you feel more comfortable and pleasing for the other. I used to be strictly 50/50 vers but because my BF is great at being a top I am willing to be more of a bottom with him.

However, I have personally found it a turn off when guys say that they are strictly tops, consistently reminding you of it, and that they will not tolerate any ass touching. I rather be with a guy that is a lot more open to things or at least less abrasive in his desires.

 

[Duhale]

I kind of like the feeling after its done for the 2/3 days afterwords!

I used the back end of a hair brush, it does wonders but the first few times it hurt because i was oh so tight and i tried a banana as well but ... it like became mush!

 

[timnmostud]

I love that you are so frank. That is really cool! I love that you are so honest about your experiences. Like Rican said, you might find someday that you do like it. Until then, CONGRATULATIONS on experimenting! So many guys say they hate something that they never even tried! I'm not sure that would have been my forst choice of vibrator, but I don't know that would have made a difference really, just maybe. For me, toys are fun sometimes but the whole experience is really better with a dick! I mean it's hard to get into it as much with an inanimate object. The smell of a man, the feel of his body, the sweat, all get me in the mood to get fucked. Even then, it takes a lot of foreplay. I like to be rimmed first and if someone is good at it they will play with your hole just teasing it for a while, not trying to get to the last knuckle in you. That seems to relax and at the same time stimulate your asshole. Then with the help of a GOOD lube, just a little finger in there. Working you way up to it with someone you trust is a really important. Then after I am relaxed and trusting I can stretch a bit more for a cock. It is important that the top is intouch with how you are doing too. Like asking if that is okay or feels good, if you want it slower etc. Then it can work beautifully. But, there are guys who never like it. Maybe you are one of those, but I would say if you are that curious and making that much of an attempt, there has to be some part of you that wants it. Do you like your ass played with at all? I mean as in being rimmed or rubbed? Let us know if you make any more progress.

 

[timnmostud]

I tried it because sometimes on a rare ocassion, having a finger can be nice and I like things on the outside like a vibrator and the idea of being rimmed makes me rock hard.

So does that mean that you have not been rimmed? Man! That's the best feeling in the world! And for me at least it is almost needed before penetration.

As far as the whole feeling complete etc. I'm not sure what your friends are talking about, but for me, there actually is an amazing sort of spiritual thing to having someone else actually inside you and you are sort of one with each other. But that of course is with a person. Toys don't do that for me. I really only got inot anal with my partner. It was actually that I wanted HIM in me so much.

Maybe if you have a session with the ball stretcher and cockring which turns you on , you might feel more, um, well, open? (Pun intended.)

But, seriously, it is not something you HAVE to do! I am just glad you are having some fun trying new things. I love your sense of adventure, man! Best of luck to you! Keep us posted if anything changes! (Said with a slightly evil grin!)

 

[luckotheirish]

The vibrator you used looks like it could be painful for your first few times. Something a bit more cylindrical in shape might have given you less pain. With a "bulb" end like that, all the pressure and stretching is concentrated in a smaller area than with a dick or Dildo - especially if you're not loosened up down there.

I was sore the first few times I used a toy, too. And anytime I put something in there, it takes a few minutes before the "OMG" part starts. Sometimes it helps to put it in, leave it in, and work your cock for a while until your used to it. Then you can start moving the toy around.

As you said, you may just not have the wiring or anatomy to enjoy anal. But you might consider trying it a few times with a more life-like toy.

Have fun with whatever you do!

 

[timnmostud]

Ah, the images in my head right now! Seriously, as long as you are enjoying everything, it's all good. Like I said before, you are exploring and that's great. Most men are sure they don't like something and it's usually something that they never even tried. So, now if anyone asks, you can honestly say that you have tried it and it just doesn't do it for you!

 

[Smilez18]

I don't ever feel anything when it comes to playing around with my hole. I first tried a few years ago with my finger, but it hurt like hell and I could barely get a finger in. Thinking that it was just because I hadn't done it before I kept trying, after a few times it didn't hurt anymore but similar to the creator of this thread I didn't really get much satisfaction out of it no matter how deep I went with my finger. I had even gotten rimmed once and it just didn't do anything at all for me, it was just awkward, and the thing with the labels of top, bottom, vers bothers me as well. Most guys usually assume I'm a bottom and end up wanting to fuck me but I always have to say no because I know it'll hurt. I'm not trying to be close minded and unwilling to try new things I just already know that if I could barely take a finger and not really get any pleasure from it to begin with, what's gonna happen with a penis. Also I should probably mention that I may have caused some damage to myself when I was trying to finger myself, I still have cuts that keep opening up, so that's also a reason, but even when I explain that to someone I get treated like I'm being an asshole. Well I should stop, just getting some stuff off my chest, I never really post anything I most likely got a little off the main topic, sorry