Bottoming: Is It All Mental?

[drunkenmoron]

Yeah wtf is the deal in porn where the bottom guy stays soft through the whole thing right up to the end when he has a wank and it's over?

As soon as I think something sexual might have a slight possibility of even happening I'm hard

Maybe it's just me?

 

[Críostóir]

I think that getting fucked is the most intense physical pleasure (if done right) that the male body is capable of experiencing...for more than the few seconds an orgasm lasts. And the orgasm while being fucked is (or can be) mindshatteringly overwhelming.

My own psychological makeup is such that I would rather give that pleasure to another guy than experience it myself...but only if I HAVE to choose. I like both, but I could never give up topping.

I personally enjoy the hell out of it. Sure, part of it is that I'm giving pleasure to the top, but most of it is those times when he slams into my prostate. Best feeling ever.

Topping? Meh. It could be that the guy I topped was pretty loose, but it didn't really do too much for me.

And here we have an example of how a difference of opinion brings people together, instead of separating them! Call me.

It must be a physically pleasurable thing, I would think, otherwise people wouldn't get off on it so often. But I guess giving BJs isn't really physically pleasurable, but people still love doing it.

I've never ever been able to find my prostate, so I don't know how getting hit there would feel.

The pleasure of giving a BJ is different. Has to do with tastes and smells and...well, the feeling of a cock in your mouth is an acquired taste, but one millions have acquired, including me! I'd rather give a blowjob than get one, most times.

As for not being able to find it...the diagram someone posted above should help, but I'm also sure there are plenty of guys around who'd be happy to point it out for you...repeatedly over a period of a couple of hours!

I don't really get that much physical pleasure out of bottoming, but what does turn me on is knowing that the guy fucking me is enjoying every second.

That is what turns me on, and makes me love it.

I concur.

Gentlemen, if you aren't getting physical pleasure out of bottoming, your tops are doin it rong! I swear.

What I think I lot of new bottoms, or people who are afraid to bottom, don't understand is that it's not the same in real life as it is in porn movies--namely, you don't pull the bottom's pants off and then immediately shove your hard cock up his butt.

The key to good bottoming is lots of prep work. Make it part of the foreplay or the sex itself. Start off by rubbing around the hole. Then slowly insert the tip of one finger. Mentally, the bottom needs to relax the anus and just breathe. Use LOTS of lube! Once that feels comfortable, stick the one finger deeper in. Then eventually work your way up to two fingers or more. Play with a small dildo or other toy. Eventually you will get his hole so relaxed I bet he will be begging for the real thing.

The first few times I tried fingering myself, it hurt like a mother! It slowly got easier. I finally bought a small dildo but psychologically just wasn't ready to stick anything that big up my butt.

Finally, one night, I just decided to do it. I remember I was watching the Matt Summers gangbang scene at the end of "Detention." I lubed up that dildo and just went for it.

Oh my god. Words can't even explain the first time. I thought it was going to come out of my belly button, but I didn't want to stop. I just started bouncing up and down on that thing, eventually taking it harder and deeper. My eyes started rolling back in my head, my legs started quivering, and I thought I was going to faint. When I finally came, I EXPLODED! It was the best orgasm I had ever had in my life up to that point. That did it for me and I haven't looked back.

"A weiner up their butt doesn't actually feel that good"?!?!? Um, it's only the most amazing feeling EVER!

Hear, hear! Bravo!

 

[AlmondMilk]

I like feeling submissive, but I also like the feeling while bottoming. I mean, when a top is able to make me cum without me touching myself, I have to disagree and say that having something up there does feel good.

 

[Nomenclature]

"A weiner up their butt doesn't actually feel that good"?!?!? Um, it's only the most amazing feeling EVER!

Well, that's a little more encouraging.



Anyone here with a small penis and a few hours to kill? lol

 

[Latimer]

IT FEELS GREAT! And orgasms with a big dick up my ass are the best orgasms imaginable!

 

[yummylongsword]

Yummy,
Here is the location of the prostate. Now you know ;-)

I know where is should be in theory. But poking around in there, there's too many bits and pieces to feel when I hit it with my finger, and I certainly haven't felt some insanely amazing sensation like so many people describe. So I'm hoping I just haven't been able to find it for some reason, not that I have found it and I didn't feel anything.

But I don't mess around with my ass that often, I don't like it. It doesn't hurt necessarily, but it feels like I'm taking a shit and I feel really gross and dirty (not in a psychological way, literally dirty).

 

[yummylongsword]

Um... why do you feel literally dirty? If you're clean, there is no reason you should feel "literally dirty" playing with your ass

No one is really clean down there unless they take an enema (I haven't done that, it's too difficult to get, a big hassle). Yes, if you eat the right way for days ahead you can probably help clean yourself out, but it depends on your digestive system, and you still won't be 100% clean.

 

[blackbeltninja]

As soon as I think something sexual might have a slight possibility of even happening I'm hard

Maybe it's just me?

Nope, it's not just you. The mister just has to smile at me and I'm at attention.

-d-

 

[MisterMajestic]

I've heard quite a few bottoms say that having a weiner up their butt doesn't actually feel that good in and of itself, but that it's more of a psychological thing; they enjoy bottoming "for the pleasure of the top".


So, what i'm going to ask the bottoms/versatiles here, is: Would you say this is accurate? I have very limited experience in bottoming, and it wasn't that pleasant so far. I'm just wondering if it physically feels good, or if it's more of a "submissive role" thing that you personally get off on.

I'm AMAZED after reading the comments made by the Guys in this thread that not ONE really talked about how much they have sex...

If you have a Partner then "bottoming" is going to feel wonderful the Majority of the time because you do it on the regular...Case closed...

If you're SINGLE and get laid every-blue-moon then it's gonna hurt or feel uncomfortable at times...When a Guy knows you're not use to getting Fucked often, hopefully he has enough patience in the bedroom to go slow so you both can enjoy that awesome Friction of his Dick pumping in & out oF your Tight Hole...Hello somebody.......


This is plain Common-sense...

well I have zero sexual experience but I think it physically feels good for some people otherwise guys wouldn't be sticking dildos up their butts.

unless you think you're giving pleasure to an inanimate sex toy lulz

Once you start dating and develop a healthy sex life then and only then will you understand Topping, Bottoming & Sex toys...

 

[drunkenmoron]

Nope, it's not just you. The mister just has to smile at me and I'm at attention.

-d-

Haha, glad I'm not alone

 

[frankfrank]

I'm one of those rarer guys who doesn't have an erogenous zone at my prostate. I never got that "thrill" when being fucked (years, YEARS ago), and the quick prostate exam part of my yearly physical has never produced anything but entirely sexually-neutral feelings. There is only a vague "maybe wanting to pee" sensation when I have that done.

 

[bulge]

If most men cant, who are they doing it with?

Hands, mouth, pits, between thighs, feet, artificial vagina,... you name it.

 

[bulge]

I'm AMAZED after reading the comments made by the Guys in this thread that not ONE really talked about how much they have sex...

If you have a Partner then "bottoming" is going to feel wonderful the Majority of the time because you do it on the regular...Case closed...

If you're SINGLE and get laid every-blue-moon then it's gonna hurt or feel uncomfortable at times...When a Guy knows you're not use to getting Fucked often, hopefully he has enough patience in the bedroom to go slow so you both can enjoy that awesome Friction of his Dick pumping in & out oF your Tight Hole...Hello somebody.......


This is plain Common-sense...






Once you start dating and develop a healthy sex life then and only then will you understand Topping, Bottoming & Sex toys...

I often heard regular with same pertner is the key word to no pain. Finally the auto matic tuning in gets so intense there is no pain whatsever.

 

[Nomenclature]

No one is really clean down there unless they take an enema (I haven't done that, it's too difficult to get, a big hassle). Yes, if you eat the right way for days ahead you can probably help clean yourself out, but it depends on your digestive system, and you still won't be 100% clean.

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I'm AMAZED after reading the comments made by the Guys in this thread that not ONE really talked about how much they have sex...

If you have a Partner then "bottoming" is going to feel wonderful the Majority of the time because you do it on the regular...Case closed...

If you're SINGLE and get laid every-blue-moon then it's gonna hurt or feel uncomfortable at times...When a Guy knows you're not use to getting Fucked often, hopefully he has enough patience in the bedroom to go slow so you both can enjoy that awesome Friction of his Dick pumping in & out oF your Tight Hole...Hello somebody.......

Yes, you do have a good point there. . .but again, i'm not talking about pain, or discomfort. I'm just saying that i've spoken to experienced bottoms who say that they've never really felt that much physical pleasure from it, but that they get off on it because they basically have a sub fetish. I was wondering if that was true of all bottoms, so I wanted to ask all the bottoms or versatiles here.



Just bumping to get more thoughts from all y'all.

 

[kevbo]

No I love bottoming. If it was purely mental, I wouldn't enjoy getting fingered, but I do.

Want to test it out, Nome?

 

[yummylongsword]

If you're in the shower and playing up there.. i dont see what the problem is.

I think you're feeling dirty is more mental than physical

Well, I guess it's mental in the sense that I'm aware that getting crap on my fingers isn't gonna kill me... I just really dislike it.

But it is literal in the sense that when you stick your fingers up your ass, unless you give yourself a hell of an enema, there will always be shit on your fingers, it's just a fact.

 

[Críostóir]

Well, I guess it's mental in the sense that I'm aware that getting crap on my fingers isn't gonna kill me... I just really dislike it.

But it is literal in the sense that when you stick your fingers up your ass, unless you give yourself a hell of an enema, there will always be shit on your fingers, it's just a fact.

Actually if you eat fewer carbs, the shit won't be as goopy, so it won't come off on your hands. Besides, the rectum doesn't particularly get dirty, because of the way the whole process works.

But you can get a water bulb with an insertable tip. A thorough water enema will get you plenty clean.

 

[Nomenclature]

Good thing I am versatile because otherwise I'd be fucked.

I see what you did there.


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No I love bottoming. If it was purely mental, I wouldn't enjoy getting fingered, but I do.

Want to test it out, Nome?

Okay, i'll meet you in the tool shed in one hour. Bring the ball gag and popsicle sticks; i'll bring the whipped cream.