Bottoming

[wrestlingobsessed]

I cant bottom. I find it really sore. Its like a knife going through me. Is there something wrong with me or has anyone else had this problem. Ive probably lost a hot guy over this. please Help.

 

[Dutch182]

Not everyone can be a bottom, but when your our with the right guy and your relaxed, you can open your legs with a little fore play, licking and sucking on that sweet hole with a couple of deep breathes he maybe able enter the inner you.

 

[cklover]

Feeling comfortable and not tensing up is the key to getting pleasure out of bottoming. Have your guy lube you up a lot and also loosen you up before he penetrates you. When he enters you have him go slow so that you can adjust to his cock. Also try pushing his cock out with your muscles and then relaxing your muscles so that he can slide in further a little bit at a time.

Of course none of this will help if your guy isn't considerate and just rams his dick into you without any thought for you.

 

[Lukeee]

Ive probably lost a hot guy over this.

You can't do it because you are doing it with the wrong person. If you want to bottom find someone who will take it nice and slow who you can talk to. He won't know how you are feeling unless you tell him. There are already many threads with tips on relaxing and loosening up, look for them.

 

[racer2438]

Pleant of relaxing, lube, foreplay with fingers, maybe a shot or two of your fav drink, dont so worried about it.

just relax, and if he is to ruff then stop him as he does know how to fuck good..

 

[Edward Twinkletoes]

I cant bottom. I find it really sore. Its like a knife going through me. Is there something wrong with me or has anyone else had this problem. Ive probably lost a hot guy over this. please Help.

Maybe you just weren't meant to. Some people just don't like the way it feels. I wouldn't say it's painful but it's a very unique feeling.

Have you always wanted to bottom or are you trying to do it because you feel it's expected of you? I've found that people who aren't really psychologically into bottoming are more likely to find it unpleasant.

 

[KaraBulut]

Well, let's start with finding out what you're doing / not doing.

Are you playing with toys on your own to prep for when you're with another guy?

Are you and your partner using lots of foreplay and anal prep to get you ready?

Does it hurt the whole time you're getting fucked or just part of the time?

Is the painful sensation a stabbing pain or more like stretching/burning pain?

 

[wrestlingobsessed]

Once it enters me i nearly have to scream, i get a stomach pain as well.

 

[Daximus]

Buy some toys of various sizes and use them to loosen yourself up down there. Otherwise you're such a 'tight ass' that you'll just have to accept that your body doesn't want cock down there.

 

[thewiz]

I can empathize with you. When I was 18, the guy I had played with for six years was at my apartment and we were making out. We decided to go all the way to anal and he spit, I put up my legs, and he slammed it in. My God, I thought he had a baseball bat and was ramming it in my hole! I think I screamed out for him to cum; he thought it was hot and (luckily) did!

When I came out four years ago the thought was still fresh in my mind when I met Frank in Chicago on my "coming out" weekend. Frank and I kissed, we sucked, we 69'd. Frank rolled me on my stomach and began to eat my ass. He rimmed me for what seemed like forever, getting me on all fours and licking and eating away. My god it felt great!

He began sliding his finger in and out and was hitting right on the prostate. Before I knew what was happening I asked him to fuck me! He laughed and said, "I thought you were a total top?" I moaned that i was ready for change! Haha!

He slid it in very gently and fortunately wasn't huge. He went very gently and ultimately had me laying on my stomach and was fucking me. When he put me on my back with my legs up, I shot my load on my chest. He came as well.

The next few times it hurt but each time was a little less painful. A lot depends on prepping, the guy going slow, and relaxing. I soon found myself with a very large guy....Roger was a dancer, a porn star, and had to stretch the magnum XL to get it on. I was sweating profusely and it wasn't from foreplay!

He had me get doggie style and gently put it in, pulled it out, put it in, out and did so a number of times. He then slowly put it in and could feel when I would relax (he taught me quite well I'm told since I've used it on other guys). All of a sudden I felt his balls on my ass and I remember being surprised and asking if it was all the way in. He chuckled and said it was.

Roger and I had some of the best sex -- I have to say that large dicks do not always hurt and small ones many times do!

Relax, foreplay, gentle, knowing your partner, making your partner comfortable....those are all key....