Bottoming: Is It All Mental?

[Nomenclature]

I've heard quite a few bottoms say that having a weiner up their butt doesn't actually feel that good in and of itself, but that it's more of a psychological thing; they enjoy bottoming "for the pleasure of the top".


So, what i'm going to ask the bottoms/versatiles here, is: Would you say this is accurate? I have very limited experience in bottoming, and it wasn't that pleasant so far. I'm just wondering if it physically feels good, or if it's more of a "submissive role" thing that you personally get off on.




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[glasvegas]

I think my take is for the pleasure for the top. I have zero sex experience, ill let the experts explain.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

I've heard quite a few bottoms say that having a weiner up their butt doesn't actually feel that good in and of itself, but that it's more of a psychological thing; they enjoy bottoming "for the pleasure of the top".


So, what i'm going to ask the bottoms/versatiles here, is: Would you say this is accurate? I have very limited experience in bottoming, and it wasn't that pleasant so far. I'm just wondering if it physically feels good, or if it's more of a "submissive role" thing that you personally get off on.




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[yummylongsword]

It must be a physically pleasurable thing, I would think, otherwise people wouldn't get off on it so often. But I guess giving BJs isn't really physically pleasurable, but people still love doing it.

I've never ever been able to find my prostate, so I don't know how getting hit there would feel.

 

[ladude2011]

I cant seem to get into it. I really like the idea of being submissive, and i love dick, but the feeling of it isnt pleasureable for me. i also love ass too. It Hurts to bottom, and all that. topping feels better for my cock, but i think bottoming would get me off mentally.

 

[Kester]

I don't really get that much physical pleasure out of bottoming, but what does turn me on is knowing that the guy fucking me is enjoying every second.

That is what turns me on, and makes me love it.

 

[jarf87]

I don't really get that much physical pleasure out of bottoming, but what does turn me on is knowing that the guy fucking me is enjoying every second.

That is what turns me on, and makes me love it.

I concur.

 

[blackbeltninja]

In my experiences bottoming, it has always been extremely physically pleasurable to me after the initial panic of getting him in there.

Perhaps I've just been lucky enough to have 4 guys who knew exactly what they were doing; but I have begun to understand why some guys are exclusive bottoms.

Hands-free orgasms? Yes please!

-d-

 

[MadisonAubie]

I try bottoming one time, and it hurt like Hell. I received no pleasure from it at all, only a severe case of hemorrhoids. I thoroughly enjoy topping, but I'd have to be totally in love with a guy to ever bottom for him.

 

[EJMichaels]

...From what many people have told me, it feels good physically and not just hitting the prostate.

Yes, even if one doesn't have a prostate. (*wonders how much better it would feel*) True, there's a psychological component, too, but it FEELS GOOD. Even the first time if done right.

 

[Wvnudist]

I love being a bottom feeling a cock in my ass love the feeling of the cock going in out of me then feeling the cum in my ass.

 

[mbamike]

I am a lot of things, but "submissive" is NOT one of them. I am equal to the top. I just happen to enjoy being the receptive sex partner.

We both tell one another what feels good and enjoys one another's bodies during a good fuck session. This idea of the bottom being submissive to the top and fulfilling the needs of the top is bullshit in my opinion.

The bottom has needs too. So, both partners can have an enjoyable time and "get off" with some collaboration. BTW, I am an aggressive and loud bottom.

I bottom because it brings me pleasure. I enjoy the feel of a cock stretching my hole, sliding in and out of me, massaging my prostate as I'm getting fucked. I bottom because it physically feels wonderful.

BTW, I rarely feel pain when I'm bottoming. An experienced top knows how to prep the bottom so there is no pain.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

so...is that a thumbs up or thumbs down in regards to bottoming

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[syoBsUtsuJ]

Sadly, my first bottoming experience was with thick 9" cock, lol, pain worse than child-birth, but I was a trooper and endured! I prefer to top, but I do bottom in LTRs. Not to boast, but every bottom I've ever fucked has cummed with just me doing him, and I've always enjoyed and envied that. I can count on three fingers how many times I found bottoming to be okay, and ALMOST pleasurable, but it was over before true enjoyment was achieved, and I didn't complain. lol

 

[bulge]

I cann't even take a pencil up there.

Besides most gay men cann't.

Still, those who can, are overhot about it.

One bottom told me it hurts lots, but it was the very best he knew as it is so overwhelming. The guy overwhelms you with his most manly part right in your most sensitive and most vulnerable part and simply gets his most manly pleasure out of it. It did give him the feeling he was finally able to be a guy's whore after all the stupid "Be a man"-training he underwent. In fact he was quite a man all by himself and indeed - as he said - didn't need al the stupid training as he was more than enough man all by himself. I think it was more mental in his case.

Still , when you see how the anus is build, it seems build to be penetrated especially in men as the male G-spot sits there. Moreover the prostate produces the stuff enabling men to shoot the juice out of cock. So sexually the anus with the power station called prostate is absolute core business in men. So, I often wonder whether bottoming isn't purely physical. I don't know.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anal_sex

There is also prostate massage that's as old as man. History has shown men are in need of long sessions of prostate arousal.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prostate_massage

http://www.checktheprostate.com/prostate-cancer-by-the-numbers/5-reasons-for-a-prostate-massage.html

 

[Jeffs0418]

so...is that a thumbs up or thumbs down in regards to bottoming

That guy is always spouting nonsense. Should be banned.

 

[sixthson]

I think the best sex includes the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.
I love the physical feeling of my man inside me and the heat of his strong body against mine, but it is all intensified by the passion I feel for him in my heart. The fact that he is in my mind and heart makes the lovemaking sweeter and the physical act of sex so much powerful.

So, for me, it is not all mental. But it is not all physical, either.

 

[hotatlboi]

Hell yeah it feels good physically. One of the best feelings in the world to me.

Sometimes I think I'm enjoying it more than the top is.

 

[Nomenclature]

This idea of the bottom being submissive to the top and fulfilling the needs of the top is bullshit in my opinion.

Yeah, it seems like some psychological, BDSM thing. I'm not into dom/sub, or being "used" at all. I just hear so many bottoms say that it doesn't feel good, but they're doing it for the other guy. . .and it just completely turns me off from anal sex; It's like. . .if that's the case, then i'm not even sure if I ever want to try it again. Ya know?

BTW, I rarely feel pain when I'm bottoming. An experienced top knows how to prep the bottom so there is no pain.

Of course. I'm not talking about pain, though. . .i'm just saying that i've spoken to a lot of bottoms who say that anal sex doesn't hurt, but that it doesn't really feel that great, either; that they're doing it because they feel like they have to for the top. That's the part that's a turn-off to me; it doesn't seem worth it, etc.


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Sadly, my first bottoming experience was with thick 9" cock, lol, pain worse than child-birth

How would you know?!

 

[TommyTrojan]

What I think I lot of new bottoms, or people who are afraid to bottom, don't understand is that it's not the same in real life as it is in porn movies--namely, you don't pull the bottom's pants off and then immediately shove your hard cock up his butt.

The key to good bottoming is lots of prep work. Make it part of the foreplay or the sex itself. Start off by rubbing around the hole. Then slowly insert the tip of one finger. Mentally, the bottom needs to relax the anus and just breathe. Use LOTS of lube! Once that feels comfortable, stick the one finger deeper in. Then eventually work your way up to two fingers or more. Play with a small Dildo or other toy. Eventually you will get his hole so relaxed I bet he will be begging for the real thing.

The first few times I tried fingering myself, it hurt like a mother! It slowly got easier. I finally bought a small Dildo but psychologically just wasn't ready to stick anything that big up my butt.

Finally, one night, I just decided to do it. I remember I was watching the Matt Summers gangbang scene at the end of "Detention." I lubed up that Dildo and just went for it.

Oh my god. Words can't even explain the first time. I thought it was going to come out of my belly button, but I didn't want to stop. I just started bouncing up and down on that thing, eventually taking it harder and deeper. My eyes started rolling back in my head, my legs started quivering, and I thought I was going to faint. When I finally came, I EXPLODED! It was the best orgasm I had ever had in my life up to that point. That did it for me and I haven't looked back.

"A weiner up their butt doesn't actually feel that good"?!?!? Um, it's only the most amazing feeling EVER!